TL: DR - Be someone that other people want to be seen with.

Often times, we see stories of the wives/girlfriends of men leaving them. We also see how when they improve, they become a magnet for attraction not just for women but for people in general.

Unfortunately for those who are sad fucks who have nothing to offer, the world is "give and take" in the sense that you give others what they want and in return you take what you want. Why is it "unfortunately" for the sad fucks? Because they have nothing to offer, and then they'll complain about not being able to take what they want.

Let's imagine you are back to your days of teenage hood, you're in the school cafeteria eating your lunch alone and at peace. Then this new kid who you've never seen before, comes down and sits next to you. In one scenario, this kid looks good, he looks clean, healthy, has a confident voice and amazing eye contact. You would love to be friends with this new kid, so you'll befriend him and want to be seen with them because the idea is that people judge you by who you're with.

But let's say in the other scenario, this kid who smells like garlic and curry, his face looks like the definition of tech support and- oh God not only is his voice high pitched, his teeth are yellow. "What the fuck, man?" You'd be thinking to yourself. "Can this human virus please leave me alone oh God I don't to be seen with him." You'd feel insulted, you'd ask yourself why the fuck does this kid think he talk to you?

Don't lie to yourself, whenever someone unimportant talks to you, you'd go "uh-huh, yeah, oh sure, oh okay, yeah" but when someone important, your attention is 100%. It's biological, unimportant people are a drain to our resource, we don't want them to be with us because they're a liability. Sure, perhaps because of your reputation or career (politics for example) you may want to appear engaging to some extent so you do more than "uh-huh" but none the less, if you could, you'd tell that unimportant person to fuck off and never talk to you.

You can usually see this for yourself, check how much do people that you know value you. Do those people say hi to you when you walk past them? Do those people talk to you with respect? Do these people often engage with you and invite you to their conversations?

I realised this when I was 13, I was the least popular kid in the least popular group (in other words, we weren't invisible) and once I gave a public speech to the whole school in my year, it was at that moment I was suddenly getting all the attention. Many had praised my confidence and voice and- oh what's this? Now my friends, the same friends that had ignored and interrupted me when I spoke, the same friends that hadn't invited me to their trips, the same friends that often forgot about me, they were now the one giving me the attention. For the first time, I became the centre of attention.