Just finished the book. Definitely inspiring to take action but the part about getting married before thirty or you'll be that creepy balding dude in the bar was quite silly.

As a 19y/o this was a great write up! Thank you for your time!

Fantastic article, cheers OP.

I'd like to personally thank the visitor who reported this for "misogyny", because I love a good laugh.

I'm turning 30 in a year and I want to emphasize some of OP's points about finances. If I had started my career 3 years earlier than I actually did instead of wasting that time playing video games and delivering pizzas, I would have 2-3x my current net worth and be on track to accumulating $1m by age 32.

Growth in net worth is generally exponential, so the earlier you start the better off you'll be. Each year you waste is a year of exponential growth wasted. The 20s is absolutely the best time to set your self up for financial success.

Don't spend your night drunk at the club if you don't have a good shot at bringing a girl home. Don't waste your time getting better at a video game just to beat your friend. While it's okay to have fun, realize that neither of you is going to be playing that game 5 years from now.

Be on the lookout for anything that is a time sink but doesn't improve you. Every person has the same 24 hours every day, yet some people manage to completely waste their hours doing nothing to improve their lives. Value your time as you value your money. Don't waste it on meaningless things and leverage it to get yourself to the position you want to be in.

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This reads like a womens blog post and contradicts a lot of red pill things.

Move to the big city, engineered to support feminist women? and where everyone just like you is going there also -- to fight for small apartments, all the jobs and high cost of living/traffic?

'Diplomas are worth shit these day', how many times have we heard from the graduates who cant work in their field. People are supposed to be happy with ONE career for 70 years like in is 1950?

You can't changed professions at 40/50? no late bloomers find their passion later? only people under 20/30 study. Apparently men need 'have all their fun/travel' in the red pill assigned but ironic 'low smv 20's' before their biological clock ticks away, yet in five other threads men are killing it all the way to 60.

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I wish I had found TRP in my 20s.

31 now, working on getting that STEM degree. It is what it is. Nothing to do but to work harder.

Excellent post. I'm 28 and I read The Defining Decade when I finished law school a few years ago. Great book and started opening my eyes to the nature of 20-something girls in society today (this was before I knew about TRP). I'd like to add one thing to your post since you invited.

1) For those in college or soon to be in college - PICK YOUR MAJOR CAREFULLY. You are young and fresh in a brand new place away from mommy and daddy with so many young girls and exciting things ahead of you. The number of distractions and 'confusers' in the college arena make logically thinking through major selection almost impossible. Your brain is going through puberty and major changes, you have very little experience in the world, and I'm willing to be you've rarely meditated or taken personality inventories. You do not know yourself well enough to pick (and heavily invest) in a major. Take your time.

My anecdote is that in HS I knew I wanted to be an engineer. I got to college and between friends, girls, the nature of the job market and the world, I decided business was for me and started that path. Didn't like it and switched to a major that was wildly different than my personality. I chose this major because I wouldn't have to go backwards and take out debt. Realized my mistake, decided to keep going forward and chose law school for graduate school.

Three years into practicing and the misalignment between my job and my personality can be crushing at times. Lawyering is great, but it is difficult to put your all (which every man should do) into something that you don't have the passion for. Worse I realized in law school that it wasn't for me but was too proud and committed socially to stop. I felt like I owed it to my parents and friends to go through with it. Don't live for other people, do what you feel is right.

I am glad that I have that education. But I spend my weekends building things and learning engineering. I'm about to start a class in the fall at my community college so I'll have the option to back to school for engineering next year if I want.

College guys - don't wait 10 years to figure out your major. Take personality inventories, meditate on who you are at your core, ignore the distractions of college when deciding your path. You can save so much time and energy by asking deep questions about where you see yourself now. Honestly, if you really have the option, WAIT to go to college. It is a scam of banks and government that society wants you to go straight out of highschool when you likely have no idea who you are or what you want to do.

So you'd think that after 30's you're shit out of luck around building a career? Is 30's the wall equivalent of women, but for men it happens with work?

