I've been on a roller coaster ride this year; still buckled from my seat and have not exited the amusement park yet. This year, I got flaked on by a woman. It hurt emotionally. I sought for a remedy, hence I began reading about the red pill. The Rational Male series drastically improved myself and my relationships with people. I quit my corporate job to start a business that's not yet flourishing on time as expected, but still progress is still highly anticipated for 2019, slowly but surely. My game has improved tenfold as of this writing.
Thus, I share with you what I have learned since swallowing the red pill last May 2018:
- Frame is the most important thing to hold in all situations, and that it is highly contextual on the situation you're in. You can't always hold frame. Sometimes it is necessary to use Machiavellianism to make people think that they have the frame, when in fact you are the puppeteer. This holds true to women, business and relationships in general. A general truth I highly impose in social situations. Frame is game.
- Self-improvement is key to progress. Working out, reading books and simply just doing you are the prerequisites to good game. Red pill philosophy is the preworkout, game is the actual exercise, while knowledge, learning and experience are your gains.
- Always keep emotions at bay when having a relationship with women. I speak in terms of attraction. It's in her imperative to display emotions, not yours as a man. Being rational and logical, displaying it, is what makes the game more effective.
- All these rejections with women from the past have compounded over time. They made me appreciate rejection as a form of tool for learning. Rejection is always better than regret. Rejection teaches you what you've done wrong and how you can improve your game. Rejection is always blamed on a man's part, and not on the woman; since a man is always the instigator. See rejection on a different light, and eventually you will see it as a man's value.
- Spinning plates is very important even for someone who is still on the road towards his goals. Even if you haven't achieved them yet, be it material wealth or social affluence, it is always important to spin plates at times of financial adversity. Remember that attraction is based on alpha fucks/beta bucks. Even if you're at a point of being financially challenged, there's a high chance you can snag a woman better than the others just because you have better game. Women want sex. If you can deliver them that in a suave fashion, they would care less if you're doing less financially than your male competitors. That's what they are for; the beta bucks approach. Follow alpha fucks approach and that wouldn't really bother in the dynamic.
- Always make time for the self. In any way, be it for art, for business or anything to express for. It's what fills what is lacking: the emotional aspect. I found that expressing myself in art is the best way to show my emotions. In my case, it's writing.
- Conversing with woman on social media destroys attraction. It is an illusion. It is much easier to flirt and flaunt your game in person. Texting is for scheduling dates. A couple of short chit chats here and there to create sexual tension. Consistently texting sounds needy and gives the illusion that you're not doing anything to further your mission.
- Women will always shit test you. This is especially true coming from someone who came from a blue pilled perspective. When women who knew you before as the beta guy--now turned red pilled, jacked as fuck, about to be a money making machine--they will see to it that they will give you the hardest test of your life. They see this as a challenge if you're the real deal or just some pretender. In this case, holding frame can be challenging. For the women who have met you with the red pill you, it's easier.
- Lastly, I enjoy game. A lot. I enjoy the entire process of it. Every bit of it I see it as a form of art. Call it an exaggeration, but once I see things in a more profound light, things just get more appreciation from me. Not to be mistaken as a PUA, I see game as an application of the red pill where you get to express yourself naturally. I think the mission of Game is to give men the happiest experiences of their lives. Point is, if you are a student of the Game, if you want to win, it's about when you see somebody else winning, you ask yourself, "Wait a minute, how did he do that? How can I learn from it?"
Nothing really profound here. Most of you already know this by heart, but it's also just a reminder as well. Just wanted to share what I discovered about myself lately ever since I religiously followed the philosophy for the betterment of myself, for myself and for others.
I hope 2019 is going to be better in terms of application and learning.
What about you, what have you learned this year?