So this Latina came over for a hookup last night, and we have two rounds of hot steamy sex... Very standard stuff. Once she was gone, I almost promptly forgot about her -- it was as if it didn't happen. I went on with my life. But the next day she was asking when we're meeting again, etc. (unlikely, I almost only do one-night stands exclusively).
It's more of an annoyance than anything else. I think I've become so desensitized to sex (my N-count is in the three digits) that I've become a bit of a sociopath with no empathy whatsoever for girls. It's impossible to even like a girl now; I've totally lost respect for all of them, and meeting them a second time is almost always not on the cards (booorring), much less a full-blown LTR. Oneitis is a distant memory; I'd be very surprised if any girl, no matter how hot, can hold my attention anymore after I fucked her. Often I just want them to leave.
Has anyone else experienced this? Is this reversible? I seriously can no longer pair bond anymore, I cut girls off for no reason other than I'm bored, and I just fuck girl after girl for no good reason other than self-validation and narcissism.
MikeAlphaGolf 8y ago
This is true abundance mentality. Like any other commodity, pussy becomes low value when it is plentiful.
I suspect your attitude would change if all of a sudden you weren't getting any.
It's great to be banging so many sluts but your life might be better if you can build some kind of connection with the good ones now and then. Consider allowing yourself to get close sometimes.
jackandjill22 8y ago
Hm.
abbafishhead 8y ago
I try to, but I simply lose interest very quickly. And I know half of it is that I'm desensitized. The other half is, once I stopped putting the pussy on the pedestal, I realize that most girls are empty shells with nothing to offer personality-wise. So once they were deflowered, there was literally nothing left to retain my attention.
SadGenius 8y ago
Well then try harder? Hate it when guys come over with an apparently "unsolvable problem".
"I eat too many tacos!" "Well then you have to eat less tacos." "I try but i cant because i eat too many tacos".
Hard to believe you are in the 3 digits when you can't seem to leave the same spot, seemingly unable to take a step forward even though you're completely aware of it.
flavourrush 8y ago
maybe you should raise your standards then. there are a lot of women out there with interesting personalities
ItalianoVero 8y ago
OK try this. Hook up with a girl that is objectively smarter than you. Also richer. Like a professional with a PhD in a hard science or something. Someone that will challenge you. Maybe that would be refreshing.
silverpilled 8y ago
I think you pretty much have your answer here. There is nothing of value beyond skin deep for some of these women. There is also the reality and knowledge that they all have the ability to become dependent on you if you allow. Being more unplugged it all becomes the same old pattern and behavior that you grow to expect. Next step is just learning the investment vs the value given by them. You can spend more time on those who have something to provide other than a wet spot.
[deleted] 8y ago
How old are you? I was like you but later in my 20s (I'm 29 now) you just get sick of spinning plates sometimes and lock up a good one while you keep improving yourself. Relationships can be really fulfilling and fun as long as you set the right expectations for yourself - that they will inevitably end and when they do, it will be for the same reasons they always do.
MrSnarf26 8y ago
This is so stupid. There are a lot of legitimately nice women out there who truly are interesting people who are plenty worthy of some form of bonding. I agree that finding them is hard sometimes in 2016, but when you do, and you like a female for the right reasons (she legitimately adds to your life or makes it better besides just sex) you should at least allow the opportunity for her to get close. That doesn't mean marry her.
silverpilled 8y ago
I guess if you can find a nice woman and want to allow them close enough to take up residence and nag at you it might be worth it.
cashcow1 8y ago
Maybe you need to stop just banging whores, and try to form a relationship with someone?
SocialJusticeWhiner 8y ago
I've struggled with this too. Even if I do find a girl that makes sense to keep in my life I create all kinds of reasons why I shouldn't keep her around. Do you meditate? It's made me more aware of the narrative that's going on in my head to keep pushing them away.
Also what was your childhood like? Any traumatic experiences in your childhood or adulthood? Have you lost people you loved?
abbafishhead 8y ago
Nothing traumatic, except a super-dramatic LTR gone wrong two years ago (I lived with her for 8 months, that was pure unadulterated hell). Scared me off LTRs forever.
cashcow1 8y ago
Happens to a lot of players. Roosh talks about it at some length.
Maybe.
You need a purpose in life besides having sex with women. Sex alone will never make you truly happy.
huge_gap 8y ago
Eh probably lost it mostly, but I'd say you haven't met a high enough quality girl that you really click with.
Strongproudwoman 8y ago
I've been in the same boat for a while now. All I can say is that you can either not fuck anymore or continue to bang but you won't feel any different. You are at a point now that it's up to a red pill girl to wander around and get your attention with traits that you like in a girl. So if a girl works on herself properly, you'll notice this one quicker because you've been with hundreds of women and this one will stand out with her positive traits.
Up to you if you want to LTR it or not. I wouldn't consider this a curse. It's almost enlightenment, you can quickly see bad and good traits in girls now because of your big pool of girl experience that you can draw from.
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Strongproudwoman 8y ago
I mean in terms of those girls over at redpillwoman. Girls putting in effort to being nice and cooking all kinds of shit and being pleasant and not cunts. So I just call them women who are red pilled in their own sense.
