Throwback Thursday: Do It All For Yourself | TheRedPill

The following thread really drills down into something important that is often lost on new members. Do this for yourself! All of the external reasons you might have for swallowing the pill comes second to the personal satisfaction and happiness which comes from within.

Letting go of the external sources of happiness can be difficult if you're not being driven from that inner well, so many latch onto validation from outside sources. Becoming aware of these things and when we do it is the first step in fixing this issue. This is one area I see PUAs fail at time and time again. They get so wrapped up in getting laid and being successful with women that it becomes a part of their identity. When they falter or get rejected it has a significant impact on their psyche. Don't let that happen to you!

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The large majority of information on The Red Pill focuses on behaviors, activities, traits, and ways to develop those traits, that do one very significant thing: Make you more attractive. If you read enough material without really delving into the details, that seems to be the primary focus of The Red Pill. Being attractive. Becoming more attractive. Attracting others. Staying attractive – more attractive than others. Passively keeping others aware of your attractiveness. Attractive this. Attractive that. Attraction.

But if you look just beneath the surface, The Red Pill is about something more. The Red Pill is about being happy. It’s really a collection of thoughts, essays, and theories about how to be happy as a man. Actually happy. Happy. Not just content, like a fat video game addict jerking off to porn and drinking beer. Not just not sad, like a henpecked married guy going through the motions. Happy. Successful, proud of your life, eager to wake up in the morning, confident about the future, happy.

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RedPrinceX 9y ago

The Red Pill helps you become your own person, that's how I see it.

dancingdonkeypunch 9y ago

This. Before TRP I was always getting worked up over issues outside of my control. Blue Pill me actually thought if I had the stereotypical, good guy mentality, everything would work out and people would respect me. After swallowing TRP I found that is far from the truth. Caring about others more than yourself is a BP lie that is emotionally damaging.

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I did the exact same thing and my life was in the gutter as a result. Now people are saying I'm a selfish dick anymore. Guess what? I also have drive when before I would be limp from depression, got laid a lot more than all them combined, AND I'm happier. Happiness when there wasn't any before. And long-term happiness is one of my goals in my mission simply because life is so much better like that. Without happiness the days would go by like a kid drawing tally marks as fast as he could on a chalk board.

thewrightstuff88 9y ago

Find your happiness, do not seek it from external sources such as women. Look inside, internally and ask yourself, what do you want to do/get out of life? Do you want to learn guitar? Do you want to reveal your six pack? Do you want to learn a new language? Go out and do these things, not for that hb8, but for yourself. Develop your passions and good things will follow, such as improved confidence and most importantly, belief in yourself. You only have about 70-80ish years on this planet, if you waste it doing things for other people, you will only hate yourself in the end because you will ultimately waste your most valuable asset, time.

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throwaway1643 9y ago

It's a fine balance. A healthy sex life with an attractive woman is an important part of life, and indeed one of the most important biological drives that evolution has bestowed upon us.

Downplaying that aspect as carnal is denying our nature and what makes us human, something I ised to do alot when I was BP.

Of course, we also have evolved a brain that allows us to make decisions independent of our primal drives. So it's a really fine balance. We need to accept the nature of "the chase" so to speak, without letting it control our self worth and time.