Many guys both in TRP and elswhere are under the false impression that they are either “improving themselves” – “hey dude, I’m in monk mode” – or they are partying it up. Either or. With these men, everything is binary. These are the same guys who want a pussy-plan because they need you to spell things out. They don’t trust the process.

To be honest, when I first joined TRP I thought “monk mode” was the most autistic sounding thing in the world. “Monk mode? What the fuck is wrong with you that you have to classify yourself as ‘in monk mode’?” I stuck around despite this, because TRP has some great points mixed in with the chaff.

I became desensitized to the term over time and eventually “monk mode” became part of my TRP vocabulary. But recently I’ve reconsidered and arrived at the conclusion that monk mode is a toxic idea and should be eliminated from the TRP vernacular.

In its inception, the idea of monk mode was a good one. But it’s evolved to become this place of stagnation where men justify not approaching women because “I’m in monk mode, bro.” They are waiting for the never-arriving day that they will reach the level of being “hot enough” to get laid.

In other words, they’re just a dildo. A sexy, shredded-with-a-washboard-tummy dildo, hitting the bar every night with all the other dildos, hoping that the the hot blond squeezed into her skin-tight jeans chooses him to get herself off that night.

How pathetic is that? A guy tracks his macros and cooks healthy for himself, busts his ass multiple times a week in the gym doing heavy squats and has a some kickass hobbies… for what? Hoping some chick is into him enough for her to use him to make herself feel good?

I have no love for this MGTOW movement on the internet, any guy who is really “going his own way” isn’t bragging about it on the internet. But they do have a point that some guys get so swept up in “self improvement” for the sake of attracting women that they become an empty suit. All sizzle, no steak. Fizz without the soda. They have no real interests of their own.

Actually, that sounds like 99% of the super hot chicks you’ll ever get with. Without getting off on a tangent, I’ll give you this: those hot girls? All of their interests are left over from some ex-boyfriend, all of the music, their favorite movies, their cooking/gym habits (if they exist), they all either come from a strong father, which is becoming less and less common, or an ex.

In any case, the takeaway here is not for you to "go your own way". Just be honest with yourself - what motivates you? You'll find that developing the discipline to do what you need will come easier once you answer this question. Don't lose sight of the goalposts.