I respect my jiu jitsu professor. I respect how he has the ability to coach me toward greatness if he chooses to do so. I have no respect for my drinking water, and yet without it I could not become great, without water I would surely die and yet I have no real appreciation or respect for water, I just expect it. I am entitled to it and have never felt threatened in losing it. Water has no will of its own, its easy to control. We construct dams and water towers, there is little threat to my water security. Similar to water, many women do not respect their BB provider, and yet without his paycheck their lifestyle would not be sustainable. Without his resources she might become homeless. (I know she can divorce rape him and get half, making sure she will never be destitute, but humor my analogy for a minute.) Why doesn’t she respect him? Because like water she has never feared she would lose control of him as a resource. Even when she tested him. Even when she bitched at him incessantly, or withheld sex or belittled him. He never showed her he would walk away, if she didnt start acting how he wanted. And why didn't the man choose to enforce his own desires you ask? No Agency. Say it with me:
NO
AGENCY.
This guy has lived his entire life being a good little boy, following all of mommy’s rules. Paying good attention to the important teachers! Going to church every sunday, being a good little servant of the powerful and scary man in the sky. Because when the little boy follows all the rules, then mommy and daddy reward him. They take him out for ice cream! They buy him a new bike!! They hug him and tell him how proud they are!!! Finally the little boy gets what he wanted! (Or at least what he thinks he wants…) These hoops aren't so bad! I can jump through them! I can be a good boy!! Yay!
That little boy grows up into a big boy and goes to college, and follows all the polite people rules. He makes sure he doesn't make strong eye contact with any of the girls or express his unfulfilled sexual desire, or impose his will on others, because that might make the other people feel bad! The big boy has learned and agreed that in order to be considered a “Good Man” (Get the gold star, receive love and validation in your character, get the reward ie: sex) he has to jump through the very important hoops! The hoops that are meant to help him! He learns to love the hoops. So when a girl in his class says “I only date guys above 6’ “ he exclaims “Oh but I am!!! I’m 6’.05”, do I get the gold star now? Are you closer to loving me? Do you respect me now? How many more hoops til the prize?” To which the girl may choose to use him for his resources of attention, validation, attractive boyfriend to show off to friends, his money or tell him to take a hike…. but that woman will never EVER respect that fucking poor man-child. That sorry failure of a male character. That male body still stuck in the prison of a childs mind. Why not? Because he has NO AGENCY
I am finishing up my Economics degree this semester and taking a class called Public Choice Economics which has given me some analysis tools to bring my world view into a much sharper focus. Public Choice Econ is the study of how to best use Government to serve the people. There are two main views of government “Mechanical” and “Organic”. In the Mechanical form of government, government is used merely as a tool, a BB if you will, whose sole purpose is to appease the desires of the masses. The Organic view is that Government should act as a separate agent with its own desires or goals that it dictates to the masses. An AF if you will.
In Public Choice Economics there is a very important concept called a captured agency. A captured agency is when an interest group, or other non governmental group, has lobbied the government successfully and gotten self-serving legislation through to the point where the interest group can now manipulate the government agency. An example would be Monsanto lobbying the FDA to allow potentially dangerous chemicals in food because its cheaper to produce that way. Basically, when a company or group has control over a government agency.
The key difference between a captured agency and a free agency is in how they make choices. A free agency will maximize its own utility, a captured agency will maximize someone elses utility. For the dummies out there; a free agency does what's best for itself (organic) or the masses (mechanical), a captured agency does what's best for the group that captured them.
If you want to know once and for all how to finish digesting The Red Pill, if you want to know exactly how to be an alpha then just take the above economic concept and apply it to your own mind.
The government is your conscience, your goals, your ethos. The interest groups vying for control are every person, group or ideology on earth. The legislation are values that have been force fed to you. So if you are a member of a religious group based on faith in some higher guidance, superior to your own rational decision making, guess what? You’re a captured agent. If you think selflessness and caring are more important than getting what you want because thats what they taught you in kindergarten, guess what? You’re a beta. If you in any way suppress your desires because you’ve been told they’re “Bad”, you are a fucking beta. If you in any way put others goals or desires above your own you are a beta.
To be an alpha you must be a free agent of a certain degree. Consider it like degrees on your black belt.
