I'm 29 and swallowed the pill a few months ago, however in the process of changing myself I was already in an LTR. She is really nice, an artist like me, submissive, good in bed, caring and it looks like she loves me. The problem is that she is always seeking support and hoping that I fix her life (her parents are really conservative and she doesn't have a full time job due to University, also she exhibits traits of depression every week). So this got me really confused and last week I cheated on her with little remorse, no intent on hurting her. I am now stuck in what to do because a really great girl for an LTR is difficult to find but I also want to go back and spin plates because I am finally aware of my SMV, what should I do? Am I settling?
Update: I broke up with her, it felt like a relief
redhawkes 2 6y ago
TRP is amoral. You cheated on her, that means that you don't find her attractive anymore. And those depression traits are red flag.
If she's not adding value to your life, next.
Narcissist456 6y ago
If you have to ask, “am I settling?” Guess what the answer is.
bickisnotmyname 6y ago
If you think you could get better, you’re settling. That “you know when you know” shit is actually pretty true imho.
thefisherman1961 6y ago
you’ve already demoted her to plate, you just haven’t told her.
the real question is: do you want to keep fucking her? if so, you might want to just keep cheating on her because if you dump her then she will be more likely to stop having sex with you
johncillo 6y ago
If I keep fucking her she will be confused and desperate and will get more depressed, better to move on
thefisherman1961 6y ago
sounds like you know what you need to do
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thefisherman1961 6y ago
fuck off white knight
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Narcissist456 6y ago
You sound like a beta cuckboy. Wrong sub buddy.
ta77112256 6y ago
Lol. You can still be RP and not a douche. Try it sometime.
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^ This
If you’re looking for a something to take care of, adopt a cat or a dog.
It’s fine to care for your LTR if they stumble, but if they’re stumbling 95% of the time, you’re not their bf, you’re their crutch. Eventually you’ll get tired of that.
Sounds like that’s what OP did and likely his motivation for cheating
johncillo 6y ago
This. You read it fantastically, first time I cheat but I was not sure why until I realized I was being a crutch for her and I was getting tired. I have been a blue pill crutch, white knight resolving all my girlfriends' lives, I am not like that anymore. I think she and I are going through different phases, it is best to break up because I think she might detain me from becoming a better man