Being Alpha means being dominant over others in some way, but have you ever thought there's more than one way to be dominant? There's various types of dominance i can think of including:
physical or looking imposing. Sometimes being short and not too muscular doesn't stop people from looking intimidating, and it could be posture and body language that contributes to the intimidation factor. Usually though, if you can do a couple squats with a fat girl as a load an maybe military press her too, then you look much more attractive.
intellectually. Have you ever met a girl who is smart but dumbs it down to a level of near retardation whenever she wants to talk to the guy? she wants to be dominated intellectually. If you know more about 18th century art than a girl does, and you let her know it by showing off in the right context, you might be seen as a sophisticated man. The point is not to teach her anything, but to show that you are more intelligent than her in a way that is bragging, but for the aim of getting what you want and not from a place of proving yourself.
willpower. In general, the gender difference gives men an advantage, however there are many ways in which women can be more persistent ie less distracted. Being assertive and sticking to the plan will help with this. Women usually get what they want by slow attrition, by undermining the male ego, or by using guilt. If you have a strong enough assertive stance that is adaptable you will win before things even begin.
sensual. Dominating a woman's senses are underrated. What do women find romantic? It's the things that dominate her senses, like a beautiful sunset or a crowded fancy restaurant. There are pictures on the wall, the music is playing, people are talking about many things. the atmosphere is tangible.
potential. This way of dominance is the reason "learning not giving a fuck" can potentially be so attractive. Not really fear but not really not fear. If you act like you could dominate, but choose not to, then you are seen not only as strong but with an air of mystery as well. The key step is to act convincingly like you could dominate. Wear clothes that make you look influential and tough. Act like you could have her if you wanted to. Many guys act this way but do so in a way that is laughable, see-through and can't be taken seriously so let others think that they don't want to mess with you because there might be consequences, even if there actually won't be. This correlates to RP guy keeping frame. Let the women think that they could be dominated by you at any time. If you're not present and there with them then this is helpful to keep them acting the way you want them to.
sexually. Always be the one who does the dominating and the starting. Even if she instigates it first, push her away and then start it yourself immediately. Make her become used to waiting on you to do anything. If you let her start your sexual experiences, she might take that power and use it on another guy if she's frustrated and you're not there. Make sure you have control but give her some constrictive leeway and remember she is a person. Make her think she has to impress you and wants to do so because you are important enough. Like a job interview or something similar. There are other ways to dominate but these are a few. Hope this helps.

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Here are a few basic examples that show immediate dominance.
I will put my arm around her shoulders.
In front of a party I will yell out to my wife for whatever, Be on my beer pong team, grab me a beer you sexy fucking woman, HEY! Your butt looks good in those pants I get loud, everyone shuts the fuck up, and in front of the silent crowd, I embarrass my lady with love.
I tell her No when that is how I feel and Yes when that is how I feel. I don't placate my response to her emotion.
I will order for her if I know what she wants, or if I know there is something I want her to try.
I will order her drinks whether she is at the table or in the bathroom, mixing it up - martini, cocktail, whatever I try to keep it stylish and cater it to what she likes.
I fix shit that is broken
I train her during PT
I will hold her hand anytime anywhere. Other couples are separating, I try to keep it fresh and romantic like when we were teenagers.
I break out into ballroom dance in the middle of anywhere, spinning her around. Whether it is the mall, the park, a party, where the fuck ever.
I keep eye contact with her and those around me
I refuse to cater my voice or actions to those around me
I make my reality everyone's reality
I openly game her friends, waitresses, chicks in general
I drive when I know the weather sucks or there will be traffic
I plan out vacations with her as well as surprising her from time to time
I try to do something out of the blue once a week
I keep her on her toes by remaining unpredictable and always improving
I don't play yes man to anyone. (If you have seen the movie Daddy's Home with Ferrell and Wahlburg - Ferrell cannot sa no to anyone, even his wife's ex. Everything is yes and I don't do that - I don't break my back for everyone, only those truly in need and even then only if I view them to be worthy.)
I listen to her and change my decision if she brings solid points to the table
I treat her like a woman, I don't expect her to think or act like a man.
I ensure she knows I recognize the little shit she does. Not by buying flowers, but by taking the kids to the playground and telling her to go get her nails done or by setting up a wine/paint night with her mom then telling her I've got the kids for the night.
I don't hold the resentment so many men here let fester (that is weak - let it go and improve)
I educate her - I've gotten her into stoicism as well as getting her to create checklists that show the goals she has and the steps she is taking to get there.
