Hello everybody!
I'm with my gf about 4 months. She's almost 18 (virgin for sure and had only one boyfriend like 3 years ago) and I'm 19 (also virgin and had 4 gfs).
Recently I asked her when she will be ready for sex, and she said she wants to wait till she is 18 (about half a year from now). She asked me if it's ok to wait, and I agreed. The thing is I'm currently on day 27th of NoFap and my sexual energy is very high. On one hand I don't want to masturbate because I see how much energy and will power I've gotten because of it, but on the other hand I'm not sure if I can withstand 6 more months without releasing this energy.
Before I talk with her about it (but I'm not really optimistic about her wanting to wait less because I know from her best friend that before we were in a relationshit she wanted not to lose her virginity before she is 19, so I think she already decreased this waiting time) I wanted to hear what RP thinks about it.
trppy 11y ago
Don't talk about this to her. Escalate a bit further every time.
aguy01 11y ago
This. Just keep pushing for it, especially after she's had a few drinks. If she gets 'upset' just say something along the lines of you being cool with her waiting but you're not gonna not make moves. Play on their fantasy to be ravished by a man that can't resist her and say you just can't help yourself, you just get so turned on by her that you have to try (in a playful way). Don't apologize for being a man that needs to fuck. If she is genuinely attracted to you and you act alpha she will respond positively and eventually let you fuck her.
Keep the relationship sexual, even if you aren't having sex. Spank her ass, kiss her aggressively (use her hair to control her head while you give her hickies and she 'fights' to stop you, etc) and just don't let yourself be thought of as a friend. You need to remain a dominant sexual entity in her mind.
aaron_the_just 11y ago
Definitely don't ever talk about it.
Teutonicfox 11y ago
start dread game as well as everyone elses advice.
start talking to and being more interested in other girls, esp while shes around.
"Dont like me talking to other girls? perhaps you'd like me to take you back to my place... "
i mean seriously 6 months? No. next her if she doesnt comply soon. if you dont.... shes going to continue turning you into her beta male orbiter and will continue using you as such until she finds an alpha.
and if she doesnt want to give it up... youve already started talking to other women. and the other women have seen you while you were dating someone else.
as for the answer to "how long?" 5 dates or so max... depending on the situation and the woman.
the_fapzaurus 11y ago
Thank you for your advice.
But I forgot to mention that she's doesn't have too much self-confidence. That's very likely one of the reasons, too.
My question is: is it still going to help me if I flirt with other women and put myself higher than her (which I think is already happening, because she's the one that cares more about our relationship) or is it better to try to make her more confident (and how would you do that)?
anymanusa 11y ago
Not following the logic about her confidence issues. You've received good advice :
Don't discuss or negotiate any time frame.
Flirt with others.
Escalate and keep pushing boundaries sexually (while agreeing verbally: "we should stop." "yes" hand goes down panties).
RPSavant 11y ago
yea just be persistent. try the "just the tip" routine. works every time
the_fapzaurus 11y ago
Can you explain what this routine is about? I cannot find it anywhere.
boydeer 11y ago
he is referring to just convincing her to let you put the tip of your penis inside her. what happens with a young impressionable young female mammal when a tiny bit of penis is inside her, she gets excited about it. it is a stereotypical thing you would expect teenagers making out to say or do.
in general though, have fun, relaxed, sexual times with her, and escalate a little more each time. it's easier to convince someone to strip to their underwear than to get completely naked, and if you do that a couple times, it gives the other person time to get comfortable at that level. then you can progress more.
i don't know if this helps, but if we're laying down and taking her pants off fails, i take my pants off and say "these are uncomfortable." and then i'll just be in my underwear and keep making out. the girl will often take off her own pants. monkeys are strange.
also, if you're in your underwear and she is folding her hands or being all awkward with them, you can usually just grab them and place them on your balls or nipples or whatevs and she will dig it.
EDIT: and you got fingers, so tease a bitch.
aaron_the_just 11y ago
If this stuff doesn't work, she's not into you/not attracted to you.
In which case it would be advisable to next her.
greek5576 11y ago
Just show her this
aaron_the_just 11y ago
The right amount of time to wait for sex is "however long you want to wait". The last time I waited, I chose to date a girl for 2 months (fooling around in that time but no going all the way). It was my choice.
If I escalate with a girl and she resists and there's no sex - I don't really bother seeing her again. Usually, she'll reach out within a week or two and try to make it up to me.
Zeus_vM 11y ago
Just get out now, that whole situation is total bullshit and not normal.