Synopsis: Do not challenge or use A&A on LMR. Use Agree & Disregard.
LMR is a very one-sided existential crisis that always has the same outcome: the girl remains an object with value. How could a young lady, being the valuable object she is, also be an easy whore? She can't, in her mind.
It just happened.
I sware I never do this.
She needs an excuse.
It was an accident.
I was drunk, so it doesn't count.
Now picture her hamster: he's doing his job, running on his wheel every time she needs an excuse to indulge.
You walked her back towards your place:
that's fine, she just won't go in! Value protected!
You offered to show her that (object) she expressed interest in earlier.
she'll just look at that (object) and bolt. It'll take 5 mins, max. Value protected!
Ya'll showed eachother funny youtube videos and generally horsed around. Time flies by and it gets late.
okay, he seems chill, so I'll spend the night, and I'll play a bit, but my jeans stay on! I'm not a whore if he can't get in my jeans!
So here we are, in this rediculous scenario, she's naked for everything except a pair of God damn blue jeans. Things are hot and heavy, and she's making her last stand at 2nd base: if you can MacGyver those jeans off, you'll be home free. You make another attempt and she stops you,
I don't want to take them off.
Picture the proud hamster gently jogging on his wheel. He's been going at a calm and steady pace since he made the Jeans Rule. It's thwarted your attempts to fuck her for a while now.
Scenario A
(Don't) challenge
"You're half naked in my bed."
so?
"So you clearly want to fuck."
I'm not that type of girl.
She says, rediculously, half naked in your bed. You've now insulted her character and fucking you is now overtly an admission of low value. The hamster is in overdrive now.
Scenario B
(Don't) A&A
"You should probably put a shirt on too then."
What are you trying to say?
You just introduced new conditions for her to be leaking value. The hamster speeds up, and she may actually put her shirt on/leave now.
Scenario C
Agree and Disregard
"That's cool. I'm down, but we can just chill." You say, sneaky as fuck.
see! The Jeans Rule worked! Value protected!
She smiles, and nods.
10 minutes later, you're rubbing her pussy through her jeans and kissing on her neck. You hear a moan and go for the button on her jeans again, and the lulled hamster doesn't stop you now.
Conclusion: Doing anything other than low-key agreeing to LMR gives the hamster more to prove. Use Agree & Disregard on LMR.
Stythe 9y ago
I always just tell them it's cool and jeep making out. Eventually they usually just get sexuality frustrated and give into their whims. To be fair, this works for me because I actually don't really care if we fuck and also because I'm really good with foreplay and making out.
Eugenics2015 9y ago
I actually get tuned off by begging for sex. I just have to forego it maybe once or twice and then all the stupid games vanish like clockwork.
thiasus 9y ago
Fully agreed. When LMR displays itself in this way, which is the most common, always agree and disregard. Your game is to offer her a false alternative: she can choose not to have sex with you...right now. But 'just chill' still means she'll be in bed with you, half naked, cuddling, kissing, making out, and that's a road that leads only to one destination. LMR is about letting her take a few stops along the road so she doesn't even realize she's making the trip all the way.
monsieurhire2 9y ago
Ironically, the education system more or less clued me into "agree and disregard" with all their propaganda videos about not pressuring the girl into having sex verbally. As soon as you're okay with not having sex, it raises your value because they assume you're getting it somewhere else, or that you're not desperate, etc.
MattyAnon Admin 9y ago
Agree and disregard or back off / go cold / try again later.
Whatever you do, don't fall into the trap of being a good little beta and saying "no problem honey, I'll wait for you!", before going on another 12 dates.
If she pulls LMR, it's a shit test. Respond with coldness and dread. Don't play to her strengths (agreeing or arguing). Play to yours (keeping your options open, doing something else).
princepeanutbutter 9y ago
I go a completely different way. Stay warm and maintaining rapport through LMR. Less you arent actually 'disregarding,' youre letting her control your frame.
