Field Report: They don't even realize they want it | TheRedPill

Body: I have been trying to plate a girl for about two weeks, and eventually got her into bed after the second date. I have been trying a lot of the advice I have gotten from this sub on being dominant during sex with other women with tons of success. But when I started doing it, they always reciprocated and played along- said dirty stuff back, called me daddy or whatever, etc. So the first time I fucked this chick, she was like that one girl you banged in high school: mostly just laid there moaning, maybe was on top for a bit, but not a great lay. She, unlike the other girls, did not reciprocate anything. She clearly was enjoying herself, but even when I tossed her around a bit she was more just surprised at what I was doing. It was weird, and pretty awkward for me. Afterwards, I asked her what the hell was going on. She said she had no idea what to say or do, because no one had ever so much as spanked her before. "The other guys were all very tender with me, I've never done dirty talk before." (Translation: I have only ever dated a few betas, which is why I fucked you on the second date) When I told her that that is what I do in bed, she replied "I don't think I can do that, I don't really know what to do." She was clearly hesitant, probably her Anti-Slut defense going off. So I pretty much told her "play along and enjoy yourself," in slightly better words than that. A few days later, the second time we fucked, I did the same thing I always do and she slowly but surely warmed up to it. By the end she was moaning about being bad, and telling me to spank her harder. She also came way harder, and more often, than she did the last time. Afterwards, I asked her if she liked it. "Oh my God yes. So much better than before." This chick had never been with anyone that possessed alpha qualities, at least in bed, and never even knew that she would want someone to be more alpha in bed with her.

Lessons Learned: The ladies like being with an alpha in bed, even if they never have. They don't even know they want it.

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capt_behindsight 10y ago

Can confirm. Fill your role as a dom and you won't have to worry about her finding someone new. Keep lifting and be lighthearted about the whole thing, like cooking a steak

NoMoBluepill 10y ago

Girl's say things man.... I bet she also complimented your massive dong.

redadactyl 10y ago

I get this all the time, I happen to know I have as average a dick as they come. It almost snaps me out of the moment as now I know she's just spewing BS. Then I remember that I should really stop caring what she thinks and just use her like a toy. She likes it better that way, they all do.

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[deleted] 10y ago

Lol I was gonna say. She might just like OP and want to play along to the stuff he likes. They don't always know but I feel like she'd have gone off and unconsciously loved it the first time.

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vengefully_yours 10y ago

You should see my Chicago chicks tits today. Over the weekend I wrapped rope around them tight enough they turned purple, squeezed them hard enough to leave marks while she rode me, then flipped her over, fucked her ass while pulling her nipples. She had only been spanked and choked a little before she met me. Now she is a good little submissive slut that loves it when I cause her a little pain or discomfort while fucking her. Her snatch grips me harder when I twist her nipples or swat her ass.

She has been going on about it all day, texting and messaging me about how she wants more. She wants to be told what to do, and be punished for being good, she wants a man in charge. The hilarious thing is she makes more than double what I do, is a boss at her job, but doesn't want to be in charge of the man who fucks her.

Every girl I've fucked has been the same way in bed. Wanting it rough and dominant.

RedPillMat 10y ago

Hey Vengefully_yours. Maybe I should write this in a PM instead of on here, but would you be willing to lay out a thread with theory on how to be this kind of "dominant" in bed, how to make it seem natural and not forced, a part of your frame?

I'm sure a lot of red pill readers who are just swallowing the pill would greatly appreciate it. And I think it's a large part about being a real man, dominance in bed.

Thanks.

vengefully_yours 10y ago

It's quite simple.

Do. Don't ask. Rarely compliment her, and occasionally throw her a "good girl" when she does something well or without being told. Unless she's a BDSM experienced pain slut already, you have to work up to things. It's not advisable to twist her nipples until they're bright red on the first fuck, not right away of course. Tweak them a little and see how she reacts. If it's positive, tell her shes a good or tough little slut. Escalate if she has a positive response. Back off if negative.

Don't ask, "can I tie you up" say "put your hands above your head" if she asks why, give her a sly grin and pull out the rope. Learn how to bind someone without cutting off circulation, and use knots you can undo quickly if you go for rope. Bitches love being tied up...as long as they trust you. Nobody wants to be putting the lotion on it's skin.

Without the kinky shit it's even simpler. Get on your knees. Suck my cock. Take your panties/bra off. Bend over the fender. Put your legs around me. Instructions rather than requests. You lead, she follows. They like being held down, folded up, and told to do shit. If she balks or gives a firm no, then refrain from that.

If you don't look the part, you'll get laughed at. You have to know you're dominant, not just act like you think it is. What's in your head comes out non verbally, and she will read it, then you'll be the creepy beta who tried to be Chad.