I think I agree. I'm 35 trying to start a new career because I threw half of my 20's being depressed for being rejected by my oneitis, the other half playing video games and doing jobs that pay a dollar per hour, and I feel that trying to start over to get a decent job I like is an uphill battle.

Hell, even finding a job that pays a dollar per hour is an uphill battle, as people prefer college students for them.

For me, the biggest regret isn't that I didn't partied and fucked around, but that I didn't invested in my career. I also like how one of the stickies made me consider "forgiving myself" for my past mistakes, yet at the same time your thread makes me aware of them again. No matter how much I am willing to forgive me, the truth remains truth.

Guys in your 20's: Abandon the "your youth is the best time to party" narrative, put your work first, and partying second. After a long day dedicated to your studying/working, the leisure breaks will be so much more sweeter. Trust me.

Solid post. As a dude who is 18, this really helps as start to plan out my later life. One thing I will add that helps me is to keep a list of your long and short-term goals. Studies show that if you keep a list of goals you want to complete in the near future and also broad goals, You are more likely to complete them. A short term goal is hitting a new PR in the gym, or approaching a certain amount of girls in a week. Long term goals could be things like graduate school, losing that extra 20 pounds you know you need to lose, or even planning a nice vacation. Also, take at least five minutes per day and devote it to learning that language you always wanted to learn, guitar, or even practicing game. It can be anything you want that is productive. You'll be glad you started in your 20s and not your 30s.

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is today. Doing the things you mentioned in your twenties is ideal, but you can still do them in your thirties and beyond.

Men peak in their mid to late thirties and the male wall is in the mid to late forties. The male wall is also a bit softer than the female wall, as they become biologically infertile but men do not become infertile nor incapable of starting new projects, just worse at it. The sooner you start doing important things to better yourself the better chance you have of being successful, but the mid to late thirties and even early forties are mens prime years in this world.

I wasted the early half of my 20s. Heroin addict, shooting up, working dead end jobs, chubby/unfit and just in the drug scene. I did manage to get my degree in biochemistry through that time but after college, the first 3 years were that of a nightmare. I just landed a job working in bioinformatics and chemical diagnostics at 25 at a really well known company that is quite small too (pays 3 times higher than any job I previously had). I couldn't be more grateful for this opportunity and I know it's going to jump start my career. Also, almost 2 years sober from heroin now and spend an hour in the gym everyday.

You guys can do anything.

As someone is turning 34 this year, this is a most depressing read. I gave up trying for women in my 20s after much disappointment and received zero attention, of course. Around 29 is when loneliness and desires crept back in deep.

I'm extremely built, in good health, but after reading this, it seems like the good times are over. Time to walk into the ocean I suppose.

Man I wish I was reading this as a 21 year old instead as a 26 27 year old.

Fieldnote from Scandinavia: The scene is probably a bit different over here. When I broke up from my son's mother a year back, I installed Tinder mostly for fun without thinking it'd lead to something.

I'm not a hugely good looking chap. Average you might say, but I managed to get 60 matches within a week and 14 dates in as many days. If nothing else, I discovered what a huge amount of work it is to meet girls. I met all kinds of girls, old, young, single mothers, childless... How eagerly they matched with me didn't really depend much on their status in that regard. What struck me is that over here, women know to use Tinder and men don't as much, so there was a huge imbalance in the ratio of women to men - in my favour. One girl told me she struggled to get 10 matches in 3 months and she was a petite dancer. Sweet and kind.

Some of the girls would've let me stay the night, but weren't really my type and some were quite willing... I also met quite a few that were way above my level (I know, a bad mindset, but the RP way of life doesn't come overnight). Still, when you meet a 10/10 lawyer / prosecutor who used to be a criminal investigator half the year and sail the seven seas the other half, you get kind of self-conscious.

