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abdada 7y ago
It's just sex, you're all adults.
bittr_n_swt 7y ago
If you expect women to act like adults, you'll be disappointed most of the time
abdada 7y ago
I expect women to act like women and desire a leader they can trust and desire and look up to.
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empatheticapathetic 7y ago
But think of the drama bro.
abdada 7y ago
I have no drama in my life. People look up to me as a leader, and a great leader challenges others to look at the road ahead, not the trail once taken.
This was true when I was 18.
Become that cocky, funny, driven leader.
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menial_optimist 7y ago
Then go get swallowed in it swirling around like an eddy while other men press forward with real progress. Drama is for those who lead ultimately boring and useless lives. I know because I used to be such a person. I went many years with no job, thus no money and no hobbies or interests apart from smoking weed and surfing the internet. In that state with nothing better to do I would take about some of my "friends" flaws while they were not present.
Its easy to be sucked into drama but ultimately it's destructive at it can and will come back to bite you. It's best to say nothing. What do you have to gain by causing or taking part in drama? Nothing good.
So many guys seem so eager to partake in drama especially when it comes to women or LTRs.
One 19 year old guy I know recently broke up with his psycho ex. He was her first and she's legit stalking him. Leaves objects on his front lawn, tried to pick up his 12yo niece from school one day, found and texted a new girl he was interested in and told her they were still dating, tried to ruin his post-secondary opportunity by calling the cops on him etc. A lot of it was his mistake responding to her every paragraph text with his own paragraph continuing it all, and I told him he should have just said nothing from the beignning and if it continued for a prolonged period to start looking into restraining orders or at the least calling her parents to let them know the situation.
Drama cannot end up good for you in the long run, as all parties involved will continue believing they're in the right. There is a reason they call it "high school drama".
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JackGetsIt 7y ago
Female friendships are useless. Male friendships are valuable. With male friendships your reputation is your life. You just fucked over a male friend and violated code. You need to remedy that first and foremost and not worry about the female situation.
UEMcGill 7y ago
Redpill is amoral. Rule zero is paramount.
If you could reframe this in that regard you might have a better argument. Now I agree with you on male friendships and female friendships, but I'll add two things. Friends outside the matrix should be ejected at the first hint of choking the pill. You should always avoid the unhappy. Second, there's no dibs on pussy. If his friend thinks their is, he's in for a rough life.
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crixusin 7y ago
The way I look at it, is there are a million girls on earth, but you HAD to fuck the one you knew your friend was interested in.
They went on one date, so he's definitely being a pussy. But the truth is that you probably should have just found a different girl if you actually call him your friend.
BestSC86 7y ago
Of course they don't but then again...it wasn't one of their girls who you snaked behind their back to fuck.
But I can guarantee that they will be watching you in spades for the foreseeable future as they know now that a couple of drinks and you will be groping their girls.
RPShitlord 7y ago
Is every girl a guy goes on a single date with and has a crush on but doesn't do anything about it off limits?
Your_Coke_Dealer 7y ago
As my circle of friends does it, if a guy states he's interested in a girl, she's off-limits. If he's seeing her frequently, it's implied he's interested and she's off limits.
If the guy denies interest or says something along the lines of it being casual, fair game. If the guy is seeing other women, this does not automatically mean fair game, all other rules apply. This is just what I play by; rules vary by circle of friends.
Edit: I know I'm respecting "dibs" more than I have to, but I've never had a friend say he's interested in a girl after being turned down or failing to close for an extended period. It's in the interest of not competing with a friend over one woman when there are plenty others to go for first and foremost
JackGetsIt 7y ago
Absolutely not. But men you consider part of your 'pack' are critical to you as a man. These men above all desire loyalty and will help you in ways you never knew possible. They will help you study, help you get jobs, help your mental health, help you mature, help you relax (jokes, parties, hobbies). This is all assuming you picked a quality group of men to connect with.
Cultivating genuine male friendships helps improve your reputation which gives you access to more women. If you develop the reputation as a man that can't be trusted you will not have access to quality male groups of friends and this lack of access will severely impact your SMV. The exact details of how you crossed the trust line doesn't matter with other people. Even the whiff of disloyalty amongst true men can get you banned for life. I don't know all the details of OP's situation but they don't really matter because with humans perception is reality. OP needs to monitor how he is perceived by others carefully.