Stay positive, maintain kino, try another play
CockThunderchad 9y ago
I'm a bigger fan of this approach. Staying positive (or where you were before the LMR) makes it clear to her that even a shit test when things start to get heated won't shake your frame. However, I would try to make a smooth transition away from physical contact to something else. My success rate (getting anything beyond kissing) with LMR while continuing to cuddle/make-out etc. is still a very decisive 0%.
fingerthemoon 9y ago
In my experience if I just let them pull away and then laugh it off, act like no big deal, deescalate, they usually come back on their own after a bit. If I continue to push, it seems to go either 2 different ways - either they eventually give in and fuck me or they leave and I never fuck them ever. Usually they give in and fuck me but I did loose maybe the hottest girl ever by pushing too hard that one time.
icecow 9y ago
I'd think: If you pull away from her, say two feet (because you are thinking you want to give her space), then settle back beside her, say a foot away, then it comes off like 'you came back', you need her more than she needs you. If she moves then come back (or closer) to ease tension then they subconsciously believe they need you.
ArkAngelEV 9y ago
I think this is about context. A girl recently said "we're not having sex" and "you do this to all the insert dating website girls don't you, youre just going to hit it and quit it" while we were at her place, alone, next to her bed. She then half turned around and pressed her ass into my crotch.
This is not a shit test. I honestly think they want to verbally tell you no so that you can just take what you want. That action of pressing forward out of passion turns them on. Of course i pulled her jeans off and escalated quickly. So she was full of BS. My "cover" is i ask after a couple of thrusts if " is this okie" . So far, 100% has been "yes".
Thinking about it now, i wonder what legal ramifications are if a girl says no at first then yes. Doesn't that negate the prior , less escalated no? It's gotta at least hurt her case that it was part of the "courtship"
Eugenics2015 9y ago
Some women litterally are rationalizing that you raped them. If that doesnt turn you off...
icecow 9y ago
Right. Agreed. The reason I see thrown around here the most is girls do that so they can rationalize taking no responsibility, but I think the other great reason is because if it's going to be done, they want you to go forward with passion.
MattyAnon Admin 9y ago
No then yes is a yes. Most recent trumps any previous. Solid legal precedent for this. The converse also applies - yes then no. This is the problem with her being all over you in the bar, on film, then saying no later. The law lets her do this.
And this is the problem with signed consent forms - she can change her mind later, and nothing you can do can stop this right.
Your only rock solid protection (given the increasing absence of "innocent until proven guilty") is video evidence that she agrees to let you take and that she legally allows you to keep.
And even that is undermined by her claiming rape on a different occasion to the one video'd.
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DforDeadpool 9y ago
Very good. Thanks for the information, brother. I always thought plausible deniability as baiting the hamster. You bait the hamster so it stops spinning and jumps off of its wheel. At that period of time you can make her act on her emotional desires ie fucking an attractive man. Or just fucking if she's really horny. When her hamster eats and starts spinning again, you bait it with something it likes one more time. And you make her act on her emotions once more. Wash-rinse-repeat till you get laid.
Usually, after penetration, all of her mental defenses are gone and she'd pretty much unleash the sexual beast within her. After she fucks you once, she can do it several times more because, fuck it, why not? She already did it so doing it again once or twice doesn't hurt.
Lucifer_The_Unclean 9y ago
One time I missed on sex with this girl because I was too drunk. I knew in my mind that it LMR and I so close but I just couldn't physically do anything. It was pretty funny for me at the time. So I just passed out on the bed.
DforDeadpool 9y ago
Everybody has memories like that. I was really drunk once and I was at home with this chubby chick. Not my kink but I was really horny at that time my dick was like "Go for it faggot!". So I tried to kiss her and she rejected it (low SMV back then). I tried again, we laughed and she said no but hugged me. We were like dancing and I was kissing her neck. Possibly I could've broken her defenses and fuck her crazy that night but I just didn't want to. Rather than I'd put effort in a fat chick I'd just go and sleep and that was what I did. They day after was a little awkward but it happens.
Lucifer_The_Unclean 9y ago
Doesn't it piss you off how many fat chicks there are in the US now? Half my Tinder feed is fats.
DforDeadpool 9y ago
I live in EU but it's the same. It's because they're so entitled they think they can get away with being hambeasts.
azrise 9y ago
Your solution to LMR "agree and disregard" was originally proposed by Mystery and it's called "freeze out". It works but you're missing the theoretical point completely.
Women are not hesitant to the idea of having sex easily for fear of being judged, they are hesitant because evolutionarily they needed to receive commitment in exchange for sex so that the male would stick around to help raise the baby. Their survival depended on that.
So when a woman gives you LMR, this is her unconscious mind telling her "you are in danger. You don't know this man well enough so you don't know if he will stick around when you're pregnant". By freezing out, or as you call it, agreeing and disregarding, you are telling her unconscious "I WILL stick around, even if I don't receive sex". This puts her mind at ease and breaks the LMR.
