Summary: It's easy to next chicks who don't want to fuck you right away, but don't be so binary. Sometimes they can help you, leading you to other targets. Maximize your social leapfrogging opportunities with Non-Sexual Female Friends (NSFF).

Body:

When I moved to Big City years ago, I only knew three people in the area. One of them was Irene, a friend of a friend. She's a few years younger than me, soft-spoken, and a 7 out of 10-- very cute and stylish but not exactly hot. A few days after I arrived in the city, we decided to meet and hang out.

'Should I date her or should I keep her as a friend?' I pondered while examining her at the midtown bar. By the end of the night, after three drinks, I had decided the latter. Irene would be my NSFF. Surprisingly, I stuck to it.

I'm glad I did, because Irene turned out to be a complete social connector. She's invited me to parties, networking events, group dinners, art shows and so on. I tried to return the favor, but I'm sure I haven't invited her to half as many gatherings as she did for me. There's also the female friends of hers whom I ...ahem... got to know. (Or failed to know, but that's on me.) If Irene was a stock, her dividends have been peerless.

In the one year I've been on TRP, I find myself becoming binary in my thoughts towards women and sex, perhaps too binary. Like a raging hamster spinning madly in a wheel, it's always GO-GO-GO, FUCK-FUCK-FUCK, or just NEXT-NEXT-NEXT. I'm deathly allergic to orbiting women and suffering from oneitis, like any good Redpill'ed man. So if I'm not fucking a particular female, then whatever I'm doing with her must be completely beta.

Not exactly.

A part of the alpha male identity that I forget is the social aspect. I want to be a social alpha male, because a loner alpha is a contradiction. It's a gray area I'm studying critically, although in reality I'm known as the party-going or party-throwing guy.

That's why the concept of Monk Mode throws me off. I get it if you have to cut down on excessive socializing (especially with booze and drugs) and start improving yourself with physical fitness, mental clarity and long-term personal goals. That's the best use of Monk Mode. However, being alone for months on end and avoiding social situations, to change yourself? A complete alpha identity is not a vending machine where you insert solitude coins and out comes high Sexual Market Value. Again, it's not that binary, it's not that simple.

What is simple, however, is this: Meeting a woman, one-on-one, who has no sexual interest in you is, with a probability of 91.29%, a complete fucking waste of time. She will talk about herself, she will want you to talk about herself, she will ask you questions about herself, she will ask you for advice on what she should do with that one guy... you see the pattern here? Hypergamy, solipsism, and feminine ego are a bitch, even with NSFFs.

Now that I'm in my mid-thirties, women for me are strictly for 1) sex, 2) sexual companionship, 3) social connecting/leapfrogging and 4) social proofing/acquaintance. There's nothing I can learn from women directly and there's no way I will enjoy spending time with them if they're not giving me something of value.

But there is one more category of women, which only belongs to Irene. She's become the last-standing female I can actually enjoy spending non-sexual, one-on-one time with and come away feeling positive. Hypergamy rules her too, but it's not nearly as obnoxious as most women. But this friendship, in this context as I know it, won't last. Good things rarely do.

Lessons Learned:

1) Have your plates, fwb's, one-night-stands and LTR. But don't forget to mix in a few Non-Sexual Female Friends. Like nutrition and work-outs, variety can be beneficial.

2) Engage in group texting threads with your NSFFs and your bros alike. "Hey guys, I'm going to this art show tomorrow, come out and support the artist, he seems like a good dude." Make everything social.

3) Don't be shy about leapfrogging the NSFF: "Your girlfriend last night at the art show was kinda hot. I wish I talked to her more." You never know, your NSFF might do you a solid by playing cupid.

4) A decent NSFF who is a genuine and gifted social connector happens about 1 out of 10, if not 1 out of 20 women you meet. It's far from common, but when you find one, it's definitely worth the trouble. Be open to that.

5) "What have you done for me lately?" Remember to rotate your NSFFs. If they're not producing, that is, if they're not helping you to meet good people, give them a little radio silence and check in with them later on. Several times I have found NSFFs fallen off the social grid entirely, in Female Monk Mode.

6) It's easier to find a woman to fuck than a woman who can be your friend. Learn to appreciate the Irenes out there as much these badass alphas do.