One of the major schisms in Red Pill/Blue Pill thinking is whether there can exist a natural "chemistry" between a man and a woman, or if the "spark" that she feels towards him is artificially manufactured, intentional on his part or not.

Let us suppose that Harry meets Sally at the local public library.

If Harry grew up surrounded by women, going to parties in highschool, eventually he might notice trends - certain conversations, habits, dress, or touching her a specific way tend to maximize his chance of scoring. He's learning how to create that spark of romance.

But let's say Harry didn't go to more than the occasional party, because he was busy doing other things, or he was just a loser with low self esteem. He never learned how to physically escalate, he never learned how to read the cues that Sally's just hoping he'll make a move - and suddenly, Harry is in college, surrounded by guys who seem to just "get it" and are sexing it up with hot sorority chicks, while he can't get more than the occasional date, on which he can't help but wonder if this girl made Chad wait six dates, four of which were at expensive restaurants, before putting out.

Harry's not a bad guy. He just doesn't get it. He doesn't know how to make romance happen. He doesn't know how to make "chemistry" happen, unless it's in the context of moles and Avogadro's number. And we can't fault Sally either, never in her life was she responsible to create a "spark" and woo her partner, so as far as she's concerned, the chemistry simply isn't there.

TRP is full of men who "get it", in that they are sexually successful. They tell stories to provide guys like Harry with the experience that they never got, to give them the means to create the spark themselves. This all sounds alien to women, because it is - it's like a martian showing up to Earth and pretending to fit in by reading textbooks on how to act human. Sally was never responsible to make the romance happen. None of this was ever even on her radar. All she had to do was show up to a party for the first time, and she simply gravitated toward the guy who "gets it".

Meanwhile, the Harrys of the world often discover that having social skills is not the same as being able to get a girl into your bed. Most guys who can't get laid are normal guys who don't like confrontation, go to school/work every day and drink with their buddies on the weekends. Social, well-adjusted guys who do everything by the book. But for whatever reason, they're still not getting laid, at least at the same frequency as Tony the jockstrap who dropped out of highschool and repairs cars for a living, but knows how to play the game.

To Sally, social skills and picking someone up to go home with are the same, because she goes out to a house party to be social and "whoops!", this guy said all the right things and touched her the right way, next thing she knows she's back at his apartment, but that just happened. She's not usually like that. She's not that kind of girl.

In the same story, the guy who took her home had to go through agonizing months of trial and error, in high school or later, to learn how to make it feel organic - like she was "just being social".

"Chemistry" means that there's some mysterious spark that indicates the relationship was "meant to be" - in that sense, Joe RedPill, who knows how to navigate the sexual marketplace, doesn't perceive chemistry, because he had to take the initiative to attract her in the first place. He had to make the romance happen. In contrast, 99% of the time, all a woman has to do is show up and let herself be swept along should Joe's game be tight enough.

But be careful not to conflate "chemistry" with affection. Joe RedPill can certainly feel emotion towards a woman transcending physical attraction, especially once he has invested in her. It just won't be the classic, magical experience peddled in childhood movies. The fact is, the Disney romance doesn't exist - at least for men.