I've been lurking on here for a while, leaving comments here and there when I felt appropriate. But, after a successful sexual encounter earlier today, I just wanted to write a bit to encourage anybody who comes on here who is still very far away from the Alpha status idealized on this sub.
Seven months ago, I was a sniveling wretch of a human being. In early 2014 I began sliding down into a pit of nihilistic drug abuse and depression, and the entirety of 2015 and 2016 was a literal hell on earth within my mind. I had no values or desires other than to end my own life. I temporarily escaped from this corporal existence with cannabis and psychedelics, intellectually masturbating to how enlightened I was that nothing had any meaning or purpose. Both my body and mind degenerated and atrophied probably to the point of someone bed-ridden with some kind of debilitating disease. I mean I certainly did a lot of laying in bed, but it was not out of physical inability. My mind was further destroyed by psychotropics that were actually prescribed to me by a doctor rather than myself as well as multiple electroconvulsive therapy sessions that have basically erased a good 5 or 6 years of my memories. They helped a bit to keep me from killing myself, so I guess they were necessary. Many of you on here might be familiar with Dr. Jordan Peterson's work. The person he warns about in all of his lectures, the dark side of humanity, the nihilism and hatred and death and pain that is possible in the human experience: I embodied what he intellectually fights against. My entire identity was reduced to depression. I couldn't remember anything else and I didn't know anything else but emptiness and nihilism. I could write further about the philosophy and psychology and all the wisdom that I lacked that led me to that point as well as what shocked me out of it, but that would be getting outside the realm of this subreddit. Suffice it to say that I was in a really, really bad spot.
But then I started to fix myself. I resolved to have goals and desires because I had finally hit rock bottom. I wasn't afraid of death anymore. I was finally ready to kill myself. But that agency awakened something in me. I took responsibility for my life in that moment. I could kill myself if I wanted to. Nothing was holding me back. But if I'm going to live...I need to actually live. So I looked inside myself and figured out, if I was to care about things, what they would be. And then I put those things into action. I started working out. I enrolled back in school. I had lost two years of my life and all my old friends were about to graduate from college while I still only had a semester of classes done in a shitty major that I didn't care about anymore. But that was just more motivation to work harder. I got a shitty job to put some money in my bank account that wasn't my parent's. I'll mention again that this newfound resolve didn't just magically appear, I had just finally gone so far that I was ready to turn my life around and a significant emotional event shocked the physiological part of my mind into a bit of energy that I had lacked for so long and I just built everything from there. It was more complicated than, "hey I think I'll start being a person again today," but it's a way longer story than I want this post to be.
Then I went monk-mode for 6 months. I didn't know that was the red pill term for it: I didn't know what the red pill was at the time. I had basically no fun this entire semester. I was at a new school with very few extracurriculars or other social opportunities, living with my parents and building myself up from nothing. All I did was work, study, and exercise. I discovered that my entire bone/muscular structure was fucked up from all the years sitting on my ass and playing video games and being complete unhealthy so I was in a lot of pain after every workout and went to a chiropractor three times a week for a long time. I had to completely change my diet from eating maybe one meal a day as a shriveled zombie to eating 3000 calories to sustain the exercise that I was doing and gain weight so as not to be a skeleton anymore. I threw out and replaced my entire wardrobe of metal band tshirts and ratty jeans and cargo shorts. I cut my hair and my shitty hobo-looking beard. I was lonely as fuck. All my old friends were in a different city going to my old school and I couldn't even remember a lot of them because those memories had been shocked out of my brain. I had to relearn to socialize and how to actually be a fun person instead of a depressed nihilist who thought everyone's concerns were so fucking trivial and that everyone was so ignorant because they didn't see how pointless everything was. I changed my entire life, my entire attitude, my entire identity. I worked my ass off and, (here's the whole point of this post), it paid off. Today I got my grades back from this past semester: 17 credit-hours of all As. I also fucked a girl that I had known for maybe two or three hours of total interaction. She even admitted to me afterwards that she had absolutely no intention of having sex with me when I got her number and asked her out a few days ago. The game, all the frame shit and the confidence and the body and the kino, it was like I was leading her through a dance that climaxed with my dick inside her and her saying "I have no idea how it got to this but I love it." Speaking of my body, I went from lifting just the bar for every lift in October to squatting 225 today. My six pack is just on the edge of being defined, I've got obvious pecs and biceps: overall highly recommend Stronglifts 5x5.
