Ok maybe you guys can help, because I've failed to read this particular situation:
I am 29, I have been on redpill for a year, 4 months ago I started dating a 19 year old HB8.5, I was spinning plates and all good. Somehow, I got into her a lot and decided to jump into an LTR with her, I broke frame and told her, to which she said NO, according to her she wanted to see other guys. 4 weeks later she ended up the whole thing.
Now, I keep seeing her, because we are in a group together, I have kept my red pill ways which are what attracted her in the beginning, I have not given her attention in anyways and it looks like we interact with each other similar to when we met.
So here is my question, in order to fuck her again I might need to game her again? Because even if I show alphaness in the group, adamant frame and pre-selection it looks like the interest is lost. But if I kind of chase her, I think it would look weak. I am just asking because the theory says she should be really into me again but she is not, so I am kind of confused.
tl;dr: attracted a girl with red pill ways, I broke frame and now she is not interested even if I show same red pill attitude
Side note: I am spinning plates and I don’t want the girl back, it’s just a rethoric question to understand better the redpill theory
Edit: corrected some typos
[deleted] 5y ago
The answer to your question is pursue a different girl
talexanderc 5y ago
Sounds like some oneitis. Find some other girls. Abundance is key. Feelings suck, got to try and avoid those
LogicalWinner 5y ago
You're almost 30 years old, why are you trying to LTR a 19 year old? That shit sounds like a god damn headache.
Nothing about this reads redpill to me.
friendandadvisor 5y ago
No, the theory says that RP ways are 'attraction traits', not a magic wand. There are other factors at play.
You fucked yourself so completely, that you are going to have to come up with a fucking LOT of SMV to dig yourself out of this hole.
it_takes_the_redpill 5y ago
Don't lie to yourself. Also, don't lie to us or we can't give you the right advice. You clearly want her back if there is a way. You're asking us to show it to you.
The right advice is, don't play; you're clearly caught up on her if you're here posting about her. At least admit what you want.
johncillo 5y ago
I will admit I don’t want her, that is what I know, whether you believe me or not is not my problem.
wawakaka 5y ago
this girl won the game bro...
she knows all your secrets and has you pegged...in her mind you will never change that so its time to move on.
no matter how alpha you get she will also see right through it.
she is your kryptonite from now on so stay away.
if she wants you back she will contact you but she knows she got you.
johncillo 5y ago
Thanks man
aaaGreg 5y ago
Ghost and move forward
[deleted] 5y ago
Fuck her mom
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talexanderc 5y ago
He's right you know
johncillo 5y ago
Or her dog, that will show her
GrandmasterHurricane 5y ago
Move on you dude. Just nove on. Youre too hung up on this one chick. You sound weak and pathetic
boy_named_su 5y ago
It's her job to ask you for an LTR, not yours
Also she's 19, so she's unlikely to want to be in an LTR
Consider it a lesson, and find someone else. Remove her from your life
johncillo 5y ago
Noted, removed, thanks
909throwaway100 5y ago
You are not displaying true abundance attitude.
The key to avoiding this in the future, never ask for an LTR. You know the mistake you made, you went with your heart instead of your head.
Act like you just want to be plates/fuckbuddies forever and force her to tell you that she likes you as more than that, not the other way around.
Maybe if she saw other girls interested in you in person she might come crawling back BUT The whole point of plate theory is once they break you sweep it aside and go find a new unbroken one. Harsh truth but a truth none-the-less.
dr_pavel_im_cia_ 5y ago
you're not attractive enough
TheStumblingWolf 5y ago
You're showing no outcome independence which is extremely non-red pill. Stop caring and do other stuff. In fact, trying to control someone else like that is very beta.
downvotesanimals 5y ago
Can't please everyone, bud.
abudun79 5y ago
Reading RP material/sidebar and understanding the concepts are two different things. Not to speak of implementing anything successfully.
You showed her that you were faking it. And if she is stupid enough to bite the same bait twice in a row, I would not spend time with her.
Keep working on that and forget that girl/scenario.
johncillo 5y ago
Thanks man, you got to the point, one thing is to read the theory and other to implement it
abudun79 5y ago
It also helps to re-read a bunch of stuff from time to time. Things start to make sense in a way you did not miss before. If you maintain a critical mind, you oppose to a lot that you read in the beginning. But over time you experience things through a new found perspective and re-reading connects some things you were not aware of.
arcwhy 5y ago
Red pill isn’t a magic pill that makes every girl want to fuck you...
IMO everyone gets one chance with someone in life, due to timing/ mindset etc
In any case, move on and worry about improving and other interests
creating_my_life 5y ago
I missed the "red pill attitude" in your story. I saw oneities, lack of abundance, lack of outcome independence, pedastalizing, lack of frame.
There isn't a single part of the "theory" that "says she should be really into me again." You need to go back and keep reading.
And take pride in your spelling and communications. If this was a resume I would have just put it in the "no" pile.
You still don't know what Alpha is, either.
it_takes_the_redpill 5y ago
He keeps insisting he doesn't want her back. I call bullshit. What do you think?
johncillo 5y ago
Maybe I didn’t explain correctly but I don’t want that chick back, it was meant like a debate starter in order to understand a little bit more about the theory and what happens when you break frame or do something wrong and what should be the method to apply. As a redditor commented above, there is nothing left to do but thinking about “she is not yours, it’s just your turn”