So I'm a pretty good looking guy. Tall, muscular, masculine face. The problem is that I have no friends and don't really socialize. Mental and personality issues. So I figure Tinder or OkCupid is my only hope.
- What kind of pictures should I have? I heard one with an animal, one doing some kind of hobby/activity, one with lots of friends, and a shirtless pic. Any golden ideas?
- How can I take these pictures without having any friends?
- General tips for good pictures?
AFPJ 9y ago
Unrelated but shouldn't these be a bigger concern than how good your Tinder pictures are? Priorities.
[deleted] 9y ago
I don't really want friends and they don't want me. I'd be fine with getting laid like once a week. I had success on OKCupid last year but I need to get back at it.
And I have lots of personality flaws, chronic depression, social anxiety. I've been trying to fix them for like 3-4 years but at some point you need to just give up.
trpthrowaway001 9y ago
Dude, fuck that. As someone that does/did suffer from terrible anxiety and depression, this personally offends me. You gotta kick that shit in the ass or it will run your fucking life. See a counselor, try antidepressants for a while. If you give up, you'll never be happy
niczar 9y ago
Tianeptine for depression, phenibut for social anxietic. Available from Ceretropics. WARNING: do NOT overdose, they're very safe at low doses, but they can get addictive if you don't use them responsibly. However they're wonderful if you do.
AFPJ 9y ago
This, but I'd stay away from Tianeptine unless Memantine fails to work, Phenibut is ..sporadically used at best?
Does anyone actually use Phenibut regularly without suffering horrific addiction and the following withdrawal?
These are all just childs play compared to the near-permanent fix LSD/DMT and sometimes even Psilo offer.
niczar 9y ago
When I start getting dark thoughts, 20 mg tianeptine removes them within minutes. It's incredible. It does nothing for anxiety though.
Phenibut is an interesting case. The people who report severe withdrawal all appear to have taken way over 1g daily for weeks or months. I take 250mg a day from time to time when I sense my anxiety is flaring up, and 500-750 mg no more than once a week when I have a significant social outing. I haven't noticed any decrease in efficacy nor any withdrawal — after all the molecule has a very long half-life, so you really have to push it.
Incidentally, considering how some people really abuse it (one guy reported over 20g/day for months) with apparently no permanent damage, it's got to be a really safe molecule.
AFPJ 9y ago
You could try Tianeptine, Memantine, Selank - or, if nothing else works, LSD. Good exercise / diet / lifestyle routine should help too, don't just give up. Social Isolation is detrimental to nearly every aspect of your being - not just from a feels standpoint, but also by most scientifically measurable metrics. You'd get the most bang for your buck out of life by fixing that. Once you've solid circle of friends women tend to "accidentally" slip and fall on your dick anyways.
[deleted] 9y ago
I've tried ketamine, LSD, shrooms, MDMA, weed, klonopin. None of them work long term. LSD, shrooms, and weed typically give me bad vibes and experiences. Stimulants seem to work well for me though. Also tried prozac, zoloft, effexor, and trying wellbutrin soon. Tried a therapist once but he sucked really bad. I'm on steroids, workout 4x a week, bench ~290, deadlift ~480, good diet, take vitamins every day. Have tried meditating off and on for the past year or two. Mapped out my life purpose and long/short term goals. Use a daily planner and have morning/bed routines. Been reading RSD and TRP for 2-3 years. Approached a lot of girls, started conversation with strangers. I've exposed myself to social situations, am brave enough to do anything in public (can only stifle the physical anxiety though because it's involuntary), have great conversation skills, funny, intelligent, sexually experienced from one night stands, FWB, escorts. Wealthy. Live by myself. In college. Have had lots of roommates for 3 years in college, lots of friends in the past I've hanged out with. Been to parties, bars, and social gatherings.
Problems are chronic depression, sleep deprivation and sleep apnea, social anxiety, maybe mild PTSD/paranoia from social rejection (seriously). Some narcissism. Lots of hatred and desire for revenge from social rejection. Probably a sociopath and slightly sadistic as a result. Emotionless and dead inside. Hopeless about my situation although I strive to not be. Great desire for female emotional support and pity. Never had a girlfriend. Never really had a friend that was a girl. All of my male friends I get along with well, but it seems superficial/formal and I can't make any sort of emotional connection or deeper bond. Usually sad, bummed out, and boring, which repels friends and people I meet.
