Hey guys, help me out here. (Sorry for english mistakes)
Me (22) and my girlfriend (24) ended up sometime because of religion. So we worked it out and tried again. But she was not invited to my sister's wedding (it was like 6 months later), so on the weeding day she and her mother went to a nearby town and slept in the house of friends, they have one 22 years old soon. But her mother left with some commitment and she stayed the weekend. They left for a dance with a group of friends, she said nothing happened. But I can not stop thinking about it, and I do not think she would ever admit it.
And writing this just make me feel even more pathetic...
Should i just leave her? How can i make her confess? She has never done anything like it, but i don't know, AWALT, right...? Or should i give her a chance and work on myself to let this go? She is a good girlfriend we we're both virgins when we started.
Edit: I don't know if this should count but we have a planned trip for Europe 12/12/2017.
GreenPiller 6y ago
Its impossible to know, it doesn't warrant a breakup yet. One thing is for sure, there will be a lot of problems in the future if you don't work on your mindset. Every little thing she does from now on will keep feeding your insecurities until you break.
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Love8Death 6y ago
It's definitely a red flag, but if she's worth it is only something you can decide.
Juan-San 6y ago
Breaking news, your girl isn't an unicorn. If you didn't set a boundary, it's too late to enforce it.
Dump her because you feel you can't trust her, or go against your gut and stay with her. Whatever keeps you happy.
If this happens again, drop her like it's hot.
SkorchZang 6y ago
Yes, and here are the two main reasons why. Reason 1: It's good for you to develop this "let it go" attitude, good for you way beyond this one relationship. You literally need it with every woman you'll ever be with. Reason 2: There is no way to be sure about what happened now, since she probably won't tell even under inquisition torture. So why torture yourself over it?
Think about this, you can always leave her if you lose this battle against your own feelings and it bothers you to no end.
You'll be a more powerful man if you can admit to yourself that your sweet girlfriend is a disgusting damn whore, but you don't care about that, as long as the damn whore is discreet about it, and she is careful that it doesn't mess up your reputation in your circle. That's pretty much how women treat it, there's much to learn there for any guy.
It's nothing personal, just girl business. If she was slobbering all over some guy there at the dance, that doesn't mean you're lesser than this new guy. You're still the exact same man you always were. Her actions do not affect your worth as a man. You might even still be very respected and loved by the cheating damn whore, it varies, and it's not automatic that if she kisses some new guy, that now you don't matter or are worse than him.
One other tip: don't let yourself worry that she's an innocent angel and you're being too rough on her, if nothing even happened. There's a chance that's true. But girls that are innocent for real do not put themselves into situations that would make their boyfriend worry about it later, in the first place. It's not "sure I went but nothing happened", it's "I didn't go because I didn't want my BF to think anything". See the difference? So it really doesn't matter whether something happened or didn't, what matters is that she went along and put herself into that situation = 100% not so innocent.
willysmiles 6y ago
are you suggesting being cuckoldry is ok?
SkorchZang 6y ago
Cuckoldry is when you're raising another man's dickspawn. Don't adopt african babies like Madonna, and you should be safe from that.
Bitches are going to do what bitches always did. Since we are no longer legally allowed to put them on a chain in the house and use eunuchs for servants, her behavior is really out of your hands as a man. It won't matter whether we think it's OK or NOT OK, she'll do her shit anyways. The important thing becomes, what are the consequences of what she did. I don't want my reputation harmed in my circle of family and friends. I don't want STDs. If I find out she was with another man for sure, I might freak out and get rid of her. But in situations where you can't know for sure, you pretty much just look at the consequences, and if they seem to be alright for now, you let it go...
palmeiras047 6y ago
But why should i let it go, if she cheated i would be better by myself...
frendo223 6y ago
like i said, this sub and the main sub has been completely overan(and i’m using that lightly) by low smv betas with oneitus wanting to have an LTR with these hoes. and even some of the mods are in on it. prime example right here.
i keep checking up every now and then on this sub only to keep getting disappointed. it has become literally toxic, especially if you’re trying to raise your smv more and slay it will be TOXIC for you
if you’re in a ltr, want a ltr, or even have thoughts about wanting a ltr you are not redpilled you aren’t even in the damn game lol
SkorchZang 6y ago
If you're viscerally against the very idea of your women being with other dudes, how are you ever going to spin plates, my man?
Having plates exemplifies zero male control over the female's actions. She'll do what she wanna do, you don't get a say because you're not exclusive with her either. If you can't emotionally take that and keep your cool, it's not going to work out so good.
In LTR there's an illusion that you have more control over her pussy, but it's ridiculously flimsy, and if you ask me it's actually the same exact situation as having a "loyal" plate that herself wants to be exclusive with you (for girly reasons). It's a new label on top of the same exact thing.
When the whole ship is sinking, what's the point of being dramatic and declaring that you won't be continuing your journey on such a broken ass ship? There are holes the size of Antarctica in the social-fabric hull, and where are you going to go to protest, into the open sea?
willysmiles 6y ago
I found this place because I got cheated on and now you say its not preventable and I should just accept it? WTF
SkorchZang 6y ago
Where in the sidebar did it ever say that it was going to be easy or that we'll be sweet to you?
The truth continues to burn.
Female cheating is truly not preventable, no matter how high your SMV is. There are 1000 year old fairytale stories about oriental harems where the women were kept on chains, and still the fucking bitches found ways to cheat while the sultan was hunting or travelling. When it's that brutal, all you can do is laugh at the whole situation and let it the fuck go.
willysmiles 6y ago
I guess it's not a bad idea since I cant get to stay faithful. She is always so sketchy and maybe just accepting it is for the best