Been social media free (with Reddit as the exception) since July 2016. Was a weird adjustment at first but single handedly the healthiest decision I've made in the past decade. Highly recommended it to anyone.

But before... https://soundcloud.com/user-580652804/the-mark-baxter-podcast-episode-6-rollo-tomassi-and-ed-latimore

I'd say you should just delete everyone that is annoying or that isn't important to you. It's better. I went from 700 smth friends to 50 and now it's all good. There is a lot less publications and notifications. I don't spend any time on it anymore, except to organize things.

I have Facebook. Maybe I'll post once every 2-3 months? Besides the messenger Facebook is useless.

I realized that I had Snapchat and Instagram for three years now because a girl I was orbiting downloaded them on my phone and made my profiles for me, because apparently it's just that important. I kind of used them, but then I realized I don't even like these apps. It was just that girl I used to like whom I haven't spoken to in years now. I saw that her boyfriend's Instagram just had a picture of them two and figured that she must have also done the same with him. She took that picture. So I deleted them. Instagram and Snapchat are for teenage girls. They're the girliest forms of social media. I then decided to disable my Facebook account for at least a while if not forever.

you don't have to delete it just don't use it

I love FB. It is personal brand management.

Quitting social media doesn't relate to any of those things. You can have a fb and snapchat and spend all of 2 minutes on them if you want.

If you're the type of guy who can't have a fb or social media because you get addicted to it, then you need to change what kind of guy you are, not quit social media.

Incoherences? No, awesome post, really. Very effective advice too.

deleted WhatsApp a couple days ago due to many groups/constant messages.. although I had no vibration/pop up notifications etc, it still bothered me how much time I spent on it. Now people only text/ring me if it's important or needs to be said.

Having an instant messaging app makes you way too available, meaning people will be more willing to send you irrelevant garbage.

If you really have to have a fb (or any other social network) account, an effective tip I would give you is to remove the app from your phone and only use it at the pc/laptop.

Most of us have our phones with us all the times and that's how we really get hooked up, receiving notifications and doing these "harmless" 10 second checks at every five minutes.

That way you will manage to still have it, but use it much less. And once it becomes a habit you won't even notice that you are now barely using any of these websites.

and downgraded to an old blackberry

I'm glad you at least stayed with a relatively modern phone. I always see stories like this where people will go to a dumbphone or flip phone expecting it to improve their lives and yet they give up many, many things that could make it easier; GPS, notes, Spotify, etc.

In general, dropping social media is always a good idea. I have a Twitter for my freelance work and a Snapchat with the only person on it being my girlfriend so she can send me nudes once in awhile.

Everything else was gone a long time ago. If I could remove myself from the Internet even further, I would.

EDIT: Also, your English is pretty damn good for it being your 3rd language.

I'm actually considering ditching FB myself. If people want to reach me, let them send me a text or call me. As a matter of fact, this post has inspired me. Time to free up some space on my phone...

Unfortunately, a huge part of my job is networking and acting important.

So I have to use FB and LinkedIn to keep in touch with people.

That said, here are some tips. Firstly, you have to consider it a self-updating contact book, not a source of entertainment or news. I have 1,800 friends and over 2,000 LinkedIn contacts.

On FB, as soon as someone adds me or I add someone, I immediately unfollow. Out of my 1,800 friends, I get status updates from my sister, girlfriend, best friend and 2-3 other people. I did this at about 600 friends, took 2 hours to unfollow everyone, and its huge.

I didnt bother doing this on LinkedIn because everyone on there is just humble-bragging about themselves or trying to look like a CEO, so I never feel enticed to read it anyway.

For the others, they are basically useless for me, and there is no need to use them. I can't think of one deal or business relationship for me that began on twitter. OTOH, if I was a public figure I would probably use Twitter to speak directly to my constituents. Current POTUS is a great example of how to use Twitter. But I don't need it so its deactivated.

Instagram is a complete shit show full of attention whores. I downloaded it and it was gone after 5 mins.

These are like all technology. You can let them use you, or you can use them. Same as cell phones... is the cell phone your master? Do you always look at it and answer it when it makes a noise? Or are YOU the master - you look at it when it suits you and use it when it suits you?

If you can't be the master, its totally fine, admit it to yourself and just turn off the phone and de-activate FB. Thats better than being a slave.

This is good advice. I am now 13 months social media-free(deleted it all on New Year's Day January 1 2016).

Never once have I looked back or regretted it.

The fact that you need social media for game and proof is a myth. Develop and improve yourself so all the proof you need is within yourself and not the facade you create on your social media accounts. Social media is a crutch.

I've never been on "social media". Social media id for women, manginas and fucking retards.

