I'm 29 and I have recently been spinning plates, one of my plates just check mated me this way.
- She asked me if I was seeing other people. My response: "why do you wanna know that?" and changed the subject
- She confirmed it through a text message I got (rookie mistake)
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Few days after that, after sex, she told me that if I am fucking other girls she wanted me to use a condom, eventhough I use them with other people 'cause she's a little bit grossed by it. My response: "alright"
- Bonus shit test: as I wasn't speaking and I let out I liked her a lot, she said: "I think you are afraid of falling in love with me". I didn't say anything because the question seemed absurd to me, but then she said:"stop ignoring me and answer it", I laughed because I wasn't able to dodge the bullet so my response was:"I don't want to talk about it, who gives a fuck?" she kinda got mad after that.
So, I'm not sure if I'm reading correctly the conversations here but I think she wants a relationship or at least be exclusive which I don't want at the moment. So if I use a condom and she knows I'm seeing other people, would she back out on trying to be exclusive? Any ideas?
redhawkes 2 6y ago
Translated from womanese:
"I caught the feels for you, but I don't want to be rejected so I'll shit test the fuck of you to confirm."
The other thing with the condom was just to be sure that you are not seeing anyone else but her.
A simple "yea, I can't even think about that", and change the subject could have done the job.
Anyways, plates break. On to the next one.
johncillo 6y ago
So in womanese how do I translate: “I am only seeing you” that was another detail I forgot to put up there.
redhawkes 2 6y ago
provide some context, anyways you know she wants commitment from you.
johncillo 6y ago
Context: when receiving the checkmate with the condom, this is what she actually said: “I don’t know if you are seeing other people, but if you are, please put on a condom with me ‘cause I’m a little bit grossed by it”, I said nothing then she added “because I am only seeing you”
redhawkes 2 6y ago
yea, guilt trip and emotionally manipulating you cos you fuck other hoes and she wants commitment.
Keep banging until it breaks.
It's easy to understand what they say dude, instead of analyzing the data, pay attention on the context. It takes practice tho.
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johncillo 6y ago
Thanks man, I really appreciate it
vandaalen 6y ago
Soft-next for creating unnecessary drama. Seven days.
BurnieSlander 6y ago
I’m kind of sick of the “advice” which suggests changing the subject or ignoring the situation. Avoidant behavior is beta as fuck, and many proclaimed red pillers will let a perfectly good plate go simply because they don’t want to face the situation.
honestly it doesn’t sound like this girl is being unreasonable. it seems like you haven’t done a very good job of setting expectations up front which is why you’re getting questions and shit tests.
be direct and clear with your intentions. She may not agree, but she will respect you for it. overall it just makes things much easier
redhawkes 2 6y ago
Woe be the man who plays it straight and haven't read the fucking sidebar — his fate is the suffering of the beta.
johncillo 6y ago
Yes, I was thinking that ambiguity will feed women’s hamstering rather than being straight, it is better for her to create the story rather revealing everything at once. On the other hand she and I agreed just to fuck, so the one who wants more now is her.