I'm just imagining some blue-pill guy who somehow got a girl to come over to his place dropping this line:

"Do you consent to have sex with me?"

And just like that, her pussy is dry.

Easy.

Use an alias, snapchat only, and go to her place.

False accusation will get nowhere.

Only surefire way to know if a girl is into you is to escalate. If she's into you she'll respond positively, if she isn't she'll respond negatively. A lot of dudes look for that "sign" or the "perfect moment" before they escalate so they don't get rejected, I say fuck that. Escalate and find out now rather than wait and find out later. Stop wasting your time.

Good post! I like the term "enthusiastic consent" -- didn't call it that but I've always known when a girl was really into me -- you can see it in her eyes. It was really cool the first time it happened when I was 18 -- and its still a rush at over 50. Sadly many women seem to loose the ability to be enthusiastic as they age.

If she's enthusiastically into you all that's required is very gentile escalation -- let her think she's taking the lead.

TL;DR:

Seduction is like sales, but always be escalating

Generally follow a 3-Date-Rule, but allow for exceptions in exceptional cases

Re-think your game if this is not working

You will get shot down on approaches often, and even if not, a lot of first dates (meets) should let you figure out if you have a shot before wasting time and energy

But learn to identify and overcome LMR and ASD with proper game so you don't pooch the opportunity (if you are fucking the dog rather than pussy, then improve and carry on)

In the sales game the saying is "ABC": always be closing. It's similar with women but you have the #-close and the f-close and some places in between. "Always Be Escalating" is more directly apropos but "ABE" doesn't sound as snappy.

The "3-Date Rule" comes into play. Setting aside a very tiny minority, you will rarely get down to sex within, say 18 hours of making contact, and you probably won't bang on a first meet (date, after an #-close or contact online).

OTOH, if you can't orchestrate getting laid, by the third date then there is one of three problems: either logistics is working against you (distance, conflicts in schedules, or something similar), she is blowing you off and not allowing you to even get her isolated enough (generally her place or your place but who knows) so you can follow through, or you get her into the appropriate setting and escalate but she puts the kibosh on finishing the deed.

Whichever of those three, you seriously have to rethink whether she is worth a further investment of time and energy.

Plus, you have to look at your own game. In the third scenario it might be that you didn't get her warmed up enough and tried to escalate too fast, or it could be that it is simply her LMR or ASD kicking in and you failed to overcome.

(I had this happen only a few times: first was when I was a teenager and my game was shit so nothing happened; second was when I was in the army and they were clamping down on "sexual assault" and we had all these silly-yet-serious lectures so I just said "ok" and grabbed my clothes and was out the door for good; third was young [26 to my 48], tall [5'9"], slim [BMI 19) and gorgeous, and it took me another few months to go from that heavy petting to coitus.)

But overall, it's volleyball fucking: bump, set, spike and if you fail to score, then move on.

YMMV and there will be exceptions.

Black Dragon emphasizes online game with a 2nd date bang. I'm not sure about time (either calendar -wise or actually online) that he takes to get a girl to that first date, but he keeps meticulous records of things like hit and miss percentages.

I'm not quite so. . .particular (plus I don't run a pick-up web site) but I do keep some records (which I assembled when my n-count was high enough I started forgetting their names), and roughly speaking: 1-in-10 were first contact bangs (I almost exclusively work online so that would be chatting for the first time with a same night meeting and having sex). About a quarter were first meet (date) lays, another quarter were 2nd date, and a 3rd quarter were on the third date. The remainder basically split evenly as to whether the situation was ambiguous (like knowing the person on a friendly or professionial basis but then banging within 3 dates) or simply tossing the 3-Date-Rule out the window.

I don't have a breakdown number of approaches, or how many failed first meetings, but I can count on one hand the number of times it took a second or third date to call things off (or in a few cases to get friendzoned and go into a controlled orbit for awhile).

If a chick really is into you and you're hanging out together, she'll make sure you have an opportunity to make your moves. Whether it's her inviting you over to "netflix and chill", she might lean on your shoulder in a movie theater, play fight with you, be really excited to see you and hug you enthusiastically (though this can also be friendly, but most times girls are like this it means they've at least crushed on you a little bit) or generally just stand close to you and invade your personal space in a social setting.

If you're asking "how to make a move?" you're either generally oblivious of her green light social cues or she's not that into you so you're not getting those green light signals..

I have experienced the polar extremes of the consent spectrum. The side where you end up fucking her but there was tons of LMR or there is consistently a good amount of LMR everytime you hit that.... is not a side you want to be on, and is pretty high on the spectrum of the "she's just not that into you". Also, this is when you're just asking for a false rape accusation, in the form of a retroactive consent reneging.

On the other hand, I have experienced all the sparks with one lady, making out with her at a club and having her literally drag me into the bathroom at the club. While the bathroom was disgusting and the sex wasn't that good, the tangible need she had for me at that moment and feeling that "enthusiastic consent" made up for it.

That being said, just because you are not seeing much LMR and she is gagging enthusiastically on your cock does not mean you shouldn't take necessary precautions to ensure you don't get falsely accused. Bitches b cray. Voice recorders if your state permits, post-coital "had a great night" texts...as has been said time and time again, none of the above are iron-clad in court but cover your ass as best you can, TRP 101..

what I call enthusiastic consent

My favorite takeaway from Models by Mark Manson was this.. "spend time with the girls that say 'fuck ya!' to being with you" This saves you SO much trouble in the long run with girls.

Just make a move. Try to kiss her. If it doesn't work out at least you know where you stand and can move on. You should never try to negotiate such a move, instant mood killer.