Anyhow, what was most beneficial to getting a match was probably my description. I started out with "A minimalist enjoyer of arts and life". I got a huge amount of matches with that. I then made it longer and put in something about liking to improve myself etc. Bad choice. Keep it short and sweet and don't contradict your statement of minimalism by rambling on.

Girls would always ask me about how minimalism showed in my life and what it meant for me. Once I made the description longer, I got virtually no matches at all until I changed it back.

What probably comes as no surprise to most of you is that my most popular photos were those where I do something. Chicks loved a photo of me where I'm hanging out the sunroof of a car with a professional looking camera in my hand, smiling, on vacation with my buddies.

What also happened very soon was that the girls I did end up seeing on a regular basis where quite adamant that I delete my Tinder profile and not see any other girls. In true RP fashion I was open about it and didn't try to hide it and they all said the same thing: "It feels really odd that you'd keep seeing other girls while we're going out". Women: gatekeepers of sex, Men: gatekeepers of commitment. Same old story.

Not bad but a lot of this post is crap. You can't live in that big city and make money at the same time. Pick one. Career changes happen all the time. A lot of the big startups were ventured by guys in their fifties.

I agree with don't get married. That is a big time and money suck. You can't build a career, make money and travel at the same time in your 20's. Pick one.

This actually reads like something from a helicopter parent that grew up thinking that life is a straight line.

As a man, be happy in whatever it is you do. THAT is the greatest advice from the red pill. A man is ever more a man when he is happy in his ventures whether it's working 80 hours a week or just skirting by life in repose. Taking back your life and doing what you want with it is the greatest lesson. Don't just blindly take advice from an Internet forum, this included, or let others make you feel guilty for your choices. If it makes you happy and fulfills you as a man, it is the best choice for you, others be damned.

Thanks for this post. I'm 24 turning 25 in January and I already feel like I'm missing out on a lot of things that a 24 year old should be doing. I didn't get a good run in college, never joined a frat or had the college sex life I could have had if I had found TRP sooner.

So I'm playing some catchup now. I might go back to school (and move to Seattle) to makeup for lost time. I've got a lot I want to do in my 20s with so little time. My career? Been spinning my wheels and now I'm struggling to find solid ground and follow my dreams.

Hopefully ill get my shit together before I'm 30.

36, here.

I agree with the point above, and to me, it all boils down to this:

Your 30's will be entirely based on what you do/don't do in your 20's. Set yourself up for success, and you'll crush it and love every second of your 30's. Fuck around, do nothing, and/or screw up (get fired/arrested), and you'll be doing nothing but playing catchup and resenting the successful guys around you.

It's all in your hands, way more than you realize.

I would add 1 thing.

1.) Take risks in financial investments (BUT DONT BE STUPID): I'm in my early 20's and have worked really hard to earn some extra money. As much as it sucks, set away money. Then take a percentage of that savings say 20-30% and invest that in something risky. Make your money work for you. The higher the risks, the better the reward. Do this early because while in your 20's you can still recoup money if you lose some cash.

Yea...... as someone who spent 8 years in prison, the 20s were gone.

Those of you starting in your 30s, you get out and just hustle.

Sure as fuck having your 20s is a huge step up to have a solid 30s, but not everyone is blessed with the summer movie redpill college networking building game and career cushy life on wallstreet after a decade of interning and climbing the corporate ladder.

Those of you doing your 30s now, just fucking do it. Think about it, your bluepill 20s was your prison time. It's done and over. Get your job, have your whatever degree, and get to work. Who gives a fuck if you're not a retire by 40 realestate developer or a senior manager engineer, or a seasoned wallstreet investor. Hustle now, hit bars, scope out loose women, get laid.

Those who were blessed with middle class parents, attractive looks, 4.0 gpa, and got the football scholarship will always have shit on easy mode telling you to work hard and you can have it too.

Those of you who fucked up and thought making $1500 for 3 days of work hustling meth and paid the consequence, shit is a little bit harder. You gotta hustle more than others but quite frankly, you can monk mode with your third shift job and wage slave money and still have a good time and get laid.

