I tend to keep my life offline, only sharing a bit with a few that I feel comfortable around. We've all seen/heard people that make their entire existence everybody's problem to endure.
Things are getting a bit tougher. We are just waiting on the day we have to travel to so see an ENT for my Wife. Her Dentist noted something on her soft palette during her last visit, with the suggestion she have it looked at. She is now fretting herself with worry, not that I blame her.
It might be Cancer, which would make it her third since 2019, and now she is weighing in with the finality of life. It may be nothing, which is the whole reason to visit the ENT, but it's still taking a toll on her, which means that also gets carried over to me.
She is more irritable and getting more passive/aggressive in some of the things she says, which I try to ignore for the most part or will call her out on it if she's heading too far off the path. Sometimes, it's just better to let the Bear do what it's going to do.
I get it, I really do. The first two times were an ordeal of their own. Lots of Doctor visits, road trips, surgeries, treatments, medications and all the things that tie them together. That alone is exhausting.
If you add the type of Cancer, the stage it was discovered and long-term prognosis, it really does mess with you. Since she made it to her "considered cancer free" milestones for both, it's easy to feel as though you're done with it.
The recent Death of my Friend is still pretty fresh, and even though she wasn't there for his final breath, I'm sure she felt it. He was only a few months older than her. That has to weigh heavy on a body.
We have not told our Adult Children yet, and it's up to her if/when that might happen.
In the meantime, carry on...

First-light 1d ago
Sorry to hear that. It sounds like most of your energy is going into just carrying on. Most of the joy goes out of life when that happens. I hope things turn a corner for you soon.
throwaway_old_guy 1d ago
Thank you.
Lone_Ranger 21h ago
sorry to hear this. Talk with a couple of good friends about this. if you have just 2 good pals, this is worth the world.
thinking of you pal.
throwaway_old_guy 15h ago
I've been resisting saying anything since there is a chance it will somehow get back to my Wife, and it upsets her.
So, here is a safe place since she does not know of this site, and I'm not going to tell her about it.
I do have two close friends, and have not brought it up with either.
Typo-MAGAshiv Wisdumb in Training 18h ago
That sucks. I have no idea what else to say, except that I hope this turns out well for you both.
throwaway_old_guy 15h ago
Thank you, I appreciate it.