Swallowed_the_pill 9y ago
The good old one step forward two steps back approach.
This genererally works whenever you are escelating. You do something she likes, she feels slutty or wants to be in power. Now you take two steps back and she is going to be so desperate to get back where you stopped that she forgets about everything else.
If you do this properly throughout your escalation she most likely won't put up a LMR either. You chose when the kiss stops, you tease the fuck out of her before you go slightly back for a while, then escalating again. Do this every time before removing a piece of clothing, especially the bra, pants and panties.
icecow 9y ago
her: The pants stay on.
AgreeMomentarily abide, Disregard, and Escalate one step forward<Rub her pussy through her jeans, then take her hand>
Take two steps back
<Pull away from her a foot or two while letting go of her hand in a caressing way, pause a few moments>
Make Request
<Now that you didn't cross her rules and gave her some horn, say "Kiss me", if she does it, she's going to you and subconsciously thinks she needs you instead of the other way around). If she doesn't readily, you still haven't done any poisonous actions so far.>
dking168 9y ago
You mean 2 steps forward and 1 step back
Swallowed_the_pill 9y ago
For you, yes. In her mind it feels like two steps back.
FreeRadical5 9y ago
If you're looking from the side however it is one step left, two step right.
How about we stick to a frame that makes sense?
Swallowed_the_pill 9y ago
Because the goal of the manipulation isn't to change something in your own head in this case, it's to manipulate the girls thoughts.
The entire point is to do something she likes, then almost move a step forward. In her mind, going past that next barrier might trigger her into thinking she is a slut. When you don't break that barrier but play around it and then move not only to the previous step but two back, you are basically saying "you can't have this". Now she will start working just to get back to where you started stepping back, and she will happily let you escalate even further just to get more. It's reverse pshycology at it's best.
TheRedStoic 9y ago
Maybe you can help me out here.
Often when faced with lmr, I simply move to next, then she does it anyway.
Me: Cool, then swing by tomorrow. "i start getting dressed"
This happens much more often than not. I'd say at least 8/10 lmr displays (in the bedroom). Is this dangerous? Am I doing something that is not recommended for some reason?
I will of course try this out. Just want to know if and why I should not be doing this. I do not presume you wrong, nor am I arguing as a self-absorbed outlier. Just always looking to be sharper. Thanks!
TheReindeerGuy 9y ago
I think that what you are doing is called a freeze out. The girl says no, you withdraw your attention by leaving. She wants you to stay and your attention so she will work on making you stay. The other 2/10 apparently don't care enough about you staying to work for it.
Why do you even think you should not be doing it if it works 8/10 times? You are doing a good job on those 8/10. It seems you should figure out how to make the other 2/10 times work.
Edit: You are also demonstrating high value by being willing to walk away. This sudden increase in perceived value might get you past the bar they have set. This is just a wild guess.
TheRedStoic 9y ago
I appreciate the perspective. As to why, who doesn't want to be more successful?
Business is good, but it can always be better.
Eugenics2015 9y ago
You are doing things the right way. Only idiots beg for sex in 2016.
Just starve her out and you will never have to beg for sex again.
TheRedStoic 9y ago
I understand. I just wanted to know if I was able to improve upon that.
There's always room right? I'm rather certain based on feedback that I shouldn't be too concerned.
Still, there are far wiser/more experienced than me here providing input yes? May as well do my best to leech that knowledge for my use right?
stickfiguresk 9y ago
Is ASD, not LMR. The difference is situational and weither or not she has to defend her dignity. I'd recommend having a good excuse for everything that leads up to her being isolated in an area you can fuck her.
Here's an example: David Lee Roth had all his albums framed, hanging on the wall of a hallway in his home. When he'd bring women over, he would show them these albums, one by one, where the last one was in his bedroom, which had a jacuzzi and a bed, "oh, and here's my jacuzzi. Let's take a dip."
For reference, he talks about this in his appearance on the Joe Rogan podcast.
It's really easy to have an excuse to get a girl alone in your home, and never imply sex. And if it's a good reason to get her to come over, "my place is actually right down the street. Would you care to see (that object you mentioned earlier that she expressed interest in; painting, trophy, picture, movie, etc.)?", and then netflix and chill.