Maybe I'm saying all this to brag a bit. And I'll admit it feels good to type it all out. But what I want to get across with this is that it doesn't matter how much of a degenerate blue pill piece of shit you are, if you work at it you can become something fucking awesome. Lift heavy shit and leave the gym fucking wrecked every single workout. Meditate. Eat good food. GIVE A SHIT ABOUT SOMETHING. Organize your life. If you do this you will gain confidence and alternately overcome any anxiety you have and then women won't even be something you have to work that hard for, especially compared to your other, higher pursuits in life. I'm honestly starting to think that the goal of bedding a lot of women shouldn't even be the thing that drives you. Maybe at the start it's helpful, but while I was fucking this girl today I was thinking to myself, "This is great and all cause she's pretty cute and fit and shit, but this isn't even the most fulfilling part of my life. I've been pining over women for so long while I was going to classes and feeling so isolated, but now they're almost starting to fade into the background because everything else in my life is so stimulating and fulfilling to me." I think this is a good place to strive to be at because, paradoxically, the less you need women the more they will come after you. But what the fuck do I know? I'm 22 but I've only been an actual man for like 7 months. Having sex is still pretty awesome and I guess making it a primary goal isn't too bad of a thing.
Point is: sort yourself out, bucko. You CAN do it and it WILL pay off immeasurably. I've been a shell of a human being and now I'm literally making my life into a work of art that fleshes out and experiments with the concept of the ubermensch that Neitzsche so unfortunately died before he could completely articulate. I'm fucking transcending the Absurd. I'm not everything I want to be, but I know what I have to do. This shit WORKS. Desire to become a MAN! I had no idea how much of a child I was and I'm excited to learn even more every day. I feel absolutely fantastic; I had no clue that this kind of existence was even possible.
In summary, if I could do it...
YOU CAN FUCKING DO IT.

canlrn96 9y ago
what did you do to improve game? as far as resources and what not
wont_tell_i_refuse 9y ago
Thank you. You reached someone.
[deleted] 9y ago
If you did all this just to get pussy then it is kind of needy, weak self improvement is great but if it is subordinate to validation through sex its just another form of slavery
[deleted] 9y ago
I completely agree. That's why I wrote about my feelings after fucking that girl: my sex drive had been partially driving me and clouding my valuations of myself for so long because I had no access to women and was needy. After the need was fulfilled, it became apparent how trivial of a need it really was.
Shortbull 9y ago
Wow great story. Congratulations. Did you use to have cold showers or warm ones /u/doxpara?
[deleted] 9y ago
I tried cold showers and nofap for a bit, but at the time I decided I needed at least a little bit of comfort and pleasure in my life to keep myself from burning out. I used them as rewards for myself after working out or finishing a school paper or something. Now that I'm in a place of greater discipline and strength I'm beginning to try both those things again.
Shortbull 9y ago
Oh thats an interesting approach as a reward system. Good luck in the future
bossplayaintraining 9y ago
What was your daily schedule for all of this?
[deleted] 9y ago
Get up at 6. Make breakfast. Do homework and shit. Pack lunch. Leave for school commute at 8:30. School from 9 to 2. Get home 2:30, beat off. (Yeah I locked at porn and jacked off daily and it was weak and whatever sue me when my T levels went up cause of lifting I became a sex fiend.) Chiropractor at 3:30 on Mon Tue Thurs. Workout, lifting on Tue Thurs Sat, cardio and pushups/situps on off days. Ton of stretching cause of chiro issues. Eat dinner around 6. Rest of night spent working on school and/or listening to Peterson lectures, watching lifting/nutrition videos, reading about meditation, reading about coding/artificial intelligence or just watching stupid entertainment because I was lazy that day. Work on Fri, Sat, Sun.
Throwawaysteve123456 9y ago
Dude, that reminded me, the best thing you can do is to view your life in intervals. Don't look at days, afternoons, weeks. Look at 15 minute intervals. If you're THAT good, go down to 5. Every minute counts.