- The most basic degree of Alpha is not putting other males desires and goals above your own. Lead the Men and the Women will follow
- The next higher degree is not putting women’s desires above your own. Take her off the Pedestal
- The third degree is not putting ideological values you’ve learned above your own self generated values. Leave the Matrix
- The fourth degree is not allowing your own emotions and lower impulses to cloud your decision making. Be Stoic, Be in Control
- The fifth, highest and perhaps most controversial degree of Alpha masculinity is not allowing anything to impede your self generated mission. Be on your Purpose
These are not in a strict order so to speak but having achieved the previous degree directly helps the next degree of Alpha.
Honestly this concept could and probably should be expanded into an entire book. A how-to on following the Red Pill rabbit hole deeper and deeper, becoming alpha on an increasingly deeper level. This concept has a ton debate around it and some grey areas, like if you have a mission and live to fulfill that then are you a slave to your mission? I believe that your mission is the physical expression of your true self so it is impossible to be a slave to your truest desires, that is the definition of freedom. All this and a lot more could fill a philosophical book on “The Tao of Alpha”, an intellectual RPer’s wet dream but if you follow the concept of being a Free Agent, the concept of unplugging on all levels, then this post is all you need.
You now have the road map. You now know what you must become. Go forth and metamorphose.
Peace,
SWTDO
TL;DR: Unplug from societal conditioning, expectations, and fairy tales. Put no ones agenda above your own. Discover the truth of reality, who you are as a man, and what you value. Discover your mission and single-mindedly pursue it. Be an Agent, not a resource.

should_ 10y ago
I think something we have to come to grips with is that following your true mission often will feel like being a slave to it, at least at first. Doing stuff you have to do because you know you ultimately want that result often doesn't feel great at all during the time (extra hours for prime money-making tactic whether job/career/investing, gym). The way I've had to phrase it is, "My boss can either be stuff I have to do and it will suck temporarily and be great later, or my boss can be whatever I feel like doing for the next half an hour. The more I do the latter, the more likely I will still be under the whims of my actual current human boss."
Anonymous_Arab 11y ago
Great post. What you said about lack of agency realllyy helped me re-evaluate a recent situation I've been in, and reaffirmed for me as to whether or not I'm taking an appropriate course of action.
But with regards to the bit you say about religion:
It sounds like in your opinion, one cannot be alpha if one chooses to submit themselves to the whims of a higher power. But isn't saying fuck that and fuck you, I believe in this religion because xyz essentially embodying the alpha mentality of do what you want?
It's quite possible I'm taking it the wrong way, and I have no doubt that I have a bias in this. I grew up religious, then unplugged and completely abandoned religion, and now I've found my own path that led me to certain spiritual beliefs.
SugarFreeFries 11y ago
You're overthinking it, do what you fucking want. If you were "alpha" (seriously pisses me off how people use the word on here) you would not give two fucks about what this guy has to say about religion, You're not, realise this and realise that it's ok, Rome was not built in a day, you have a long way to go. You'll get there, keep at it buddy.
goddafindbettername 11y ago
I might jump in on that one; cause those two cases are actually two pair of shoes. Following the "be good or land in hell" mindset (or any other form of societal conditioning) many kids got instilled in their minds while young has definitely to go away in order to fully mature.
On the other hand finding personal faith - or "custom" spirituality - is the polar opposite, as you are synching your mind to your truer and most inner self, so to speak. One accepts some external truths as valid for your own worldview, based on the fact that they ring true in you in way which is hard to put in words. This way of relating to the world is inherently incompatible with organized religion, it's actually sort of mgtow in spiritual terms. So the alpha - to use that overused term once - has faith in whatever his deep personal truth is. Whatever it might be for you - or any other person - is to be discovered, but never along the lines "I have to do obey/knee down/slave away or else". More like "be good and good things happen to you" or "mind shapes reality". You get the idea.
So you see, it's really far away from clinging to any old books (or groups) and taking their mostly ideological bs for granted. Hope I could contribute.
stop_talking_ 11y ago
The point is to be conscience of when you acquiesce power. Value it but give it up if the circumstance serves your purpose
PookIsLovePookIsLife 11y ago
I think what he argues is that you can have an alpha mindset with religion, but you're an alpha agent of a religious ideology rather than your own inborn desires.
Serving God vs being your own god (your sense of morals and values are yours alone).
ted1618 11y ago
Nice to see a Jiu Jitsu bro here.
Wiseloudmouth 11y ago
I Love Bjj-ing with the bros
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ThreeEyez 11y ago
Cool post man. Basically be autonomous(I think everyone should take a philosophy class).