When you become "available" to a woman, she will lose interest very quickly. These products make a person "available".

There are expectations and obligations to social tools. Whether you think you do or not, you do "explain yourself" when you don't reply in a way she wants. Another turn off.

You can't be out in the open and mysterious at the same time.

You DO NOT need 'Social Media Social Proof' to be desirable or attractive to a woman.

I agree that Facebook is disgustingly addictive (atleast for me).

Often times I will just open the tab and type in "f" for facebook, check the website and see nothing new and close it. 10 Seconds later I do the same thing again without even thinking. It became a bad habit.

But I need to add that I got quite some numbers by simply adding a person I met and had good chemistry with (on a party, event, etc.) and exchanging a few words which so far always lead to getting their number.

 

• Stop watching television.

• Stop reading the generic MSM. ("Main Stream Media")

• Stop using things like Facebook.

 

• Spend a limited, but useful time in the Manosphere.

• Spend a limited, but useful time reading Alt Media for news.

• Spend a limited, but useful time pursuing "unique" research online.

 

• Do things in the real world... leave the Smartphone at home and go outside.

 

I've been considering the downgrade for some time

While i appreciate your effort and i am glad you are seeing positive results with this,i must say for younger guys social media is at least necessary to be in the in-crowd.

If i meet a guy and he says 'I don't have a facebook(or insta etc)' i know he is a bit socially inept and has little to no social life.And i am right 99% of the time.That's the hard truth.

Now,being a RP guy you may not fall in this category,but people don't know that.To them you are coming off as described above,for better or worse.It's almost creepy for women,since they use them so much.

And besides,how much time you spend on social media is up to you.If you are addicted to them,then you have an addiction related problem not a social media related problem.

I quit long back. Life is good.

I dumped FB about 1y ago. My life quality definitely went up.

No social media sites except whatsapp and snapchat.

I close girls on snapchat sometimes when they are kind of hesitant or when the interaction is pretty short. The point is that you can show them on snapchat how awesome your life is without any like/share bullshit . She doesn't know how many people see your snaps but if you constantly put it out showing hot shit she'll think you have people out there who like you. You should snap things which spikes their emotions so that she remembers you. Now when you ask her out , she is already pretty comfortable. Its not like facebook , she doesn't know anything else except your snaps. So keeps the mystery.

Plus , this also forces you to live an awesome life as you have to constantly put effort into hot shit.

Frankly I've been on both sides of the fence and the only reason why I'm keeping it right now is because it's useful. For instance, I have access to 0.facebook.com (no pictures, only text) which is free, so you can essentially keep in touch with your friends and family without spending a dime. This is especially useful for school-related announcements, I'm subscribed to a group where people share those kind of things and you get to read them for free. Professors know this too, this way students no longer have the excuse of "my data plan expired so I couldn't check my email and that's why I didn't do the assignment".

Another useful aspect is joining career-oriented groups. I get some pretty useful tips from there and it's thanks to them that I am now enrolled in a masters program (people shared old entrance exams and interview questions).

It was also extremely useful when it came to catching low life thieves and exposing the corruption that plagues my country. Things like these used to go under the radar but now, with how easy it is to film someone and share the video or even stream it through Facebook live, it became much more difficult for them to get away with it.

These were the pros. The cons are that it's engineered to be addictive (red notifications, (1) on the title bar, etc.) and that it's extremely bloated. I'm actually forced to use the mobile version on my laptop due to how slow the desktop version is. It also destroys any mystery you might have left, people can stalk your profile and pretty much profile you. Even people you're not friends with, if you have friends in common then they'll check your profile on their friend's phone or something. You can keep it empty but the temptation is there and you have to resist it, which is more difficult than just closing it altogether.

As far as deactivating it is concerned, it was a very liberating experience that made me realize how much time I had wasted on it prior to that point. You no longer have to witness nor take part in the unspoken penis measuring contests of FB, which by the way is something that messes with the heads of all those who are involved. I only came to this realization after I closed my account for a while then logged back in. I was hit in the face with an insane amount of passive aggressiveness and humblebragging, something that I had thought to be normal when I was part of that community.

The con of closing facebook is pretty much the absence of the aforementioned pros so I'll refrain from reiterating.

It's only a problem if it rules your life. It's pathetic it's such a consuming thing for people. I pretty much check FB when I take a shit or when my band puts up a flyer. That's it. If I spend more than 5 minutes on it my misanthropy goes through the roof. I almost immediately stop following people because it's always posts about their dinner or their fucking dog.

People need some fucking hobbies.

