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Skylights1000 5y ago
The red pill nofap is jacking off once a week. That way you maintain max T levels and always hungry for women 24/7
its_meKnightSwolaire 5y ago
He probably jerked off right after reading this comment ????
AwkwardEmpath 5y ago
Lol
dongpal 5y ago
funny how there is only one old chinese study and every body quotes the results for fucking DECADES. it didnt test for a long period of time, and what happens if you fap every 4th day? or 10th? and what if you go nofap for a month after binge fapping? or without? what if you still look at porn? drives me nuts seeing people think its only 7 days for the only positive effect
Skylights1000 5y ago
Noones forcing you to follow the 7 day rule. You can experiment it for yourself.
dongpal 5y ago
Im not saying you are forcing me but the shitty 7 day rule is always taken as the only way to get the testosterone spike and the only useful thing. And if you think it can be useful in any other way people tell you are stupid and nofap is useless.
and with " The red pill nofap is" you act like you speak for the whole community
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InterdisciplinaryChi 5y ago
Also, that’s fapping without porn. Porn fucks you up mentally.
cirrusice 5y ago
Does glamour models count as porn?
Terminal-Psychosis 5y ago
what a crock of shit.
There's as much science as there is behind the nofap garbage: None.
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You’re right. I was a porn addict before and dismissed such statements then but now I cannot deny them.
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Tell me more.
dongpal 5y ago
test it
TehJimmyy 5y ago
My goal now isnt women , is this still worth it ? I am 20 and fap to porn once the other day average.
Skylights1000 5y ago
What is your goal?
TehJimmyy 5y ago
I am graduating as a computer engineer and plan on getting my diploma so i can make my own money and start being indepedent from my family.
As of now i am lifting about 2 years but still my lifting numbers are not the best so i am increasing those and getting my body fat lower ( eating healthy ).
I have zero close friends(only acquaintances) and i am still in search to get a social circle first and maybe stop video gaming that much.
I am starting saving up to buy my own first car since i got my drivers license.
I suffer from social anxiety and mild depression so maybe a therapist might be the key for me pretty soon.
I dont think i am in way/mood to attract any woman now. I also feel zero drive towards them.
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TehJimmyy 5y ago
I can fap 3 times a day and stil wake up with morning boners. Isnt that a healthy sign ? I think its more porn related but still women are not my priority right now.
Skylights1000 5y ago
I’m assuming you’re about 21. How old are you and what’s your weight and BFP?
Do you feel any attraction at all towards women? Has it always been like this?
Edit: Just saw you’re 20 scratch that
TehJimmyy 5y ago
I do but only when i am like 2-3+ days nofap or i go to gym and lift hard and watching those booty chicks.Now i kinda got a little overweight . I used to be 74 kg 18% bf last summer now i am 83kg at 6 feet and around 24%.
Skylights1000 5y ago
Friend once you’re fit and lookin good most your problems go away magically. My advice to you is to bulk to 93 kg. It’s vital you’re lifting heavy at least 3 days of the week. If you need a plan I got you. After your bulk you need to cut to 88 kg. And bounce between those two weights. You’ll end up looking like a beast.
These aren’t random numbers either. Also I would recommend bulk first because someone in a skinny fat status like you would benefit more gaining musclemass in the long run. Make sure to get your protein and lift and 7 hours of sleep minimums. It’s not hard, you just want to have it bad enough
TehJimmyy 5y ago
Where are those numbers from ? I dont consider myself skinny fat. I have seen worse and have visible muscle size.
Whats the point of bulking more fat for a bit amount of muscle ? I already have a tiny belly fat (gut) and i look kinda fat for my height.Looking to cut back at 80 atleast. I am doing PHUL by the way.
Skylights1000 5y ago
Symmetric strength has a calculator for the maximum weight you can be with the desired goal sizes. 10-15% cut/bulk is the general rule of thumb. The idea is to get as big as you can within that BFP. You’ll look like a hunk. You shouldn’t see it as “bulking more fat”, but using this bulk phase to get more strength. I guarantee after your bulk and cut, you’ll be looking like a king compared to yourself now. And a bulk/cut after that you’ll look like a god
TehJimmyy 5y ago
So you recommend bulking to 93kg around 30 % bf and then bulk/cut till BF goes around 15 because it says so in the calculator.I may start doing stronglifts again or go for jim wendler's triumvirate(never done it). What about hypertrophy tho ?
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vandaalen 5y ago
If it itches between your legs, just scratch.
it_takes_the_redpill 5y ago
I've been thinking about this lately. Most guys don't seem to have a problem with masturbation. There's a high codependency on porn associated with feeling the need to do NoFap.
