Chance and luck always have their way. I know many alphas who if they had to live a day in omega circumstances would fold like a bitch and cry. Everything is relative.

I wish his name wasnt Chad... just so dudebro.

These terms are so funny: Chad thundercoxk, beta obrian lol

I think a man is fully realized not when he is devoid of fear or pain but in that he takes consistent action with the values that he hold sacred!

Self esteem, or believing that you have value just for showing up, is a female concept anyway. Men should realize that confidence comes from preparation and that our value is based on our accomplishments. Focusing on self esteem is like awarding yourself a participation trophy.

I'm down with this. Thank op

Nice post OP. A healthy reminder.

TLDR

Chad is just like you in many ways. The two ways that are different are that he takes immediate action when he wants something, and that he views the world as something he controls with his interactions.

There is another post here about Chad, see:Chad is not a red piller.

I think we could do with a discussion on what/ who is Chad? What defines Chad? We have many different opinions on here (see other thread). So what is Chad everyone? What makes a Chad? Is Chad born or made (nature or nurture)?

Is Chad just a muscular good looking dude due to his genetics or did Chad start as a skinny/ fat/ normal guy who worked out?

My personal view is he is the good looking, muscular guy who was born that way. He works out because that is his nature. He doesnt go the the library because he is not naturally smart, he goes to the gym because he is naturally strong.

If my definition of Chad is correct then he is not a leader or the architect of his own good fortune. He inherited it. Chad was born not made. If my definition is correct then the above post is wrong. Chad is not in control, he just does what lions do. Chad has high self esteem because he is validated by women and does not have to make any effort to get them. He did not earn it.

What does everyone else think? Is Chad born or self made? Aren't most of us here because we wish we were born as Chad? Is that not why the first rule according to many is "lift"?

We wish to be like Chad, if we were born that way, there is no need to learn.

No, no, no.

Ambition and initiative are nice, but the critical thing you are missing is opportunity. You can be as much a go getter as you want, but if there is no opportunity to use those talents, then it wont add up to squat. This is why luck and connections are perhaps the critical elements to success. Or to put it another way, you can be successful by being lucky, but you can't be successful by being unlucky.

Nor will being self assertive alone will not lead to success - sometimes it will lead to failure. Its like the guy that pips up at a meeting and insists he's right - but if the boss doesnt like the idea, then his self assertion is counter productive. The only time being self assertive is good is when your opinion is aligned with the boss, or when you are able to operate without supervision.

The best thing you can do in life is be confident and keep your powder dry waiting for that right opportunity. Sleep with people that might enable success faster (HR/recruiters are excellent for this)

I love this OP.

I get the "fake it til you make it" strategy but it's not a long term strategy.

You SHOULD feel bad about your uncorrected flaws. But instead of dwelling on that energy and making excuses, you get shit done.

The fact you're even taking the energy to correct an issue will ensure you feel more whole since you have the courage(balls) to not just identify, but correct your inevitable flaws.

Economics also plays a role as well. A Chad who comes from a wealthy family doesn't have to sweat about paying for an ivy league education. And without having to work during school, Chad can spend more time honing his social skills via partying and networking.

And that networking allows Chad to gain a powerful network or friends and colleagues, who can help him after school.

Well done OP, I agree. To the extent that self-confidence is just being proud of yourself, the steps as I see it are:

1) Do something to be proud of 2) Be proud

The advice is good, but too generic. I think it's a mistake to think about confidence in generic terms, because it's highly contextual and it's always better to focus on what sort of confidence we want to build up. Do you want to be confident with girls? Then go and do cold approaches/ polarize your social circle (not indiscriminately though). Don't assume that you'll build the same by going to public speaking classes. Confidence does transfer, but not very efficiently, especially if the situation is very different.

The redpill confidence boils down to internalizing the red pill context and projecting that frame in your social interactions and relationships.

So to tailor this post, spin plates and be mindful of your emotions. Watch them emerge and push back. Even if you can't prevail, keep repeating. When you can consistently win against your emotions thwarting you from fucking her, you are chad.

Chad doesn't have to be remotely ambitious to be a Chad. He definitely has to have initiative, but some Chads don't even have the pretense of ambition.

Great post OP, but I'd argue that self esteem isn't necessarily success per se, but courage in knowing that regardless of the outcome, you'd be alright. Regardless of whether you succeed or not, you still took that risk and went for it.