Not my daughter, but daughter of a friend, even with a restraining order, will not stop being around old abusive criminal boyfriend. She wants me to surveil her at midnight after work, but I'd rather just fucking "shove the bone back into place" if you know what I mean. How do you fix this bitch or is there any fixing at all?
Edit: and you know single mom, all that
Ricklogical 5y ago
If you aren't getting paid man there is really no reason to handle this yourself and if it is an ongoing problem and you don't have the confidence with a solution already you should leave it to someone who does.
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Maybe a Private Eye can help put the criminal in jail for his crimes. It is very difficult to stop something like this. I would leave it the fuck alone.
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Lmao no doubt. I am getting paid to follow her.
jay_jay_man 5y ago
Curious, how much you getting paid?
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Not yet discussed. Would not accept less than $75 per hour.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
IOW, nothing.
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Lmao
The__Tren__Train 5y ago
the woman is trying to remove agency and accountability by putting the onus on you to take care of her daughter.
fuck that.
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Yeah I'mma tell her removing her ain't gonna do shit and she will just find another criminal or go back to that one.
fnordsnord 5y ago
deleted ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^0.1717 ^^^What ^^^is ^^^this?
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Or not...
Rosace_89 5y ago
Would there be any way to make the criminal boyfriend lose all or part of his "alpha" status ?
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Are you telling me to dress him up as a lady?
fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- 5y ago
White knights get no sex and, if they’re really unlucky, they get killed by the guy they were “protecting” the girl from. There’s no winning scenario here for you.
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Yo I don't want to fuck this girl. This lady is asking me to follow this girl for payment by my mother. I am just fucking tired of people not getting to the CORE PROBLEM. The core problem is obviously that this girl has no idea what a better option is or doesn't think she can get one or something. I'm only asking if anyone here has found the solution, IF THERE IS ONE, to getting a woman back on track.
Red90210 5y ago
TRP sidebar would say she would branch swing if a better alpha prospect came along. So that would be a possible solution- introduce her to a better alpha that might be interested
[deleted] 5y ago
Why solve this problem, because then you don't get paid to follow her... You can't tell a daughter/woman "NO" without her rebelling. Chicks don't always do overt. YOu need to be covert.
The solution was already provided before, but you didn't get it. YOu have to diminish him in her mind. Covertly talk him down indirectly by recounting stories of guys like him that make him less "alpha" to her. Get her peer group to hate on him as well. Use hypergamy and the herd mentality of women. This is some basic RP stuff if you read the side-bar....
ChadFromColumbus 5y ago
The core problem here is that you are a white knight. Knock it off. Nothing positive can come to youbfrim this.
fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- 5y ago
You do realize what sub this is, right? And you’re shocked the girl would want to suck off the criminal?
hbss 5y ago
Please read carefully.
Some people rather being in trouble everyday than changing. There’s really nothing u can do to fix that. Forget it.
You should learn to pick ur battles and this could end badly for you without any possible good outcome.
Take care
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Thank you sir! That was a good answer! I didn't do it.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
LOL, you give the facts out one at a time, then piss and moan because nobody gets to the CORE PROBLEM!
Plus your writing skill sucks.
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Lmao
jay_jay_man 5y ago
The only way this is remotely worth doing is if this girl is underage and he's older than her by more than 3 years.
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Yeah that's most definitely not the situation.
jay_jay_man 5y ago
So let me get this straight, two adults are choosing to see each other. This female crawls back to her dominant boyfriend, get's dicked down, maybe a black eye or two in the process and it's your task to follow this little precious snowflake while nature takes its course?
There must be some detail missing. Is she a drug addict trying to stay clean and he's her dealer? Pimp? Or is it just a case of her mom disliking her badboy boyfriend?
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Oh yeah well he beats her/has beaten her. Of course the mother detests him. She is "insecure" they call it. But we call it "nature". I mean it is nature but they do not see it that way. They see it as she is a special snowflake who just doesn't understand herself. Which is kinda sorta true.
jay_jay_man 5y ago
Understand that it's not your circus and these aren't your monkey's You can't fix this bitch and they aren't asking you to fix this bitch either. They're offering you a job. If you want to score some extra cash, do the job.
Collect the money upfront. You say $75 /hr, don't do that. Just collect $200 upfront per night and follow the bitch for an hour or two. Never do the job unless the money or at least half of it is in your pockets.
If you do the job, it'd be smart to carry a camera that can take pics of them together or at the location and had them over once you collect the rest of your cash if they hold out on you.
col_carillo 5y ago
Depends on your relationship with the girl. If you've always been the "cool uncle" that she grew up with and respects and trusts, then you might be able to convince her this guy is bad news.
OTOH, if you're just a friend of her mom's and she doesn't really think of you as anything other than that, then following her around and giving her dating advice is going to come off creepy and pervy.
IMHO, if you're just doing it for the money, don't do it. If you fail and the daughter keeps dating this guy, or god forbid ends up in the hospital or something, your friend will blame you for not "protecting" her and it will permanently ruin your friendship. She's looking to unload her own responsibility for raising and protecting her daughter onto you, and that shit is not worth 200 bucks.
OTOH, if you've known this girl all her life and genuinely feel an obligation to help her out, then take the risk and do it. Real men protect the ones they love. But your success will depend almost entirely on the nature of your relationship with this girl. At the very least, even if you can't convince her to stop, tell her you'll stop intruding into her private life, but that you're available at any time, any where, no questions asked, one phone call away, to pick her up or help her out if she ever needs it. And then hope she calls before she gets killed. Sometimes that's all you can do.
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trashcatcher489 5y ago
Actually what you're doing is going to make it even worse.
She'll find out that her mom is having some orbiter (you) following her out of concern about this guy. She'll think her mom is jealous, she'll think that you're weak as fuck, and it'll reinforce the other guy being strong and desirable. The fact that everyone is preventing her from seeing this guy makes him more desirable, it only adds to his value.
Best solution I would see is the mom inviting the criminal over and implying serious commitment with the daughter. "So who's going to pay for the house and the wedding" etc. That might scare him off.
Getting you involved will only make it worse no matter how it pans out, you don't have a chance with her, and it's not your problem.
ChadFromColumbus 5y ago
Jesus Christ dude. You are white knighting for two women, the mom (your “friend”) and her trash daughter. Find some dignity dude. None of this is your problem. Stop being a pathetic white knight.
Why the fuck do you even care about either of them?
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Look bro I'm just wondering if anyone has fucking figured out whether or not you can REORIENT the expectations of a man in an adult female. Fucking give me a yes or no.
cenie 5y ago
Not your problem.
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Yeah I guess so. I am just tired of people being pussies and not caring about solving the core issue. It's very annoying and takes up entirely too much time.
cenie 5y ago
The issue is that she is being a dumb ass and there is nothing anyone else can do to fix that beside her. Stop stressing over someone else's stupidity.
Red90210 5y ago
I don’t think you can stop her. But you could let her know that you are there if she needs you. That you are willing to come pick her up anywhere or anytime if she (when she) gets in trouble. Maybe say that you don’t recommend what she’s doing but that you won’t try to stop her, but you want her to know that you care.
_thechinaman_ 5y ago
Wow.
[deleted] 5y ago
This is a Donkey issue.