Men bring the group together, women keep the group together (when there is no common goal). If a man is being nice in order to placate and preserve the status quo, he is doing the woman's function. Polarity is what attracts.
@GayLubeOil what's funny is that if no one knows how to think, then no one can take the reigns of leadership. only the rich would be capable, which creates a monopoly, which leads to stagnation and decline. mind control is self-defeating in the long-term.
As with most things in life, one cannot have their cake and eat it too. When it comes to interaction w/ women, you can only fulfill two roles, but not all three- choose wisely (hint: there is only one combination that will lead to happiness.)