Look up "how to overcome approach anxiety" on youtube

You're nervous because you're insecure and not thoroughly enjoying being you.

It's like expecting to catch fish without putting out your net. Your mental state is subpar and deep down you know this. You know that you're competing with people who are not only physically but also mentally vastly superior to you.

The above is actually the first mistake. Thinking that your feeling of unworthiness and thus nervousness stems from your value compared to others. Sure, there'll always be a better catch somewhere out there regardless of who you are, but the most important thing is to realize that all this is outside of your control. The only result you will get from comparing yourself to others is a sense of failure and never being good enough. It's a downward spiral.

The key to overcoming nervousness is to surpass comparing yourself to others and start working on self respect, self compassion and self love. Not in some hippy alternative veganistic kind of way, but in a way that makes you put yourself and your own interests and wellbeing above all else in this world. Grow your own life to the point where you are proud of it simply because you admire your own achievenemts. Become the person you would look up to.

The moment you shift your priorities towards that, you will start feeling better about yourself. The moment you start making actual progress, you will cease to feel nervous when interacting with others, including girls. Why? Because you know that regardless of the outcome of the interaction, you are happy with who you are and what your life actually means to you.

Not only will you no longer be nervous, you will have a deeply rooted confidence shining from you which attracts other people.

So yes, it can be done, but from where you are now and where you want to be, I'm estimating there's at least a good 2 years inbetween. The key is to view your progress as a journey, not a race. There are no shortcuts. The longest path starts with the first step. Eventually you will start enjoying it and you won't be able to imagine life any other way.

Good luck.

Natural selection

Tons of things to work on here. TRP does not give strategies to get that one girl. In fact it tells you to fuck many different girls to get over this sniper mentality. It is much more effecient and you will find that that one girl will want to be your bitch if you fully learn the concepts people talk about here.

There is a probability that the one girl you like won't like you back. If you focus only on her, you will get butthurt and sad when she rejects you. This is not fun, neither productive.

On the other hand, if you approach a minimum 3-5 girls you find pretty everyday, you will most likely build a harem of many hot chicks in a month or two, the kind you thought were way out of your league (another bad frame to adopt). Then your "league" goes up and up and up, until you laugh at your past self for thinking some chick was out of your league. Slowly you will find that almost all girls want to fuck you. Because of that preselection and the "I have a way with women" vibe you start giving off.

You also laugh at your past self for having just one girl as your target. Fuck it if it goes bad with one girl. The important thing is that you had fun, and you know you can get a lay on the weekend, no problem. No butthurt, no sadness. Only fun, productivity and positivity.

What can go bad if you talk to her? Nothing!

Also, the 3-second rule. If you wait more than 3 seconds before you approach it will be much more difficult. Do it now!

How can I not be so nervous and stop overthinking girls?

Practice. Go to a bar or a club where nobody knows you. Optionally have 1 drink (something light). Approach girls/women. Say whatever. In time, the anxiety will go away. Keep doing it until you feel fine talking to women.

You just need to do it.

Most girls are really nice, if they're not then they aren't worth your time anyway.

Just go up, introduce yourself, then ask how their night is going. Just as an example:

"Yeah I'm having fun"

• So what else do you like to do aside from partying?

"This thing, that thing"

• Oh, what is it that you like about that thing?

"Blah blah blah blah"

;)

I read today in a post that some guy doesn't even have to think about talking to girls, because by the time he thinks, he's already started a conversation with them

This is the best thing to do, you can never rationalize the fear away. The only way to do it, is to take action.

This is a guy that has pulled 100's if not 1000's, he still get's scared everytime.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5LIa221DSmY

If i get trapped in my head, i start thinking; What would I do if i wasn't scared ? Imagine there is a gun to your head, What is the right thing to do?