-----PREFACE-----

Firstly, I apologise for the potentially crappy formatting. I'm writing this on my phone after waking up moderately hung over.

Secondly, it may be of importance to know my mentality going into the night. I had just got off a poker session at the casino that didn't go the best. I broke even, but was a bit on the unlucky side (for any poker players here, I ran QQ into KK, and KK into a straight flush draw that got there on the river... not pleased). Due to this, I was on a bit of a downer but wanted to revive the night.

Thirdly, the location. A bar filled with largely 18-24 year old tourists in Sydney, Australia. For about an hour I just sat at a table with some friends and observed some behaviour before getting into it a bit more.

-----OBSERVATIONS-----

Chad:

When I arrived, there was one guy on the dance floor. He wasn't the tallest, and had some muscle, but overall didn't stand out physically. However, without giving any fucks, he just danced in his own world. I saw him stop a few girls passing by, he got 2 numbers it seemed. He looked like he was confident and doing whatever he wants in order to get some enjoyment out of what was a quiet bar / club setting.

Lesson: Don't give a fuck, if he looked hesitant and self conscious, his dancing would've looked stupid. Because he looked confident and happy, his dancing looked fun. Dancing like that may not be for everybody, including myself, but the underlying mentality is useful.

Little Miss Piggy:

LMP was a 4. She walked to the dance floor with a small group of girls, and a small group of guys followed shortly after. Within 3 minutes she had grinded on 4 different dicks and kissed 1 guy. Throughout the next hour or so I saw her kiss more guys, and pretty much give a dude what looked to be a hand job on the dance floor. She was approached by many, many guys. The ones who tried to talk to her didn't seem to do well, the ones who put their dicks on her ass did... she probably feels like a 10 with all of the attention.

Lesson: Sexual attention will often flow through the path of perceived least resistance. When she looked easy, more guys wanted a go at her. Don't fall into the trap of chasing the ugly ones, because often they will overvalue their SMV due to the attention that they receive, and besides, in my book I'd rather the number of a 9 than making out with a 4 who has had 4 tongues down her throat in between beers.

The FAT friend:

This bitch. To keep it short, she was with 1 friend, who was a 7ish with a pixie cut. The 7 was approached on the dance floor 3 times by a guy, all 3 of which the fat friend literally moved between the 7 and the guy and used her McAss to snow plough the guy away. However, she did not do this on one occasion, when 2 guys approached... 1 guy went for the 7 and danced, meanwhile 1 went for the fatty (who was also fat himself), and without even hesitating, the fat friend put her hands all over the dude.

Lesson: You will often get resistance from friends within a group, often the alpha, who don't want their friends picking up without them getting action too. She would justify this behaviour by saying that she is looking out for her friend, but as I saw, she was just waiting for some cock herself. Sometimes it can be best to flirt with the alpha first, and then move to who you want (I wonder if in a dancing situation, it's best to approach her first also, and then move on to the friend, this way she can justify letting it happen by hamstering a story that she is too good for you and you tried and failed).

Black Dude on the fringe:

There was a guy who looked a lot like Graig David dancing on the fringe of the dance floor. He could dance well, but it wasn't as natural as the chad from earlier, and his back was nearly against the wall. He stopped a few girls exiting the dance floor, but it looked like a retail sales assistant making a last ditch effort to make a customer reconsider. He grabbed his jacket by 11pm and left.

Lesson: If you're going to dance and put yourself out there, do it 100%. This guy was very attractive, but he looked like he was forcing the moment rather than being part of it and consumed by a sense of fun. Rather than being the hot, smooth guy like he could be, he looked like a man who thought that he was only worthy of the crumbs dropping out of the dance floor, and no girl wants to admit to being that.

The Heroes:

I'll include these tards in my approach section, but just keep this basic lesson in mind: do not fight another guy over a random chick in a bar or club. Both were carried out by security, and the girl stayed. No hole to put your dick in is worth your night, dignity or even your life in some circumstances.

The ugly dude:

Not much to say here, other than that there was a chubby guy with a 9 making out with him next to the bar for the entire night. Point is, stop your bitching and delaying of effort, you can get women, and even attractive women, if you put the work in and apply yourself.

-----MY APPROACH-----

Now, normally I'd want to approach 3-5 girls in a night out. To be honest, it's not really my thing to be in a night club sort of place, but I want to push myself to improve and become comfortable approaching women in more places. After spending an hour being mildly autistic in my less than optimal mood while watching the aforementioned people, I decided that it was time to have a go.

I told a friend to point at a girl. He did. I went for it.

This Asian 7 was sitting down at the back of the bar. She had 3 beers with her, so I assumed that she had friends still dancing or in the bathroom. Her head was buried in her phone.

I tapped her on her shoulder as I moved my body next to her, in front of a stool. I put my drink down as she looked up at me, and then I said "Are you watching porn in public?" with a smile. She laughed and then showed me that she was scrolling through Instagram. With her hand up, I grabbed her hand and turned a wrist band that she had to read it. With her hand there, I enquired about the 3 of them, and kept her hand. She seemed a little boring, and perhaps disinterested. I wasn't feeling it, but couldn't let myself give up.

Just after this, two other Asians came up, grabbed the other beers, looked at me and then smiled at her. They went a few tables over and sat. I told her to finish her drink and then we will dance. She did, we didn't.

As we got into the floor, I saw one guy with a girl in front of him with his arms around her, and then another guy yelling. The girl turned to push him away, but he got past and then threw a punch. The other guy threw back, one of them hit the deck then security took them both out. Mood ruined, club in a bit of chaos.

I then gestured outwards, and the girl followed me. She told me that she had to go to the bathroom, so I went back to my friends briefly, but kept an eye out for the area that I had just left. A few minutes later she was standing there looking around, so I walked back over. We went to a table again, standard touching, bullshit talking etc... if you want to know more about that, there are better sources than I.

We went to the dance floor again and danced for a few minutes before I went for a kiss when our bodies were close and nth hands holding. She turned away and yelled through the music "What are you doing? I just met you!". I put my arms around her waist, gave a shit eating smile, then went for it again. We made out for a bit on the dance floor.

The Chad from earlier was still there. I made eye contact, and we were both super drunk. We had a weird gangster handshake type thing. This didn't really mean anything, but it's not a bad thing to make a habit of associating with your resident Chad. Not many people will turn down a handshake or high 5.

It was getting a bit late at this point and it began to die down. I suggested that she came back with me, she gave a more serious shake of the head. Fuck it, I have plates, so I just said "okay". I pulled my phone out with Facebook open, where she added herself. Night over.

-----CONCLUSION-----

What the hell is the point of this? You didn't even get laid!

This:

Put time into learning.

Even when you're having a bad night, have a go.

Be honest with yourself. My game wasn't the best, and I need to make sure that I can control my mood a bit better.

Don't find excuses. I saw ugly guys with hot girls, and hot guys fucking up approaches on ugly girls. Obviously maximise your looks, but actually behave in a way that will get you somewhere with women.

Be aware of the social dynamics of a group of women. This sub has many great sources for this.

Be fun. Be mysterious. Be whatever, just know what your market is looking for, and be aware of how the sexual marketplace operates.

-----AN ASIDE-----

I'm still half drunk I think. I've rambled a bit, whatever. If you can find some useful stuff, good. If you don't (and maybe this is just repeating and reinforcing what we already know), that's also good.