This has been discussed to death, i'm well aware of that.
However, i would like some tips and pointers if at all possible, without being called out on the aforementioned.
First and foremost: I don't have an issue in approaching and talking to an individual girl, i find that much more straightforward than when they're in packs.
I was at the mall with a friend of mine the other day, eating a gyro at the food court and he says to me "Jimmy, see that groups of girls over at that table, go talk to them". I told him i would after i finished my meal, as i anxiously thought over how i would go over and talk to them.
By the time i finished my meal they'd already parted ways, and left me with regret and blue balls, as well as disproving words from my friend regarding my hesitancy.
My question goes as follows, how does one casually introduce oneself to a group of girls in a public setting, in my case, a table full of 18-22 y/o girls at a food court?
After thinking over it Ad nauseam through another sleepless night i came to the conclusion that the most straightforward way to do it would be to go up to them and offer to show them a magic trick (I know quite a bit of magic), and see where that takes me.
What would you guys recommend in that respect.
ALSO:
How would one go about asking for a phone number? I've found that it's easier to give my phone number but that comes with no guarantee that i get a call/text. Asking "What's your number" comes off as awfully assertive within 15 minutes of meeting someone. Nevertheless, i'm willing to listen to the Red Pill Masters.
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Jimmypickles 10y ago
Thank you.
Yes to being in High School (Senior Year) and I've been lifting for two years and am in excellent shape. (315 Squat, 225 Deadlift (i had a back injury so i stay light with deads), 75's on DB bench)
I'm trying to use the Red Pill to overcome my social retardation as a result of being raised in an abusive single parent home.
But i don't see what wrong in approaching the group of girls, isn't that a key tenant in Red Pill ideology, being able to approach and flirt with girls in any circumstance? Maybe i get laughed at, but i'd take something away from that. What do you suggest as the alternative to meeting girls as an under 21 and unable to frequent bars? (Mind you, due to my social retardation (and financial situation) my social standing in school is almost non-existent.)
DiggerClam 10y ago
Turn those lbs into kgs.
Paklenipas 10y ago
A magic trick? What are you, a trained monkey? You will end up looking like a try hard, believe you me. You have to remember that at this point in your development the purpose of approaching is to BOMB. IF you get a number, IF you get a txt and IF you end up talking to a girl, that is all extra. Right now you need to get rid of your fear of talking to girls and of the approach anxiety. Girls can smell fear on you and no amount of tricks is gonna save you from that. Just go out there and aim for 100 approaches. You will bomb 90 of them. The moment that stops fazing you, when you become outcome independent, is when you will be able to move forward. Tldr: One step at a time, get rid of approach anxiety first.
Jimmypickles 10y ago
You gave me the "what i need to do", what about the "how i do it"?
fnordsnord 10y ago
/u/blackhornatnight already gave it to you:
"Hi. My name Jimmy. I think you're real cute. I want your number so I can take you out sometime."
Her and her friends: nervous laughter
You: smiling I'm serious. I want your number.
That's all there is to it. You will be shot down 90% of the time. Because that's the way life is if you're male and meeting women. Period. You get 1 - 2 number closes per every 10 approaches.
Get out there and approach, and get some callouses on your rejection-feels.
Paklenipas 10y ago
Ah, I see your problem. Well, for everyone is different. For example, I'm blunt about it. If I like her hair, I say it outright. Usually that is all it takes to get a positive response. But, let me ask you something. Have you studied PUA techniques? They cover this part in detail and there is a sea of data about just this kind of stuff. A productive PUA phase is a positive step in one's TRP development.
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No tricks, man. Just act like an adult. You're not one, but acting mature will go a long way.
Walk up to the group of girls and approach the one you are interested in.
You: good posture, eye contact, calm "Hi. My name Jimmy. I think you're real cute. I want your number so I can take you out sometime."
Her and her friends: nervous laughter
You: smiling I'm serious. I want your number.
Then there are two options.
Her: Okay.
You: Thanks. I will call you.
or
Her: I don't think so.
You: Ok.
Then turn around and leave, and maybe as your back is to her give a little shrug of your shoulders because this wasn't a big fucking deal at all even though it seems like it when you're a 17 year old dude with too many feels.