CisWhiteMaelstrom 11y ago
My judgment when finishing my philosophy degree is that everyone should take one philosophy course and nobody should take two.
ThreeEyez 11y ago
Hahah agreed. Philosophy will literally mind fuck you.
ShitsWithTheDoorOpen 11y ago
It will destroy and remake you if you stay in it long enough. Just dont go to nihilism. The main mistake everyone makes is they learn in their second philosophy class "value is subjective so nothing really matters and theirs no god so im gonna sit around and smoke pot and play smash bros for 2 years because life is meaningless". But if you can crawl out of that trap and redefine your values not based on a universal but a subjective/phenomenalogical ground then you will be a walking god. Unplugged to the hilt. Most people lose steam though and stay in lazy and apathetic mode.
zanthelad 11y ago
So values shouldn't be universalised? By redefining your values on a subjective ground how can you follow a path of virtue and live a good life resisting evil? Evil is universal - rape, murder, theft and assault, and there is never a subjective judgement a person can take on the initiation of these that makes them justifiable. Virtue is living without evil and must be universally applied.
CisWhiteMaelstrom 11y ago
There's no one way to do nihilism. I ended at skepticism, existential nihilism, and metaphysical nihilism. If I have a body, which I don't, then it's working damn hard at the gym and if I have a mind, which you can't prove I do, then it's being trained constantly in shit loads of ways. Sometimes, nihilism is just permission to get jacked as fuck, get rich, nail skanks, produce nothing useful for the world, and never look back.
ShitsWithTheDoorOpen 11y ago
Existential nihilism is what im reffering to
ForgeAndTemper 11y ago
Excellent post. In essence; who benefits? Alphas answer 'me'. Betas don't ask; they obey.
red_gerb 11y ago
The little boys part. You NAILED it. that was me me me!
Check. lost some buddies over it.
check.
In progress.
Check and confirmed (last year).
codithejedi 11y ago
Have you read "no more mr nice guy"? It helped me a lot. I bought the audio book and listen to it while I mow 2x a week.
red_gerb 11y ago
Yes, read it twice. AND recommended it to a friend.
audio. good idea. I walk weekly. a refresher would be good for me.
trpbox 11y ago
Great post, I've been struggling to (concisely) put into words many of the things you mentioned above.
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In mathematical language, don't be bounded by a critical point(don't be controlled by anything, let alone a woman), but rather be an unstable solution of an equation. (be free and follow your own unique path).
crimson-hound 11y ago
I was pretty "alpha" in my late teenage years (16-19/20) with all aspects in my life aside from getting girls.
1.) I played music with a band. We were all best friends. Our bass player was really sloppy, unreliable, and was like dead weight to the band. It's really tough to kick one of your best friends out of a band, especially when everyone's saying "no" but I highlighted to my bandmates why he was holding us back, how we always sounded way better when he wouldn't show up to gigs and we'd have a fill in who actually played the songs accurately etc.. We eventually kicked him out, and down the line he understood and we maintained our friendship. Win win.
2.) This is a problem I've seriously always had. I think it stems from growing up as the only male in a household with 4 other women. I've always taken the role of the "man of the house/provider" with things and always just did whatever my mother, aunt, grandma, and cousin asked me to do for them because I always thought of those things as "being a man". Taking care of your family (especially women) and things they can't do. I never really let it impede on my own life, but I think it has a lot to do with my tendency to pedestalize women I'm seeing.. Even after researching PUA and manosphere stuff for the past 4 or 5 years.
3.) I'm in the process of learning this now. I've always been an idealist since I was a kid. I was a gung-ho marxist in my early college years when I became deeply obsessed with world-politics and anti-capitalism (hardcore SJW but I kind of grew out of it) I never understood why people couldn't "just live fairly" or how things like wars, famine, disease, etc could just go unchecked in 2015. It took me a long time to realize that people actually aren't born equally and to assume that they are is actually kind of dangerous for the masses (e.g... you wouldn't want a high school drop out thug-lifer to be your president would you?). I still hold on to some ideological rules that are really my core though they're needed for my own mental well-being.. Such as, helping out family when needed, do things to others as you'd like done to you (the golden rule), don't steal (I was a thief as a teenager, I started stealing to get by, but eventually kept doing it just because I didn't feel like waiting in lines or simply because I knew I could get away with it) and only use violence as a last resort un-escapable situation. Pretty much the only thing that's changed here is I don't really value intimate relationships as something "sacred" or "protected" like I did before (I would treat girlfriends like they're my wife after only being with them for a short amount of time).
