and I got mad at her and we had a fight.

How the fuck does one go from "she told me she has a sexual fantasy" to fighting with her?
Did she specifically say she wanted someone ELSE to rape her? Did you feel like she was implying you aren't man enough to do it?

Amused Mastery! There's nothing new under the sun. You've seen this all before. "Oh, the old 'Rape Fantasy'. Maybe if you're a good girl, a bad man might take advantage of that soon" and then figure out a time when you can appear at her apartment and 'rape' her.

Dude. One of my plates lets me spit on her, and force her head in the toilet while we fuck. Push her limits. Have some fun with this.

I have done this once with a girl and it was pretty damn fun. You have to have a tremendous amount of trust built up to do something like this.

Have safe words - easy ones are Green - all is good Yellow - stop so I can speak my mind Red - stop NOW. It’s over and you went too far

Here is an article from 2012 that should be a great intro. It’s all good info to know, even if you don’t decide to go that route. I will also note that BDSM is a great way to build a deep bond between you and a woman.

https://www.google.ca/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201206/loving-introduction-bdsm%3famp

I only have limited experience, but enough to help a beginner if you decide to try these things out.

Disclaimer - you are dealing with a woman. So she can easily change her mind and say you ACTUALLY did rape her. Cover your ass and don’t do it unless you are 100% about it.

Like 99% of girls do. Yours is just cool enough to tell you about it. Make a safe word and do it. Pussy.

But she recently told me she has a rape fantasy and I got mad at her and we had a fight.

MOST women have this fantasy.

More than half. Probably most.

And in my experience, it's the better girls.

She wants to feel desired, she wants to feel so desirable you can't control yourself, and she wants absolution from responsibility.

r. But I'm starting to get worried this is a core part of her sexuality (she watches master slave porn exclusively) so she's not gonna be satisfied sexually otherwise.

Likely yes.

How do I even go about talking to her about this? Our only conversation I said I wasn't interested, but I'm considering texting her saying I've changed my mind. Anyone have any experience with this or any tips?

First of all - BE CAREFUL. You don't want a rape conviction, and women can change their minds the next day.

Have dated (well, fucked) a few women who love this fantasy. My approach? DIRTY TALK. Talk to her about how you can't resist her, that you have to have her, that you're going to rip her clothes off whether she likes it or not.

Really lay it on thick to match her fantasy. "I'm going to make you my little bitch". Ideally you say this while you're 30-60 minutes away from anywhere you could realistically fuck, ie in public, not near your house.

You know WHY she wants this (three reasons at the start of this), so you say things that directly play to this fantasy.

By the time you get home, you'll likely experience negligible resistance and won't have to physically force her (terrible idea of course). And she'll get all the feelings she craves.

Don't tell her "I've changed my mind". Tell her "I'm going to rip your tight little panties off when I see you".

Most women do want to be dominated in some way. Be the alpha or lose her. Pretty simple.

You reacted badly. I'm sure you know that now, but, you should basically never get mad. It shows a lack of state control.

AND, you basically just guaranteed she will never share any of her kinks with you ever again. Never punish honesty (at least not in a way where the person knows that you are. And if they confess to something like cheating or poking holes in condoms you obv have to leave.)

The vast majority of women have rape fantasies. So it doesn't really tell you anything particular about her, except that she felt close enough to tell you. It's totally fine. It doesn't make her a slut. It's not really a red flag. It's just too common to be any flag at all.

If you don't want to indulge it, that's fine too, but consider meeting her partway with some BDSM, rougher sex, roleplay, etc. Look up all the usual info about it, like safewords, and get her to send you some emails or texts about her fantasies ahead of time (as proof in the unlikely event she pulls a FRA on you, plus it will give you more info about her kinks).

Even if that's all the porn she watches, it could just be b/c that's the one thing she's NOT getting from you, so she resorts to porn. I wouldn't consider it much of a cheating risk or anything as long as she still seems sexually attracted to you in general.

TRP philosophy is to almost never apologize, but in this case, you should think up a manly, non-sniveling way to tell her 'hey I overreacted, I want you to know you can tell me anything, I'm not down to roleplay rapist but here's some other kinky stuff that you'll love that I'm gonna to do you..."

That's nothing new. Most women fantasize about being overpowered sexually. It's a fantasy. It's not like they want an actual stranger to ambush them and rape them. They want to feel the powerlessness and submission that comes from it, that's all.

There's no reason to lose your shit over that. It's very common.

Most of them do, especially the cheating ones.

I'm gonna play devil's advocate, it sounds like you don't want to do it. So don't do it. If CNC is not your thing, don't get worked up trying to stage something you're uncomfortable with.

Understand your sexual desires first, have a think about what turned you off the idea of holding her down whilst imposing your will on her. Explore with her, and definitely don't hit the roof again like you did. Don't apologise for your sexuality.

It's just a kink, don't let that make you insecure, my gf likes spankings and to be waken up in the middle of the night for sex, although I also thought it was weird at first, later I found out to enjoy it a lot, since that's her fetish she comes a lot faster and I find my orgasm to be a lot more satisfying thanks to that. Just go with it, it's just a kink it doesn't mean she wants to be raped by some stranger

Honestly, that's a pretty common fantasy for women. There's an adrenaline kick from feeling out of control, even when her conscious mind knows she's safe. Her opening up about this with you possibly indicates a level of trust and comfort. Especially since she's watching BDSM porn, you might find some tips by asking at r/BDSMcommunity.

Basically every girl I’ve ever banged has wanted me to flex my manly muscles and assert my manly dominance over them because girls who don’t want that go find some little Timmy half-a-fag to cuddle with. Some have wanted a little slap on the ass when they talk back, others have wanted lots of structure and protocols about how to serve me.

Your girl wants you to be a Man with her. Here’s how:

Uncle Vasya’s Guide to Submissive Women

-How to lead when she wants to follow.

Of Human Bondage – Uncle Vasya’s Guide for Men Who Like To Tie Up Young Ladies.

-The Field Guide to playing knotty games with naughty girls.

You’re welcome.

If my girlfriend told me she had a rape fantasy I would of grabbed her throat and started fucking her.

Big, rusty botulism infested can of worms.

BDSMcommunity sub has some excellent info.

It's called con-noncon, for consentual nonconsent.

Which is apt because it's inherently nonsensical from a logical perspective.

But, we are talking about women here, so, as always, emotions over all.

My advice is to NOT do it. Just the legal and liability ramifications are horrendous to think about, and since you're just learning your girl may be a kinky sub means you haven't been together long enough to develop the intimacy needed to pull off a rape scene.

I'm willing to bet the majority of women have some form of rape fantasy... of being helplessly used for sexual pleasure.

But jumping into it as an intro to D/s, BDSM, or kink in general is like talking a Ferrari on your first trip to the Nurburgring.... you're gonna end up upsidedown and on fire in a ditch.

You girl is on the kinky side, for sure. So explore that. Often blindfolding, gagging and restraining are all a sub needs to feel helpless.

Make sure you set out some safewords and check in often.

She's asking you to dominate her.

Goes back to the old Oscar Wilde quote,"Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.”

The experience is the power dynamic. Which is fucking twisted because if you really think about it, the sub has the ultimate power by using her safeword to shut it all down. (They're women...again, don't think too hard about this, their world is illusion and emotion.)

All the scene setup, the toys, the psychological torture, the pain... all window dressing.

Dominance is the desire they require.

watch the movie "The Last Seduction" before you do anything

If you don't want to do it, PM me. I've done this a few times and it's always fun.

She's sick mentally