I'm not on social media and never have been. I have no idea what draws people to it. I'm always surprised when I see that any of the guys on this sub are into social media at all, let alone "addicted" to it.

keep it but unfollow everyone else

Actually leaving or just not posting at all. I did that on twitter for a month or so and posted something and a girl started freaking out that i was back.

Did same thing almost half a year ago. Does wondrous things to amounts of free time and to mental well being.

Facebook is for faggots. Stop posting pictures of yourself and stop fishing for likes.

Good for you, but don't you think social media has a positive side too ? It's like a two edged sword imo .

Why do you considering whatsapp an social media when it's just free texting?

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I deactivated everything except my WhatsApp (which I only use to stay in contact with family in my country of origin). Everything else is a waste of fucking time.

social media works very well if you know how to use. i don't post anything but people (chicks) always tag me in a bunch of cool shit

I kinda think one cigarette a day is one too many. Just like 2 minutes of Facebook/Instagram/Snapchat a day aren't sane unless you really benefit from it. So I def support deleting this triad. Whatsapp I don't know. Always nice to text someone and have a nice profile pic associated to it, because girls are swarmed with texts and you gotta put a face on a number.

I'm still on tinder tho because easy sex and abundance yadda yadda. So I got a mock Facebook acct, no friends on it. When girls ask for social media, I tell them I'm focusing on my career with important goals this year (which is true). It's good enough to get a "oh wow ok" and a number.

I really need to get used to talking to girls in places that are unusual to me, such as the NYC subway. Was standing in front of a true 9 this morning, catching glances, getting in and out of the train at the same stations.... and didn't talk to her. 0 issues at the bars, or the gym, but the subway? Couldn't move an inch. I wanted to smash my head against a wall. Social media turns us into deep autists.

So you copy pasted your comment from another thread (where OP is hamstering about lifting as well...) and you think that's enough to make it's whole post without adding anything ?

The fuck has this sub gone to

Your english is fine

edit : copy pasted comment past comments/5q89yh/simple_tips_from_a_simple_man_who_went_from/dcz13vk/ after redpill

I dumped everything about a year and a half ago. I only text or call people and basically the only app I use on my phone is Reddit. Very relieving.

Wastebook is a tool for females to compare status and trinkets. They just recently rolled out their "fake news filter", which is Orwellian speak for amping up propaganda. Kill it.

I deleted FB years ago, once I saw the trend of "data mining" and your privacy going out the window. Life has never been better, however I do admit, Iam working on a tumblr blog/Instagram so that still ties me into social media.

I'm very new to TRP, but facebook has gotten me quite a few digits.

First off, unless the person changes their settings, facebook displays people's digits.

Second, I have a love hate relationship with facebook. I deactivate and come back all the time. If I'm talking to a lady on fb only and I get in the mood to leave I give them my number. I say, hey I'm leaving fb, and you're cool so if you wanna to chat sometime hit me up. my number is (123) 456 7890. I've had a 100% success rate with this. If they are worth pursuing, they hit me up. If they don't hit me up, they are a waste of time.

Facebook allows unsubscribing from users, there's nothing stopping you from setting it up as a news feed from certain groups. I set it up to serve nothing. That way I get to use messenger to talk to my friends and sign up for events that I am interested in without wasting my time looking at profiles or gazing at the timeline feed.

Technology remains a tool. Instead of pruning that chunk out of your life altogether, why not learn to use it effectively? I used to be very agnostic of new tech trends, but by being self-aware of my usage I've adapted some of these technologies to better serve me.

You make a good point about taking some time off can help you get a better grasp at your dependency though.

Nice advice. I only use SM for business, and occasionally to check pictures people face marked me in. The one major upside of it is the sheer amount of passive social proof you can advertise for pretty much nothing at all except letting people take pictures with you at places.

Aside from that, nope. Better things to do and physical people to meet. Much more rewarding personally.

As far as others have mentioned here, yes it is a problem with the person, but I'd recommend an alcoholic remove alcohol, just as any addict should remove their source of addiction until they've built the proven discipline to handle it responsibly.

Yup. You also start seeing other benefits. Like spatial awareness increases on a massive scale once you get rid of the ease of Google Maps or the like. Printing out directions or memorizing them. etc.. the benefits are endless.

ooorr.. you can just better handle your activities and get the same results.

Facebook made me a bunch of money from different sources/approaches. It is compltely invaluable and everybody has it. It is a tool and you can use it the red pill way or you can write "you look stunning" over your crush`s picture you just fapped to. Mainstream media however is toxic in all ways.

Just started 2 weeks ago and it is amazing.

messenger.com is literally just messenger. You can also keep the messenger app on your phone without having the FB app. That's how I keep in contact without spending any time on facebook.

Social media is only good for making money and getting laid.

The most power thing is you're no longer influenced in your decision .