I can cook and will cook maybe 1-2 times a week (made some bomb chicken parm last night)
I set goals and complete them
I keep my word and promises
I ensure I am setting the bar from which she will measure other men and that I am continually raising that bar
I dress well and give a shit about my appearance
I look good naked
I let her remain feminine, not expecting her to change the oil or mow the lawn, she decorates and cleans the house and that is cool with me
I teach my son how to be a man and treat my daughter like a little lady
I protect the weak and stand up for what is right and not what is popular
I build my reputation and refuse to reward failure
Dominant means being loved, feared, and respected all at once. It means owning every action, even if that action is picking flowers for your daughter.
Dominant > Domineering - know the difference.
EDIT To add to my point on frame:
Building your personal frame is not the same as building the frame of a house. You are reconstructing your reality, you are setting your own standard. For Example: In my frame weakness is not expected nor is it accepted from those around me. Wild or romantic sex daily is normal & Dads are NOT expected to be weak/fat- they are fit & leaders. When you are around me, you are in my frame and I hold you to my standard and treat you accordingly.
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Toker95 9y ago
This must have taken a while to type
randomperson123321 9y ago
This is like an Alphaness seminar. People in here should take notes, especially the ones who take all the insecurities, anger, bitterness and complexes they have and blame them on women.
Some highlights:
"HEY! Your butt looks good in those pants" <- He adds value to his woman, strong people do that, weak men do the opposite.
"I teach my son how to be a man and treat my daughter like a little lady" <- Lady. Not Princess. LADY.
"Dominant > Domineering - know the difference." <- THAT.
This post is pure gold.
Chinny4daWinny 9y ago
A lot of times I think I'm being dominant when in reality I'm being domineering. How can I shift from domineering to dominant?
EngravedEnigma 9y ago
As a woman, I feel that this is what's lacking in my life.
NewlyFoundAgain 9y ago
To all the motherfuckers who want to know what an Alpha married guy is, this is it. Marriage is the ultimate shit test, because you're on blast 24/7. You can't let your guard down.
I have 3 kids and a wife and I swear you just described my interaction with them all.
One thing I'll add is that I do not coddle the children at all. I will help them learn things, help them if they're hurt, but I treat them according like small adults. Especially my sons. Their mother can be the nurturer, I'm the provider/protector.
williesmokes 9y ago
Saved this comment. This is golden.
NeoreactionSafe 9y ago
Great response post.
You really get it.
Keep the kids learning as you keep teaching... excellent.
Can we endorse this guy?
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Luckyluke23 9y ago
please. since we have the new married flair i think he would be a good fit for that.
Frrrosty 9y ago
That was actually pretty sensible until you mentioned hitting on random women.
[deleted] 9y ago
There is sensible and sensible though.
That may not be sensible to the woman's feelings, but may be to the relationship good balance and i guess he cares more about that as should be.
Not that "sensible" is in any way the word to use here. Considering the purpose, "sensible" and "retarded" are a pair as good or bad.
Too bad today "sensible" just means "PC approved".
Frrrosty 9y ago
Maybe you'll keep the attention of the insecure sluts that TRP helps you attract, but most actual wife material women will only grow more distant and disconnected when the thought of infidelity occurs; not the opposite.
[deleted] 9y ago
You mistaken abundance mentality with polygamy/infidelity.
There's a difference between playing the field for it's own sake and being an infidel. You don't have to bring home a girl you have played...
TheYoungOwl_ 9y ago
We (the world) need more red pill men like you who practice ancient stoicism.
[deleted] 9y ago
I don't do it justice and give it the time and attention it needs - but I try.
TheYoungOwl_ 9y ago
That's all we can ask of eachother, atleast try..
DforDeadpool 9y ago
Horrible format. Couldn't read. Work on it.
TheYoungOwl_ 9y ago
He did fine, excellent use of grammar and flows well.
Indentions will help you format paragraphs in a way that allows the average reader's attention span the ability to read your shit. We aren't reading a text you sent us we are reading a theoretical dissertation.
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[deleted] 9y ago
Yeah i was in a rush. Tried to fix it though, thanks man
ThrowyMcGruder 9y ago
I honestly don't understand this.
I'm not complaining about your formatting or anything. Seemed fine to me, although I guess I only saw it after your fix, but that's neither here nor there.
But why rush?
There's a RP post that I'll see over the next few weeks that might be great.
Seeing it rushed today will, at best, make it as good as if it wasn't rushed, but more likely make it worse.
It's like seeing an Amazon review that says, "I ordered this but haven't gotten it yet. I'll update when it comes".
I just don't get it.
Just give it the time it needs.