I agree with all your points except #4, which I strongly disagree with, you are very very off

I have lived in 6 different states since graduating college(nature of my industry means I move a lot). I have enjoyed my time in smaller cities/towns/suburbs much more than the larger cities I have lived in.

Living in a big city sucks balls in many ways. There are some built in advantages, but in your 20s you are better off living in a place with a lower cost of living. People are also a lot friendlier in suburbs and smaller cities/towns.

Give me the choice of Missoula, MT(where I have lived) and Los Angeles, CA(where I have lived) and I pick Missoula each time without hesitation. Give me the choice of Iowa City, IA(where I have lived) and Seattle, WA and I pick Iowa City each time.

The advantages to living in a smaller area are more beneficial than the advantages of living in a big city.

I want to expand on friends. Realise that the friendships you form in your 20s are most likely the tightest bonds you will develop as you - regularly - share life changing and character forming experiences. You should come out of your twenties with one or two extremely close friends who you can steal horses with. Keep onto those.

Second, balance - Career should be your main focus as general corporate high level recruiting, like the Wall Street example highlighted, focusses on this age group. On the other hand, repeating the headline again, you cannot just postpone every experience to your thirties. The levity and lightheartedness you have in your twenties will be lost sooner than you think. Of course you can still party, travel, do sportingevents - it wont however have this "glow", this feeling that this is the only thing in the world important now. I know it sounds a bit wimpsy and emotional but really, this time doesnt come back.

Agree with it all except the "Career" thing.

Go to school, pick your degree carefully, work hard in it, invest in your retirement plan, retire, die. This seems like a very blue pill, unawakened view on life.

For one, just because you are passionate about something at 22 doesn't mean you'll still want to work at it at 30 or 40.

Second, it's about money, plain and simple. Millionaires don't need 9-5 "careers".

I would advise to develop skills that can make money, and then make money. Living your life with some 45 year career in mind seems extremely outdated and depressing.

I'm 28 and I just can't get fucking laid. I need a mentor in real life. I've added so many valuable assets into my life, but I just don't think I'm getting anywhere. I hang out with alphas more, hard dumped any BP friends, and I'm surrounded by women.

What the fuck am I missing?

Good thread. I am over 50 and I am an ultra high status male. Let me tell you all the most important thing to focus on in your 20s, to the exclusion of everything else if necessary, and that is your mission. Of course do not be a fatass and keep fit but first of all focus on your job/ education or career. Everything you will be in the future is dependant on this. If you do not know what your career or job trajectory is by the time you are 30 then you are already one of society's long line of failures. Do not be the guy who cannot afford to get his car fixed who is over 30. Do not be the tight ass who only wants to order the cheapest meal from the cheapest restaurant. Do not take pride in making do with less. Other high status men will not like you, we will use you and laugh at you and you will never be invited to any of the great places we go. High status males only respect status, drive, creativity and ambition.

I feel blessed to already have started doing these things at 18

I'm 22 and i'm working my ass off for a better future. I quit programming because it made me miserable and being an introvert lacking some fundamental social skills I felt like it was destroying me. Currently working 40 hours a week and going to the gym right after dinner. Also studying in the weekends for a big math test which will allow my to enter the study I want. My weekly schedule is PACKED.

The only thing that currently gives me issues is the lack of social interactions. I honestly wonder if its worth it from time to time. I still have some months before I can enroll in the study. I feel like i'm 'waiting' for the social life to happen because i'm busy all the time. Any thoughts on this from some older guys?

Im turning 31 this year. I cannot argue with the contents of this post at all, they are spot on,

but...

Im gonna ignore them and do whatever the fuck I want.

Backstory, my 20's were a big mix. Got a job straight out of undergrad and moved to the far east. Had an awesome time doing a job I loved. Returned to the UK with modest savings and spent it on a Master's degree, meanwhile working in Jnr management for a big hotel chain. I then got my current job, which keeps me fit and is relatively high SMV in the UK (Army officer).