At this point I've kind of given up and don't really pursue social relationships anymore. My current strategy I want to try is just getting laid from Tinder/OKC which has worked in the past with not too much effort. Long term strategy if that fails is to spend a lot on escorts after I graduate and get a high paying job.
AFPJ 9y ago
Might look into a sleep study for this. CPAP or corrective surgery (100% worth it) depending on how that goes.
Sounds like anhedonia, for which Wellbutrin is pretty legit - maybe try it sooner rather than later like you said.
Steroids could be a culprit, when you've got ridiculously over the top T levels you tend to feel less if at all.
In the immediate future, try Memantine and Selank. Maybe even Semax if neither of those two work.
Even if none of that shit works, keep digging / trying - this is your quality of life we're talking about.
[deleted] 9y ago
Had a sleep study and use CPAP. I've struggled with using it consistently but have been more diligent lately while I've been working on self-discipline.
And I'm only on my first steroid cycle/blast, which I started 3 months ago. The problems have been going on years before that. Steroids have actually improved my mood slightly, but not significantly.
Yep I plan to hop on the Wellbutrin once I give MDMA a couple more chances since I still have some. Will look into those other drugs.
AFPJ 9y ago
Keep plowing man, my good buddy had a really similar set of issues as you - Memantine+Selank was what fixed him.
[deleted] 9y ago
Shit, girls on tinder are going to eat you up and spit you out screaming and crying. Get a life, and in the process of acquiring one you'll get laid.
I'[m not saying that you are a unicorn, but I've never met a tall, muscular good looking man who has zero friends and doesn't socialize well. The reason being is that tall, muscular attractive men get just a ton of practice in that department, because they typically make friends easy and girls talk to them readily. so either, you're defective, and you should fix that, or your lying, and you should fix that.
Get friends, make friends, and fly. If you don't socialize well, how do you expect to convince a girl to fuck you? Do you think that some girl will see your picture, you'll just meet and fuck? If that is what you want hire a hooker, because that my friend is not going to happen.
Learn to socialize, learn to speak to people, make friends, get hobbies, have a life. Besides, you should be meeting people IRL to bang, for various reasons that others than allude to. Tinder and the like is a small part of an overall strategy for getting laid.
[deleted] 9y ago
Wait will the girls on tinder be screaming and crying or will he be?
abdada 9y ago
Get a photographer friend and just take some posed photos. You don't need friends, just $50 will do it.
atticusfinch1973 9y ago
Look on your local kijiji or craigslist and there are cheap photographers on there who will make you look good.
Don't have a shirtless pic unless you can pull it off and look good shirtless, it will hurt you more than anything if you look scrawny.
CumForJesus 9y ago
I don't remember much about pictures, except what you said and "don't look directly into the camera" like this
And, playing with light is good, like this
Try to pay a photographer, perhaps. I don't know, i've never done that.
Gawernator 9y ago
If you have a defined muscular body then show off that shirtless pic, otherwise no. I've never gotten professional pics but for $50 or less you can probably get it done. I have pics of me in uniform, one with the motorcycle, a couple selfies etc... only solo pics but I have hundreds of matches
yldwhisper 9y ago
There was a guide back on trp about this actually. The biggest advice, especially if you don't have group shots/or a lot of action shots are as follows:
Dress up, preferably suit, and tie. Take a picture as if you're looking off into the distance - never look or smile directly at the camera. Sullen smirk or no emotion at all. Side shots are great.
If you are athletic, certainly have a shirtless pic, but don't have a douchey selfie shirtless pic. Try to take it as if you're naturally shirtless - tanning/lounging on a beach chair is good - just make sure someone else is taking the pic. And if you have pets, use them. Again, in all instances it's better if either someone else takes the pic, or it at least appears like someone else is taking the pic. As suggested below - it is very worthwhile to have pictures professionally taken.