Introduction
No mental masturbation in this post guys, sorry to disappoint.
I want to bring up some recent failures that helped me learn/reinforce some things.
I'll talk about three recent scenarios.
Situation 1
NYE. I'm at the venue with my cousin and a group of friends. He's talking to a group of two girls. I make eye contact with a blonde HB8. She smiles, I wink, she grins. Game on. I walk over to her and we say literally two words before a song comes on. She asks me to go watch the band perform the cover of the song, I oblige.
We get to the front and she's drooling over the lead singer. I wave at him and mid-song he leans over. I tell him she's drooling and wants to say hi, her face gets nervous and she looks at me like "you made me so nervous." I just laugh and we go to the back of the crowd where we start making out.
After that we move back to where our groups are to where she asks for my number. I told her it wouldn't really work out because I'm not from the area. She looks at me and says, "you wanna go to the bathroom?" Again, I oblige. (Fuckup #1).
We go to the waiting area outside the bathroom. I can see the stalls in the men[s room are packed and the women's room is full of bitches taking selfies. She starts making out with me there and another blonde comes out the women's bathroom with what I can only describe as, the most piercing dirty look I have ever seen.
She stares me down, looks at the girl and whispers something in her ear. Yep, you guessed it, a cockblock. The girl wants to magically go back to her friends (go figure.) I find one of the mutual friends we had in common and ask her what happened.
Apparently, the blonde "claimed she was a psychic, and sensed that I had herpes." I shit you not, a random gypsy psycho bitch tells that to a girl she doesn't even know.
Lesson Here: Take her to the car, to a hotel, outside the bar, I don't give a fuck where.
Bitches don't want to see other bitches hook up. They hate not being the center of attention. They will cockblock relentlessly.
Bonus: After we split she was hooking up with the lead singer who she was too shy to talk to when I introduced them. Go figure.
Situation 2
Saturday night. New bar opened up. I'm playing pong with a buddy. After we beat the first team consisting of some friends, two girls jump in to play us. We tease them as they miss their shots and one of them keeps locking eyes with me. I smile, she smiles back, but I don't pursue as I want to keep playing. We end up going four in a row before retiring and giving up our spot.
I'm talking to a group of friends, and the girl from game 2 comes up to me, "I'm convinced you guys cheated." I grabbed her by the hand, brought her to the table, "see that fan up there, it was blowing everyone's shots away." She giggled, and started making small talk.
For some reason, I had put my arm around her within those first few seconds. She welcomed and reciprocated by feeling up on me.
The fuck up? I opened my stupid mouth. Instead of physically escalating like I was, I tried to make a sarcastic comment and it blew up in my face.
Lesson Learned: Shut the fuck up and let your body do the talking. Yes you can screw up an interaction with a girl who approaches and is feeling you in seconds.
Situation 3
Same bar. My friend is talking to a group of two. I go over and introduce myself. The girl in front of me isn't feeling me but is feeling him. I tell him to switch places with me. The girl I switch to is on her phone. I tell her "It's rude to be on your phone," and "what are you too good for anyone here?"
She laughs and says, "I like someone." (Shit test) I tell her, "Coincidence, me too," and point to my friend. She starts giggling and we dance. Again, I have to open my dumbass mouth. Instead of enjoying her grinding her shit all over me, I open my mouth and ask about the guy she likes. She gets turned off and leaves.
Lesson Learned: Shut your fucking mouth and be in the moment. It really is emotions with these girls.
Conclusion
So what did we learn? It's always our fault. Even when there's variables we can't control, we should still own our shit and take the losses and learn.
Keep a girl you're hooking up in public with away from other girls. They will cockblock you.
Once she's interested, shut your mouth and let your body do the talking.
Keep it silent unless she breaks it.
Don't be like me in these examples.

Rugby11 9y ago
Own everything about ourselfs... https://soundcloud.com/user-580652804/the-mark-baxter-podcast-episode-6-rollo-tomassi-and-ed-latimore
newName543456 9y ago
As for shutting up, I once grinded with a chick in the club. Things were progressing to me kissing her shoulder and going upwards, but suddenly, instead of kissing some more, I felt weird "urge" to introduce myself and said so loudly to her ear.
Chick in question just "drifted away" not much later.
So yes, less is more.
wataDs 9y ago
"Not mental masturbation" tbh I learn more from these I fucked up posts more every now and again. Thanks for posting.
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GentlemenMindset 9y ago
Well done. You're probably the first to see through my BS and explain it for me.
BestSC86 9y ago
It would seem the bigger issue isn't that you don't shut up but your actual personality is completely different than your appearance.
I am willing to bet that it is because you are trying so hard to be the cocky arrogant alpha that you come across as a asshole or even worst just a dumbass.
The comment to the lead singer about the drooling girl, sarcastic comment and the lame "Coincidence, me too" telegraphs a try hard smart ass.