VasiliyZaitzev 8y ago
That's the bluepill in you, dying.
[deleted] 8y ago
He is going to home
VasiliyZaitzev 8y ago
No.
Why? You've heard of the "Thousand Cock Stare", yes? Have you heard of the "Thousand Cunt Stare"? No, you haven't, because it doesn't exist. Women can reproduced pretty much once a year, and require assistance when they are heavily pregnant and during and after birth, and then with raising a child--and before anyone says "BUT SINGLE MOMS!!!" single moms have a "provider" called the "taxpayers".
For men, the biological imperative is really to spread the baby batter around as much as possible, thus the OP is simply fulfilling his biological destiny, even if he's using rubbers. Nothing to be alarmed about.
TheRedStoic 8y ago
For a few years I was the same.
Around a year ago, it changed. I am so bored of ons that I have taken a step towards ltrs, I like long term plates now, and I rarely plate based on solely physical attraction. More like I ltr multiple girls at a time I guess?
Either way, good on abundance, don't be worried, you'll be fine. Just do what makes you happy.
If you're unhappy though, well, there's married red pill and plate guides for days around here.
LewisCross 8y ago
Don't worry about it. Abundance mentality isn't the same thing as being unable to pair bond.
spaseur 8y ago
stop banging stupid/boring/easy girls and focus on the smart ones (with real hobbies, good jobs, values, etc.)
[deleted] 8y ago
Female pair bonding after sex is almost immediate but male pair bonding occurs over time. Sounds like the problem isn't your ability to pair bond. The issue appears to be that you haven't found a woman who provides enough value outside of sex that would motivate you to keep her around long enough for you to bond with her.
If all a woman has to offer is sex and you don't have a problem getting pussy, then yeah, women get boring. But if a woman cooks tasty, nutritious meals for you, has an interesting, fun personality, supports you in your mission and provides other things besides sex, she may be a keeper. Problem is, too many women these days believe they have solid gold pussies and don't understand that to a guy like you, they are a dime a dozen.
Maybe you should try making some of the women you meet plates, seeing them more often and evaluating if they have more to offer than sex.
SetConsumes 8y ago
You've never met a girl you can talk to for hours? And actually want to keep talking to her?
Are you really good at being fun and not serious?
The only thing that keeps my interest is a woman that can handle some intellectual conversation to some degree. The most interesting ones will surprise me regularly with what they say.
What hobbies do you do with girls?
Do you know your ideal woman, like body/blood type + hobbies + values/philosophy?
abbafishhead 8y ago
Yes, they're either: 1) not hot, or 2) don't take me seriously because of the player vibe. Eventually they want commitment; I can offer none.
I'm good at that. Life of the party and all. What's your point?
I actually enjoy doing things alone. Meals, hiking, movies. Only exception is road trips. I just hit up a bunch of girls I've fucked in the past, and one is bound to be available.
Accepts me for who I am... Submissive, slim. Not a lot to ask for, is it? :)
SetConsumes 8y ago
It sounded like you want an LTR. But you seem rather against them.
Why do you need to pair bond or find a girl interesting and keeping your attention if you don't want an LTR?
Perhaps you want FWB at the least?
What about the flipside, are you good at serious conversation about heavy or more real topics?
You really keep the relationships about sex then. Perhaps you'd enjoy a girl that's into food, movies and/or hiking, make her less boring for you specifically.
I'm sure you can get more specific if you give it time and attention.
Girls that are more your ideal should keep your interest better too.
StbRPG 8y ago
The drama is strong on this one!
zezozio 8y ago
Bad news: once passed that... you don't even bother! Now I know I should get out, and talk to a few. But yet another naked girl in my bed... talking to her, making her laugh, the shit tests, the LMR, for mediocre sex... please!!! not worth the trouble (most of the time).
fruitsoflabor123 8y ago
Not much help but, how the did you get to triple digits? Do you just go out to bars/clubs every night?
wade2634 8y ago
My best friend lives in NY and is sitting at 200 some. If you're thirsty you can get there. It is a bit consuming though and his life revolves around getting pussy largely. I don't recommend it.
abbafishhead 8y ago
Read my submissions... I wrote a guide on how I reached there. I added 30+ to my count over this summer alone.
0kool74 8y ago
Hmmmm............so basically you've reached the top of the mountain that probably almost every RP guy wants to get to, maybe not triple digit numbers but being able to break free of their shackles........and now you're lamenting not being able to go back down the mountain?
Why would you wanna go back down the mountain? You know what awaits in that valley when you get back down there. You really want that?
boscoist 8y ago
Who climbs a mountain and decides to live at the highest peak? Rather the peak is a goal to be attained before returning to lower elevations and preparing for the next goal or peak to climb. Its transient, not permanent.
abbafishhead 8y ago
Because it has gotten boring. I want to experience liking a girl again. To pair bond. Basically that. I can't pair bond now, and I feel like a total sociopath.
[deleted] 8y ago
What age are you and how long did it take to get to three digits
abbafishhead 8y ago
27 now, recently hit 100.
Willow-girl 8y ago
Nahh, the problem with pair-bonding only happens to women. You have simply achieved the pinnacle of Alpha greatness! Enjoy it.
sihitu123 8y ago
Are you a gigolo?