Now Im turning 31 this year and my current plan is to quit in about 18 months time and go back to teaching English in the far east. Why? because I enjoyed it and I was good at it. I cannot say that for my current job.

English Teaching in Asia is a dead end job. You will be very unlikely to promote and you will have a modest, if comfortable salary by local standards, but the lifestyle and opportunities to learn new languages etc are priceless.

Maybe in a few years I could get back into a "Real" career, but the old clock is ticking.

I guess my only point is that yes, the OP is 100% correct that if you want a high pressure, high salary job in your 30's and 40's, you need to put in a shit ton of work in your 20's. I did that, but I have decided that I simply dont want a high pressure job. I would rather enjoy this one life that I have. I cant think of anything more RP than just doing whatever the fuck you want to do with your life.

Good luck to all the 20 somethings on here.

I would add to this list..

Be Discriminatory with who you Date

I know so many guys I graduated highschool with who have knocked up a crazy bitch. Guys get cucked and sit on their ass hoping to get un-cucked. Guys who get frustrated with their woman, maybe slap her and just get his ass thrown in jail.

All of this crap is a giant unnecessary headache and the result of hopeless romanticism. Women need to be vetted for the LTR process. It's a top position where application screening should be very discriminatory in order to avoid women you do not have a healthy dynamic with. You need to test them just like they test you. It helps you figure out whether they're worth your time.

Some common red-flags for LTR-unworthy women..

1.) Drinks way too much.. Women who get blackout drunk at college parties every weekend are not LTR material and if you stick your dick in them you should have a rubber on even if she says she's on BC. Not only do you not know if she's lying about that and insists on no condom to impress you, but you don't know how many other dicks have been in those holes. Some women don't lie about their number, but the ones who have fucked a lot of guys almost always lie about it. Be safe and don't take stupid unnecessary risks that may lead to long term life mistakes.

2.) Instagram Queen. These chicks are addicted to validation and have orbiters up the wazoo. There will be guys flooding her DM inbox and some of them aren't desperate beta males, but more alpha guys who are able to use soc media to get laid. 3 of my buddies from back in the day are pros at getting pussy from soc network crap like IG, Snapchat, FB etc.. Chicks like this are plate material and that's it. That's why alpha tony who DM'ed her "netflix and chill" at 11PM last wednesday is never in pics with her. Alpha Tony isn't an idiot that puts a ho in wifey position. All IG addicted girls will have DOD (dick on delivery) and most likely have a few dude plates.

3.)Workaholic chicks.. They will never have time to go out or spend any time with you. You'll be lucky if she makes time to see you once a week. They flake frequently or are "too tired from work". These girls don't value your time or what you require to be happy in an LTR so unless you're okay with being a doormat you should peace out. The only time I'd be down with a workaholic chick is strictly FWB/side piece.

4.) SJW / Art School Chicks.. No dis on art school if you actually go there because you're passionate and want to work hard.. But man some of the girls who are "art students".. I wonder if they live in bizarro world. They don't shave their legs or armpits, generally have this shitty smug teenager attitude where they role their eyes at everything, and think they're better than everyone else when they've never actually accomplished anything with their lives other than making crappy art that lacks any actual artistic merit, depth, vocabulary etc.. Most of these girls hate white males anyway so they're pretty easy to avoid.

This is more of a general rule of thumb.. There's some good quality tail in art schools too, but the common female there is the SJW future cat lady lesbian/gender fluid who is offended by everything. You can't even watch an episode of South Park with these people.

5.) Single moms.. Duh. Chances are they're still fucking the chad who knocked them up. She just wants a beta provider to do everything Chad doesn't.. Like pay the bills, buy her kids christmas and bday gifts, and chaperone for field trips. You should die from dehydration in the hot Sahara sun before you get this thirsty.

Green Lights For Women

1.) Girls who are involved with school activities.. This is a sign of a girl who comes from a good family whose parents probably taught her right from wrong and a little bit of discipline. I notice these girls tend to be hard workers with their academics and will take the lead sometime and plan dates in a non-bitchy way (Instead of OMG we're definitely going to twilight opening night! You'll get a OMG we're definitely going out to this Japanese restaurant it's so good and I know sushi is your favorite!).

