Be Not Contained by a Formula | TheRedPill

Note: I don’t have time to write something totally from scratch for this inaugural EC weekend, so I am just gonna take an old Pook post and riff off of it.

Intro

Pretty common to see folks talking in absolutes at times here and elsewhere in the Manosphere. Do this. Don’t do that. Wait to text. If she takes more than 3 hours to respond, hard next. Dread her cat. Is she touching her hair, kiss her immediately. Err, no wait to kiss, to build tension. But always be escalating. But don’t be creepy. Only kino her elbow. No her knee. No her collarbone. Srsly guis the collarbone is the secret to all womenz … Guidelines this, guidelines that, etc. etc. etc.

TRP is not a manual, nor is it intended to be. It is a set of guideposts. The real secret is not the formula, but in the nuance of application. You must take the lessons you learn here, internalize them, and customize to fit. Adapt them to your own personality, your own style.

The Red Pill is the path … but the journey is your own.

Or to quote Pook: Be Not Contained by a Formula. For if you become a slave to the formula, then you will never be truly free. You will never break loose of the chains that bind you, but rather merely replace one set of shackles for another. You will never truly be your own man.

The Formula is Seductive, Beware

There was a fantastic post last week /u/virusofthemind about Game and methods of approaching women in bars. Introspective, covering a lot of the mechanics as well as delving into the psychology behind why those things work. Really laid out a formula for success in bar approaching. No problems with the post itself, it was very insightful.

Certainly, the author’s tactics are one way, but I would be remiss not to point out that they are NOT the only way. I have picked up plenty of ladies in bars doing different things, or even some of the exact opposite things that /u/virusofthemind suggests. That doesn’t mean he’s wrong. Or that I’m right. Or that you should try to memorize his or my “script”.

No, the key is that we own it. Our style, our approach. There is an authenticity in what we do. His way works for him, mine for me. We have dispensed with the script … we have taken the principles and embodied them. Moreover, it is such authenticity that allows for calibration, to adjust to the idiosyncrasies of the setting or context or particular girl.

The formula may be seductive, but it is not the Way. It is merely a stepping stone. Be not deceived and see it as the end.

TRP is Like a Salad Bar

I’m gonna dig up this old post by /u/feminazis_stalk_me, because I think it is fantastic and bears repeating: TRP is Like a Salad Bar.

Come here, take what is useful, and leave the rest behind. But whatever you do, remember that you must make it your own. Don’t become a formula, become a man. Merely changing the reflection upon the surface of the water does not change what lies beneath. A harder path, perhaps. But if you fear what is hard, you will never become what is great …

The impediment to action advances action … that which stands in the way becomes the way. - Marcus Aurelius

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Mckallidon 9y ago

As Bruce Lee said, have no way as way. Flow like water.

ManowaR1488 9y ago

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[deleted] 9y ago

Every time I read someone talking about a step by step formula on this page I instantly know the guys a moron.

We aren't machines. Pressing the correct buttons in th exact same sequence will not yield the same result in every situation.

I have no idea why guys keep preaching that shit and thinking they have somehow cracked life.

[deleted] 9y ago

Because, well, they have possibly cracked life. Just that this was for their own life. I'd still check their step by step formulas, I may see bits and pieces that can work or I think may work for my life or well, even better, If you can understand the logic of the formula, you can find your own.

[deleted] 9y ago

I hear you and I agree. However, my point was that these people are saying "do these exact steps and this will work 100% of the time".

That's the part I disagree with. They aren't sharing their experience as a guide. They are saying "do and say x y and z in this order and you will get the desired result "

I probably hacked that up but I hope you get the jist of what I'm trying to say.

ErenYeager91 9y ago

That is why people who read too much material about pick-up or watch RSD videos are confused as fuck. They are not sure what they should do at the exact moment.

The solution is to understand that everyone is different and that you should just pick up what is working FOR YOU!

Different thing with AWALT posts, you should always read those if you have time since matrix is constantly bombarding us with blue pill theory and we don't even notice it. That's why TRP is good for.

aanarchist 9y ago

they're confused because they're looking to be told what to do like fucking beta slaves as always, and when they realize that different dudes do different things, it never occurs to them that they're a human being too and should just say whatever they want.

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[deleted] 9y ago

PUA is like cheating on a test because you don't understand the material. Sure, you'll pass the test, but you don't understand the material. PUA will get you laid, but you won't fully understand why it worked. By focusing on how the sexual marketplace works, TRP teaches you not just how, but why. The why is understanding core TRP concepts like AWALT and the alpha/beta dynamic.

newName543456 9y ago

That's just confusion of newbies, what is a guideline, and what is an ironclad rule.

There are very few ironclad rules in this game. There are quite a few guidelines though. They are there for a reason: enough guys did them/noticed them and it seems to be generally working. Note, that unlike ironclad rules, guidelines don't work 100% of the time. But if you are a total newbie, you don't have a grasp of how things work, so you're tempted to regard those as ironclad. It might be not that bad idea, until you learn how and why things really work, it's better than doing nothing. Then after some time you realize these are not ironclad and work out your own way, which will probably largely comply with many of those guidelines, but not because you actively made it this way.