After a certain point, you have to be at least somewhat authentic or the girl is going to bail....
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GentlemenMindset 9y ago
Not necessarily beating myself up. Acknowledging that it was a screw-up and to learn from mistakes.
TRP is fluid and there are gray areas but some stuff is just plain avoidable.
GentlemenMindset 9y ago
I always thought defending your ego was justifying yourself when you get called out and not acknowledging you own your failures.
I guess our definitions are subjective.
I read everything and agree that I shouldn't be hard on myself, but the same people who tell me not to beat yourself up and it's not your fault are the same people who actively blame others for their own failures.
Been there, done that, got me nowhere.
kez88 9y ago
just gotta guess the best you can from experience what is your fault, and what is plain dumb luck or an act of god. You have a fantastic mindset for approaching everything as something you can fix and change and taking responsibility for it, because you'll be able to change a LOT and learn A LOT with that mentality. Only issue with that mentality is that's its possible you did the right thing, hit dumb bad luck, then throw out your theory for the wrong reason, not because it wasn't right, but because something unlucky went wrong.
In this case, the girl in bathroom line, car would have been a better idea, but it was bad luck to hit a line for bathroom and bad luck someone spoke to her.
With beer pong girl id actually suggest that because you said something sarcastic or whatever it was, you showed too much value and negged her too much when she already felt you were high value and a target, you CAN overdo attraction. You may not have to shut up entirely, just play it more cool and try to escalate+isolate.
Girl on dance floor with friend: Definitely bad move asking about the guy, and definitely bad move trying to talk to a girl while on the dance floor, double bad idea if its incredibly loud and she can't really hear you properly anyway.
Better idea if on dance floor is to grind/dance etc, then LEAD her and isolate/escalate when you want.
Overall, great FR, keep it up!
Level_Dreaded 9y ago
If only more people would be honest about their failure after TRP, you can't grow if you don't know how to improve.
TomFoo 9y ago
Awesome post.
Don't ever do what a girl says or asks. In fact, do the opposite. This was actually your first misstep. Even if HB9 bent over yells "FUCK ME IN THE ASS" don't you fucking dare do it. "You don't deserve my thunderous cock right now in your dirty cunt ass!" is the only correct response.
Your misstep foreshadowed your first real fuckup, which you noted:
Actually I don't think you were cockblocked. You were simply in her frame, she wasn't in yours. She led you twice. For all we know her friend could have simply whispered to your HB8 'u ok?' and your HB8 could have been like: 'no i'm actually done here.' If you're cockblocked, make sure it's YOU who's doing the blocking to YOURSELF. Frame is everything.
Structure is strategy. What is our structure here in TRP? It's our bodies. If you're 6'2", good for you, now go fuck yourself. But if you're on the 5'10" or shorter, then you need to lift, be fit, have muscle mass, etc. Be attractive, don't be unattractive.
Once you have this structure, approach, pass a few shit-tests, shut your mouth, you're good.
TheProphetPhysiquiel 9y ago
Thanks for posting this, I definitely learn more from my failures than I do from my successes. I suspect it's the same for a lot of guys out there.
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Today, I approached and had a conversation with a pretty cute girl from one of my classes.
We had a nice conversation, but I made two fuck ups:
Didn't allow there to be any silence. I opened my fucking mouth just a little too much.
longschlong12 9y ago
This. Especially their fat friends. The fatties would go out of their fucking way to destroy whatever relationships with men their skinny friends have.
entj4life 9y ago
always pay more attention to the fatty and maker her feel good. it'll make fatty lower her defenses and actually think you like her. it'll also make your target girl a little more jealous. win win
theredpillager 9y ago
I too have experienced a complete stranger woman cockblocking me in a restroom line. I managed to turn it around though and still bagged the girl. It is actually one of my most epic conquests. Anyway, yes, women will absolutely get in the fucking way at any opportunity they can. Kind of hard to predict though, and I have to admit, fucking in a bathroom stall at a bar is a bucket list item I wouldn't mind knocking off.
Asking about the other guy was a very beta move. Good on you for owning it. Practice makes perfect.
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ThinkingofPIV 9y ago
asking about the other guy is like lesson101 level failure.
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ThinkingofPIV 9y ago
Mr. cumglazedpoosy, what you've just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever read. At no point, in your rambling, incoherent response, were you ever close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this thread is now dumber for having read it. I award you no up votes, and may God have mercy on your soul.
GuestsGetGreens 9y ago
Excellent post. Many men get frustrated and think it's the girls fault if they fail. When in reality it's always the man's fault for not bringing his best game.
phibetared 9y ago
I assumed the "do you want to go to the bathroom" question was to have sex/blowjob. If it was meant to answer nature's call.. why the fuck would I follow her lead to that?
iamneptuno 9y ago
Chicks eye fuck you, approach you, but somehow, you still manage to fuck up.
Truly, if you just believe in yourself, you can do impossible.