This is ofcourse not the only way to get laid, but it's a good way to prevent her from having a whore/angel existential crisis.
TheRedStoic 9y ago
Thank you for illuminating, I'm not wrong in my strategy, I'm simply ignorant of the context.
Appreciated, thank you again for taking the time.
heartbrokenguy001 9y ago
So I brought over a girl who has a boyfriend and no matter what I tried, she would not let me fuck her. I was very persistent and disregarded all her comments about her boyfriend. I continued to make out with her and make her feel good. It took a while, but with persistence, I got to 3rd base multiple times. I had to restart from making out, to touching her tits, to fingering her and then attempting to take her pants off. I think I went through that cycle like 5-6 times, but sometimes you can do everything right, but they just won't cave. The only option I had left was to just rip her pants off, but with girls calling rape these days, I was careful not to take it too far.
This entire time, she kept going off about how her boyfriend is an amazing guy, calls her beautiful every day and is something she can build a future with. She was basically in a really good relationship and could not figure out why she was throwing it all the way. Her hamster was spinning so hard it was hard not to laugh.
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Icing her out is the best way to bypass LMR and the safest way to not get pegged by a rape accusation that you may or may not deserve depending on the situation.
pmmedenver 9y ago
Agree and amplify works for a lot of shit tests, but not all. For example:
Are you having sex with my sister?
Yeah! Totally I fucked her raw dawg in our marital bed bb!
WTF YOU PIG I'M LEAVING YOU
I'm just kidding around
WHY WOULD YOU EVEN JOKE ABOUT THAT
GOATmar 9y ago
"Overreactions like this is exactly why I'm plowing your sister."
verify_account 9y ago
Nah that works just fine. Stop caring so much about her poor little feelings.
unicorn-carousel 9y ago
Nice! This has worked for me, I used to be a sneaky ass bastard. So many times of just stopping, and then fingering her a little after 10 minutes, and then off the rest comes.
More recently I got up and told her "you can go now" after LMR... she took her own pants off then and there, said "I was just going to do it!" and I made her beg and tell me I was being unfair a couple times before I got back in bed. I was pretty turned off by that point though, should have probably sent her away anyway.
The_Red_Paw 9y ago
I like to say 'Just open the doors, and let them think it was their idea to step through.'
Create opportunities exactly as you've described, always laying the path towards your cock, but never mention the cock.
Also, check out 'the Tao of Steve', a c-grade rom-com with some brilliant insights into pickup game. To paraphrase: "Be excellent, be be disinterested, be gone."
Your post is spot on. Upvote.
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Thanks for this, I've been wondering how to recognize/deal with LMR. But can't she now claim you raped her?
Of course she could anyway, but now she could by simply bending the truth. She officially said 'no' and you ignored it.
stickfiguresk 9y ago
In a university in california, absolutely. As far as the police are concerned, ofcourse not. Also, subtlety is extremely important--if she knows your intentions, this would fall under "contradiction" and not A&D. Make it, "just happen."
I also like to fool around with a girl up to the point where she wants to de-escalate, tease her until she's really horny, and then completely withdraw physical contact and say, "we should stop. I'm totally down for more, but I'll leave it up to you."
If you feel it out and do it right, she'll say, "fuck it." And pounce on you.
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OK here's a case where I was spending the night with a girl who had previously made it clear that we weren't gonna have sex. However then she pressured me to drink and we both got drunk at a NYE party and snuck downstairs to romp around a bit.
I got her shirt off (which was more than I expected), and sucked on a bit of side boob for a while. I tried to take her bra off and she stopped me. So I just waited a little bit and tried again, she stopped me. We continue making out. I try again, she stops me. I think I tried a total of 4 times before she actually got pissed off.
Like, clearly I misread the signals and mistook a genuine boundary for LMR. But how can you tell the difference? Just back off completely as in the OP and then see how she reacts?
I feel like I put myself in a really dangerous situation by doing that.
EDIT: I reread your comment and now see what you mean about intentions vs A&D. I'm 100% sure that if I backed off in this case she would have just shrugged it off and we would have both just passed out. She had the upper hand because she wanted it less.
stickfiguresk 9y ago
The scenario I used in the OP was a worst case scenario that fit the narrative.
Fortune favors the bold: if shes turned on, put her hand on your D while you're still fully clothed. If she doesnt pull away, whip it out: that line can't be un-crossed, and it sets a very intimate frame for the interaction.
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