[deleted] 9y ago
Fellow computer science grad here. Brother its not about being weak or strong willed, you're just missing out on something very pleasurable. I'll just say, after two weeks celibate the jizz feels like it's backed right up into your head, like your brain is clogged up and you start to experience the world completely different. You can then make coding much more pleasurable through one method (Sexual transmutation for coding) I'll quickly outline for you if you haven't yet experimented in this area of your configuration space:
On a physical level, Think of a male dog in heat, his eyes almost have a white layer over them. He looks a bit crazy. He's not interested in dilly-daddling around, he's completely focused on his goal, always trying to escape to find females. Hes in a feverish state. In the same way, it affects you. Your vision and hearing are affected just like that dog on a physical level (the blacks around your iris become more pronounced, its why great men like Osho have such amazing deep eyes). On the other side, the experiential is as if your eyes are applying a Cross Process filter on the world. All your senses become alive, Everything looks and sounds more solid, better and pleasurable.
Where this comes in for coding (and working in general) is that the brain feels so much heavier and fuller, and the music we can fortunately play when we code becomes incredible, vibrating deeply around your mind and you can get yourself almost lost in a trance of pleasure in this state if you can direct your new tunnel vision towards an interesting goal. Anything that you want can then be done effortlessly, without requiring any reason or motivation. This is basically just what sexual transmutation is. I'm also still young, but If you want motivation pm me if you wish, I can show you robots and incredible systems I coded while I was in this state for months, pics of my incredible success in university picking up awards and such all because of this method.
I stoke the mind further when its "full", with a HIIT early in the mornings and a couple of strong coffees + sugar. Then you can be in absolute pleasure for a solid 12 hours coding / AI. Instead of it feeling like "hard work" or the whole thing being goal orientated and "paying off" it's just bloody good fun. Personally I thin a fap or sex is not worth losing this incredible bubble. I find Life is completely dull and pointless, and you'll always just be pushing yourself to do things (or as you said otherwise "feeling lazy") until this reservoir at least partially refills.
wont_tell_i_refuse 9y ago
This shit is crazy but as a coder who has done 90 days of nofap I agree with it. Well written
RedPillFreedom 9y ago
Can Confirm It makes life much easier. There is no discipline or push needed. It's a simple what should I be doing and done. Like you could trigger states of flow at will.
Constant ejaculation feels good but really makes me feel overstimulated. My brain feels foggy and discipline feels weak. Sex doesn't really cause this(I always say it's because of other chemicals rather than just dopamine). But specifically over-fapping. Sometimes you can fap and still retain this. But, that's only when it's built up for a while.
[deleted] 9y ago
I just wrote in another topic that the contented omega is the true hopeless, while the suicidal one atleast has grasped reality and is one step away from grabbing its balls. Seems to fit. Came from a similar background, too.
sj2k 9y ago
Congrats man. It's crazy how setting a good routine and having goals in different facets of your life will just produce results over time. It's almost like you build a habit machine that's fueled by time and it just churns out rewards.
Anyway, have you tried Jordan Peterson's self-authoring program? I just started it and it certainly added some clarity to the highs and lows of my past (something it seems like you've already partly achieved). Check it out & clean your room
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scissor_me_timbers00 9y ago
Did psychedelics help you at all? I've been battling a nihilistic depression for years and I'm bout ready to shoot my brains out, but I wanna use psychedelics to clear this fog
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scissor_me_timbers00 9y ago
Yeah I know how it all works
[deleted] 9y ago
There is a very small chance they will help you. I can imagine someone bogged down by their own stupid perspective that takes a psychedelic, is struck by how insignificant and temporary all their problems are, and then works to make their life better having gotten a glimpse of the world without the self. But you're already nihilistic. You know everything is subjective and all values have to come from within. You just haven't made any values because you're depressed. If your state of mind is similar to what mine was, psychedelics won't help you at all. They'll just be a 6 to 8 hour escape from reality, or they might just make things worse.
What you need is to get your neurological reward pathways unfucked and create some existential meaning in your life. My purpose is to create artificial intelligence. There's a plethora of reasons I have chosen that specific goal and they're all really deeply rooted both philosophically and personally.
Nihilism isn't the end of philosophy: it's the beginning.
Rooibosisboss 9y ago
you're not watching enough peterson lectures, it's not the end or the beginning, it's just shit. regardless i commend some of your attitude and yes organizing your life to a schedule can definitely help.