5.) This one I've always had nailed down. I'm a musician and artist, nearly all my life since the middle of high school I've dealt with the "well what are you going to do with that?" question. Whenever people asked me this question, I immediately lowered my opinion of them because that question comes off as a put-down to me. If I asked some college "business degree, well what are you going to do with that?!" 9 times out of 10 they'll probably have either no clue what they'd like to do for work or give some vague answer like "be my own boss" or "be a CEO". But if I give that vague answer "make art, innovative designs, and make money off of it" I sound like I'm dreaming. Yeah it's a competitive world, but there's money in it if you're really good. If I actually listened to my parents and was a "good little boy" I would probably be stuck in some job that I hate, and have never gotten to tour, release records, and meet a lot of great interesting people as well as seeing a lot of great places that I otherwise wouldn't even be knowledgable about.
CopperFox3c 11y ago
Like that water analogy. It is natural to "go with the flow", but real success often requires bucking that notion. To do something great, something truly different, requires carving your own path.
As Pook said: Be the Prize.
oldredder 11y ago
Only in a land of plenty. You wouldn't feel that way growing up where there's very little. Lots of water in the world isn't drinkable: you'd need to learn fast to drink only what is & how to treat it yourself. You shouldn't ever feel entitled to life-giving resources unless you know how to do it yourself. I am thankful, not feeling entitled, to the life-giving resources provided to me by the works of others.
Women may frequently be too ignorant to do so but I am not them. I hold myself to a higher standard.
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PookIsLovePookIsLife 11y ago
Makes sense.
Explains why little boys attract all the little girls on the playground. The little boy has one purpose, which is fun.
If all we are doing is unlearning what society has taught us, what do we do once we have achieved this? I'd imagine what would happen would mirror the hero's journey, which is basically the story of man.
foldpak111 11y ago
Ah, the whole 'i only date guys above 6 foot' spiel. Fair enough, because I don't date women over 125#.
Rhunta 11y ago
Reading your post makes me think you are telling us you can't be alpha if you follow a religion. Can you explain this? I am a strong believer, so I am curious.
zenith828 11y ago
I think he is saying that if your religious ideologies prevent you from following your own desires, you are not truly alpha.
This is tricky because your own immediate desires might seem like what is best for you but may cause you to end up somewhere less than preferable down the road. One thing about following you own desires is that the path is more dangerous but can cause greater fulfillment.
Fishy19 11y ago
I'm also studying economics, public choice is an optional course next year, but it didn't seem all that interesting. But appearantly it is very interesting and useful? Btw, what are you majoring in?
ShitsWithTheDoorOpen 11y ago
Public choice has been one of my favorites because it analyzes religion, government, man and the common good in such breadth and yet powerful fine detail as well. It would maybe only be second to behavioral economics for me... Definitely take it. If you are cognizant of the liberal/conservative, adult/child, rp/bp mindsets through the course then your world view will become multiple times more developed from that one class.
And my final paper in the class was essentially this post without the concept of alpha and more development of the idea of free agents. Shit got me an A in the class lol so take it and impress your professor with your "unplugged" ideas. Pub choice is super red pill. Most RP class ive ever had
errrzarrr 11y ago
Go Austrian School of Economics.
Fishy19 11y ago
And why would you reccomend the Austrian school?
My country isn't Austrian at all, so our economics coursers aren't either. I do plan to deepen myself in it in my free time though. Any reccomendations on books to read?
errrzarrr 11y ago
Just don't know if facepalm or answer....
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[deleted] 11y ago
You can pretty much take do whatever you want and take whatever course and still win.
Just. don't. have. kids.
oldredder 11y ago
You can certainly be an alpha with kids: you just can't do it in a broken society with broken laws that makes the mother of the child the actual boss. This is solved by moving to a nation where there are no such laws and having children there.
[deleted] 11y ago
Having a purpose really tops everything. It becomes the ultimate premise of your frame. Too bad many people's heart is often in the wrong place.
Izzenw 11y ago
Your post is so awesome, that I remembered of a god quotation, as good as this text of yours.
"Women are equal and they deserve respect. Just kidding, they should suck my dick!"
darkrood 11y ago
Here is a good text to you:
"Your post is bad, and you should feel bad"
ShitsWithTheDoorOpen 11y ago
Either you're an idiot or a troll. I have no idea why you're upvoted