2.) Girls who randomly surprise you with little gifts.. Whether it's bringing you a coffee on her way over to your place or surprising you with lunch at work. Every single guy I know who's happy in an LTR has a girlfriend that does small stuff like this for him.

3.) Girls who have good girl game and practice mate guarding.. Not in a jealous crazy bitch kind of way where she messages ever girl you're friends with on FB telling them to back off, but she's just aware of the game and aware of your SMV to the point where she'll do little subconscious things like hang on your arm or kiss you at a party in front of a bunch of hot chicks. It's a sign that she values you and doesn't want other chicks encroaching on her good quality boyfriend.

4.) Doesn't fuck on the first date.. This one's kind of iffy, sometimes a quality girl will fuck you on the first date, but it's generally a mark of the whore. Think of the ol lock and key analogy with this one. While you may think your dick's a good key, reality might be you just stuck it in a shitty lock. Quality girls like to be courted a little bit not in a gentlesir neckbeard way, but as in demonstrating you're emotionally intelligent and don't view her simply as a hole. Quality women will usually wait until at least the second date so they don't look easy.

conclusion

Avoid dating shitty women in your 20's. It may ruin the rest of your life. You might knock them up, get a permanent STD like HSV-2 or something more severe like HIV.. Then there's also the crazies who will file false reports of abuse, have crazy exs who want to harm you etc.. Don't even plate the crazies. Most of them are fat as fuck by them time they're 23 anyway cause they're too stupid to take care of their bodies.

I mean this is all what's commonly discussed here at TRP anyway, but I'm noticing a lot of guys still aren't fucking getting it. You have to be discriminatory for LTRs.. If the question pops in your head "Is it okay that I'm jealous my girlfriend is drunk, and sleeping over her "guy-friend" alpha tony's house?" You should just dump her right away no ifs ands or buts about it. LTR women don't do shit that makes you feel insecure, they should be like a cheerleader who roots for her boyfriend when he's successful and peps him up when he falls on his ass.

I am turning 20 next year. I have been on the path of self improvement for the past year. Time is a factor here, the most valuable resource. My current lack of "fun experiences" make me pessimistic for my 20's. At least my degree is almost done, hey silver lining.

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I really like this post, I turn 28 this year and I have done literally all of this already!

The 30s are no place to build a career from scratch.

As a mid 30s guy building his career the last couple of years, I'm echoing this sentiment.

I discovered PUA when I was about 22 and let the pursuit of women completely take over my life for about the next 6-7 years. It ate up a majority of my 20s. Next thing I knew, I was 31 and working at a job that paid 1 dollar an hour more than what I was doing at 21.

Disregarding the building of income potential during my 20s is literally my only big regret in life. Well.....that and not properly plating the girl I slept with who looked like a prime Michelle Pfeiffer. But I digress.

This clip should be a daily affirmation for every guy in this sub.

I'm 23 and I feel like these are things I should have done when I was 15. Especially networking and making friends.

I'm 26 turning 27 in February. Do I have time?

Early 20's recent college graduate checking in. Everything in this post fits my mindset to a tee. Appreciate the advice and headsup for the year's to come. Cheers

3. Alternative path. The entrepreneur.

I took a job as a door to door sales man, selling quill office supplies. It paid commission only. I was 20 years old with no college degree. The lessons I would learn would help me start my own business. The most important lesson being:

Learn how to sell yourself.

This paid huge dividends in my personal life talking to people and later on when I start my company.

At 24 I start my own thing. I was sick and tired of handing my boss a cut of my hard work (from a job) It took 3 years of hard work with no vacations and many weekends but I fucking did it. I used all the lesson I learned from door to door marketing and reading books. (Ex: Rich dad poor dad cash flow quadrant) All this helped me establish an excess of two things. TIME (for my self my family my goals) + $$$.