Tommy_407 7y ago
No.
Dtrp 7y ago
Depends. The person has to determine how valuable that friendship. If you do something behind there back, than you must be knowingly hurt a friend. Doesn't sound like much of a buddy. However if the op. Was at least up front, it would show some friendship.
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CrayonStur 7y ago
Oh, the old "we were drunk" shitty excuse! You both wanted to do it, be a grown up and face reality.
boscoist 7y ago
Sure, but it wasnt planned or a situation where he could have stopped and called up his bro to ask permission.
flatox 7y ago
If he's your fuckin' friend it is, because there are, as much as I hate the term, an unwritten brocode.
To hell with everyone you don't know, they're irrelevant, but if someone is your friend you have a mutual respect and not fucking someone they like is part of this unless other understanding has been made.
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blackedoutfast 7y ago
no you don't. ignore this bullshit bluepill advice about how you violated "brocode"
plenty_of_eesh 7y ago
You left it kind of perfectly vague, what actually happened between friend and girl... "Had the hots for and went on one date last year"
Late December 2016 was "last year". Was there "hots" for months, then a date then, followed by some regular communication between them where he got hope for another date soon? This would be one scenario.
Coz also March 2016 was "last year". Maybe they had a date and she's been ghosting him for 12 months. That is a very different scenario, as far as your level of culpability.
So everyone here is kind of shooting (you! ha) in the dark as far as whether and how much you fucked up.
But I'm generally siding with the "get over it" crowd though. Best case: she hasn't agreed to meet him once in the last 10ish weeks. He needed to move the fuck on, and can't expect to have dibs on her in any way.
VasiliyZaitzev 7y ago
What are you sorry for? That he can't close?
thechaosz 7y ago
This was my thoughts. I lost out on so much pussy younger because if a Guy just liked the girl, She was off limits.
It's a fucking joke
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Agreed but from the post it sounds like a year ago the guy had like one date and never got anything out of it.
If the friend goes on a date and messes it up then yeah don't swoop in immediately after but a year later is a bit ridiculous.
VasiliyZaitzev 7y ago
Maybe not in Jr. High, but, as an adult, you don't get to call "dibs" on people.
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VasiliyZaitzev 7y ago
That's the fact pattern in the OP. "I saw her first".
TaeTaeDS 7y ago
Maybe so, but why are you ranking a lay with a single girl above a friendship with a friend? Seems like although you're TRP Endorsed you've missed some of the sidebar...
VasiliyZaitzev 7y ago
I'm not. But in the fact pattern in the OP, it's the friend who is ranking his bluepill fantasy wif' his One Speshul Girl^TM
"If I can't have her then, you can't have her" is bluepill thinking. Also, women have agency, despite what white knights and bloopers think. If she doesn't want to bang one guy, but wants to bang another, then that's how it goes.
Srsly, if the friend can't get over the goal line in a YEAR, don't you think it's better if he moved on, for his own sake?
VasiliyZaitzev 7y ago
I see where you went wrong.
Friend - is it your fault he's not a closer? You're supposed to navigate which girl he likes this week that he's not fucking because...his Feelz?
Housemates - minimize contact. Bang plates at plates' residence if possible.
Girl - up to you. Point out that everything was quiet after first time and then only blew up after second when roommates saw her, therefore roommates blabbed. Why would you do it when you know she wanted it down low? Also, girls blab.
Anyway, don't overthink. In a few months this will all be just a bad memory.
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VasiliyZaitzev 7y ago
If you don't see her in person, I think things have gone pear-shaped. But up to you, you have the face-to-face, PiV relationship.
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VasiliyZaitzev 7y ago
At this point, do what you want. The important thing is that you've learned not to live with twats.
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VasiliyZaitzev 7y ago
If he's pissed that you f-closed a girl that he couldn't after year then it's not you with the problem.
It's a beta disease to try to call 'dibs' on a chick. Women have agency and, yeah, they DO get to decide who they're going to bang. The trick is to BE that guy (for women you likewise want to bang), not whine because you're not. It's like complaining that someone got a bigger slice of cake than you did.
FlexGunship 7y ago
Treat children like children. Ignore tantrums.
If you don't like behavior you see, call it out. It's never about your feelings. It's about their shitty behavior.
"Is this how adults act?"