My theory is they're addicted to the dopamine. Same as in "sex addiction". I would even lump oneitis into this category as a form of masturbation. Mental masturbation, but picturing this perfect life with your perfect girl and all the perfect sex etc. is definitely releasing happy brain juice. I'm beginning to believe that "can't imagine anyone else, can't live without her" stuff is the same as compulsory masturbation.
Or even the reason incel people like to complain about it endlessly. They claim to have accepted their lot, but bitch constantly. I think by reaffirming they have no hope they are getting "then it's okay not to try; it's not your fault" signals that make them feel better about their condition (even though they're clearly miserable).
Both unhelathy dopamine addictions. So for you and me masturbation is just fine. But for an addict or recovering one, it's not a good idea.
I'm "recovering" from serial oneitis in my bluepilled days. To prevent the possibility of letting it happen again I'm not really talking to girls I'm attracted to that I know I can't/shouldn't pursue (such as at work). For most normal people it's totally fine for them to casually flirt with chicks and get to know them, but for me it's progen to be poison time and again. So until I break that daydreaming habit (fully internalize the new outlook and train my brain to stop seeking those pleasure spikes) I don't let myself.
vandaalen 5y ago
For your oneitis problem:
http://archive.is/agtCP
http://archive.is/FaeIe
As for the rest: Porn addiction is real, but as with every addiction, it is not the root of the problem. I do agree with you that going cold turkey on porn is the best option, however I don't think that masturbating in your bed with closed eyes to your fantasies will in any way increase the risk of falling back to porn. Quite to the contrary I would say that it's the same as what vaping is to smoking. It helps you to get over the really bad stuff. I personally would say if you beat it six times day to your head cinema it is still a million times better than doing it to HD porn and it will gradually get less.
Many of the religious no-fapers are guys who are just looking for quick fixes to their life problems though. They think that just by retaining your semen, you will overcome obstacles in your life and that it will make you are more masculine and better man.
I say that the no fap horseshit is nothing more than just the continuation of the shaming of male sexuality which has been going on for thousands of years at the very least. Fuck dat shit. Don't feel bad for doing something that makes you feel good, allows you to free your head for important things and which does not harm yourself or others.
As I already said: It's just like getting rid of an itch. As you progress in your adventure to becoming the best possible version of yourself, thr urge will vanish anyways, but even with three plates I have to rub one out frequently. Especially since I am on TRT...
it_takes_the_redpill 5y ago
That first article is more my speed and holy fuck is it a good one. Long read, but worth every minute. Really fleshes out my half baked theory without the need to explain the exact chemical mechanism, but also explodes way beyond the scope of the narrow issue of thinking about them too much.
I'm banging my third chick this weekend since I got caught by hopefully my last oneitis, but now I see the benefit of socializing a bit more outside of what I currently do.
100% agree taking a deposit from the mental yank bank is the way to go. Why I always try not to go TOO long without a new partner to provide fresh content, but whenever I failed to do that oneitis would rear it's head (obviously back-applying these terms, was totally BP until some months ago.)
Yeah sometimes I forget that they believe it will give you superpowers, and a lot of them actually think that the act of masturbation is immoral or something. Seems like 2 groups under the same umbrella. One that seeks it as a possible solution for porn recovery (though it might not be the best solution), and the other that seems to think it's the answer to all problems in life.
Fuck man that's scary. I have a high drive right now and I suspect I might be on the low range of healthy T. (Though I really need to go have my levels checked.) My dream is to find at least one good chick that actually enjoys giving blowjobs without the need to ask.
Really appreciate the links. I've definitely read some stuff about oneitis from the practical perspective of strategy (i.e. how do I game/deal with this one girl) but significantly less on the theory of why it happens. The standard advice of "bang 10 chicks" is actually effective, and I use it, but it helps knowing why. (All the stuff that goes into getting myself back to the point where I can bang 10 chicks is touched on in those articles.) Now that I see the mechanism, just like with shit tests and the like, I suspect it will be easier not to backslide.
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Stop counting the days.
tranquilschizo 5y ago
As Skylights1000 and InterdisciplinaryChi said, you can jack off once a week but do not do it to porn. I personally jack off every 1-2 weeks and feel just as good as when I didn't jack off for months. Depending on my mood, I either use my imagination or I get a girl to send a nude.
TehJimmyy 5y ago
Using porn once a week never works i guess. It lures you into more
Terminal-Psychosis 5y ago
TRP is not a help group for sexual deviants that can't keep their hands off their dicks for more than 10 min.
Take this shit back to the freaks at /nofap where it belongs.
The__Tren__Train 5y ago
NOFAP is pure bullshit lol... if u want to have a wank, have a wank.
it becomes a problem when you're one of those guys who spends hours watching porn every day... looking for that perfect wank.
rub one out and move on with it.
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Masturbation is the epitome of betaness.