9. BOOKS...

STOP! right now and go download audible or kindle on your phone. There is so much information you need to acquire. While you're driving to work or working out at the gym; you could be listening to the books he recommended above. I would add my top three books to the list as well:

• 48 laws of power - Robert Green (Same as Mastery)

• 33 strategy of war - Robert Green

• Extreme Ownership - Jocko Wilink

Those are the corner stone of who I am. They put everything is focus. Even though I listened to them initially, I went and bought copies of all three. I highlighted all the part I liked. I'm constantly going back to reference them.

Knowledge is power... therefore Read your fucking ass off!

Great post 9/10

I'm 20 and I have no idea what type of career I want. I have studied at University the last 2 year, first year in science, second in psychology/philosophy. I am now travelling overseas in Europe while I figure out what I want to do. Robots are going to be being released soon that will close up menial and hard labour jobs, so I want to aim to grab a career that has job security. I want to get a career I can spend a ridiculous amount of time on so I can get promotional opportunities as well as opportunities to make a business for owning instead of working.

Are there any high paying careers that will have guaranteed job security for the next 20 years?

Reading posts like these that pop up once in awhile make me feel EXTREMELY lucky. My early twenties were spent being a heroin and cocaine addict. Getting into shit tons of debt, arrested (thank the gods I'm not a felon), being with shitty women, and not working on myself. Was afraid of life in general. I'm now 27 years old, been lifting hard for 2 years, have a degree in a very promising field, and almost debt free. Granted, I live at home, but as soon as that debt is paid off I'm getting the fuck up on outta there and will be having women over ALL the time (I'm a little excited).

FUCK I'm so fucking lucky I whipped my life into shape before my thirties.

Bonus point should be the first one

After all being an alpha is all about endurance and adaptation

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Just turned 21, Great post that reaffirms a lot of things since swallowing the pill.

From my experience though, MOST of these insecurities stem from a lack of success with women as well as a lack of a social life. A lot of isolation and being a social outcast tends to mess with the minds of most young guys out there.

Hit the nail on the head right there for me, having just a small amount of aspergers totally fucked me. All throughout high school my "social life" consisted of playing games online with internet friends (we have a great time playing games) and a few club activities that were fruitless for me in getting friends my age. Lack of social life also rolled into lack of success/interaction with females, I'm 22 and have zero experience with women what-so-ever whether it be general interaction or flirting (no clue how to flirt). I started lifting two months ago and I feel more confident about myself in general and know what I want to get out of life and what to study. I've got 2-3 more years of college when I transfer to a big state school, hopefully what I've read about here and the improvements from that can get me something.

I'd love for some advice from introverts who went from 0 to 100 or people with aspergers on here who turned it around socially for themselves.

Whatever is wrong with you, now is the time to address it and fix it

Let me second this SO hard. I had problems with my teeth arising from childhood laziness and unprofessional dentists in my backwater hometown and not only will it eat away at your confidence but my surgeon mentioned the younger you are the more quickly you recover. DON'T WAIT to get your teeth fixed if you need it!

As someone who is turning 20 in a week, thank you for this. A lot of it I already knew but reiterating it just keeps adding on.

I don't have too much to say, but could you please make a post for guys under 20?

Edit: (I'm about to turn 17 this year)

I believe this to be a good and helpful post. Thanks

4 is the top priority. Where I live (small town NE US) --unbelievable scarcity of 7+. I'm stuck because I'm a parent. The suburbs will destroy any game you develop (unless you're in high school) and whatever you do develop will atrophy from lack of motivation/ opportunity. Move to the city.

Thank you, just thank you. This advice came right before an fork in the road conversation with my girlfriend. It gave me the confidence in what I want out of life to say no to moving in together and make some big (formerly repressed) demands. I've now got the willingness to walk away into a blissful sunset if she's not willing to meet my standards.

Set a high bar for your standard of life, don't let a women pull on that bar to get hers higher.