Forcetobereckonedwit 7y ago
Tell them to stop acting like 5 year olds and ignore them.
Aarxnw 7y ago
Dude, why would you fuck a girl that your friend had a thing for? Unless you're honestly saying that you had no idea he went out with her or had feelings for her.
ManChooses 7y ago
I don't agree with this. He said his buddy went on a date with her last year? How long is his friend going to have a "thing" for a girl who doesn't even want him? Why is a guy having a "thing" for any one particular girl anyways? If anything OP did his friend a favor, hopefully, by showing him the nature of women. When a girl fucks a guy, the guy is really just a placeholder. If it wasn't going to be his friend, it was going to be some other dude. Maybe his friend shouldn't have "things" for girls.
Aarxnw 7y ago
Pussy isn't worth more than friends, or friendship, no matter how much of a beta cuck that friend is. That's not an excuse either, cause OP calls him a friend, he could be the biggest beta cuck in the world, if it was foreseeable that his feelings would be hurt, then OP shouldn't have done it. That's just my opinion, other people may see it differently and that's fairs.
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Aarxnw 7y ago
See my other reply, her level of interest is irrelevant, it's not about stealing the guys opportunity, it's about doing something that hurt him. As fairylike as that sounds, like fuck would I ever hurt a friend just for some pussy, even if he was being the biggest pussy ass beta bitch boy in the entire cuckoldverse. We don't fuck girls our friends are in to just to prove a point, nobody at TRP advocates that.
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Aarxnw 7y ago
Well that would just be petty, nobody develops real feelings for every attractive girl. It's completely different if the guy just wanted to fuck her, but by the info given in the post I'm assuming his friend didn't just want to fuck, he actually had feelings. OP could have talked to his friend at the very least... Not slamming you btw OP, you obviously didn't mean to cause such a shitstorm.
RPShitlord 7y ago
Ignore the friend, first come first serve.
Tell the girl the truth and cut contact if she gives you any shit.
The housemates are dead to you. They already lied about you, so carry a recorder and tell them why you're carrying it.
Dtrp 7y ago
Carry a recorder? What the fuck kind of advice is this for redpill?
indianblanket 7y ago
sounds like a fun one
i_forget_my_userids 7y ago
In case she wants your broccoli.
shadexs55 7y ago
I think Roosh & Donovan Sharpe would approve
Dtrp 7y ago
yeah so people talk about SMV. I'm sure you'd be the life of the fucking party playing detective 24/7.
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avoid as much as possible, only interact when strictly necessary, grey rock them
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Herdsengineers 7y ago
Be boring towards them, basically. It means be as interesting to them as a grey rock would be.
1Pink1Stink 7y ago
Explain to her the truth. If she doesn't believe you, so be it.
As for your roomates, well now you know where you stand with them. GTFO asap if you can.
As for your "friend," fuck him. You don't get to call dibs on pussy that you haven't fucked, especially if you don't make a move for a whole year. He's jealous and bitter and using your friendship as an excuse to make you feel bad.
desno 7y ago
Ignore, she will probably come back to you
Big_Daddy_PDX 7y ago
Oh my god Becky! How rude.
thebadmanpuntdbaxter 7y ago
Why did you decide to live with 3 women?
walawalawa 7y ago
You betrayed a friend. Put yourself in his shoes. He'll see you as completely untrustworthy around him ever again.
You should talk to him face to face and at the very least apologize. You won't appear low value because you've already basically humiliated the friend. It will help to smooth things over and at the very least if you're sincere be a step towards smoothing things over.
But in future exercise a little more self-control.
VasiliyZaitzev 7y ago
No, he didn't. If he banged a friend's girl, then yes, but you can't just call "shotgun". It's not his fault his homie can't close.
ManChooses 7y ago
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walawalawa 7y ago
Keep it man to man..."Dude, I know how bad this looks and I feel terrible about it. It just wasn't right. I can understand how pissed off you must feel. I just wanted to apologize for letting things get this weird."
Something along those lines. Let him vent. Leave.
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walawalawa 7y ago
Lol...are you serious?
mks10 7y ago
Another example of adult females acting like they are 12 years old. Ignore all of them and move on to your next challenge.
trp_ocd 7y ago
Being a secure man, following your path to your goals, how does anyone else's opinion impact this?
Too much drama, and too much concern over everyone else's opinion on what you want to do.