TL;DR: Went alone to 2 different places to meet women without success.
2 days ago I went to a local park in the evening with intention to meet some women in my age. I've heard there are usually a lot of people drinking beer so I thought I'll try my luck and meet someone. The weather was perfect for drinking so I went there in the evening but couldn't really find any girls.. Only groups of 6-7 men that played rap music with their phones.. Well, to be fair, as I was walking out I encountered 3 girls but they looked 14-15 max, so I didn't even bother talking to them.
Today I decided to go to a lake, again alone. I remember going there with friends and there sometimes would be a group or two of women only. But no luck today. 99% of women that were around my age were with their SO or group of friends, so I didn't approach them (mistake?). There was only 1 woman alone that seemed pretty fit but she looked 26 or 27+ when I'm 19, so I didn't feel like talking to her either.
Now, you'll probably think I should have talked to every one of them either way, but damn.. I feel like that would be waste of time and I'm waiting for perfect opportunity to encounter group of girls of my age without boyfriends, I feel like it would be easier for me to approach them than single woman too for some reason.
If you have any tips or want to point out my mistakes, go ahead, I'm here to learn.
Lessons learned: sun is hot, so are the girls, but most of them taken

evileddy 11y ago
Next time at the park bring a frisbee and ask people if they wanna toss it around.. get a few people going. Women will naturally wander over and want to know why you are so much fun.
rporion 11y ago
I guess you think PUA means PickUpArtist...
It does not...
It stands for PersistentUnadulteratedAsshole....
Act accordingly.
[deleted] 11y ago
Indeed OP you have major approach anxiety, if you can't just talk to a girl a tad younger than you or one a tad older, what makes you think you can bed a girl your own age? Quit the excuses and go talk to people.
_eskimo_brothers_ 11y ago
It's much easier sometimes to talk to younger or older girls/women because they don't put up such a defensive position from the start.
thirdwill9 11y ago
Lets say I'm 39 yrs old. A chick sorta hints to me she likes gifts. Ignore? Btw possibly half my age. 20s I haven't really dated in awhile. It would be nice just to get out and pick up some BWW chicken and start blabbing back and forth.
OhAndOneMoreThing 11y ago
When I was your age, I was completely afraid of talking to women. I would do what you're doing, which is find an excuse NOT to approach. To this day, I can't understand why I was so nervous. It was ridiculous.
Start small. Make small-talk with a cashier. Talk to someone you find below you in SMV, learning how to charm unattractive women will be way less scary, and you get to see the results you would expect from ALL women when you talk to them. Pretend your lost and ask a pretty girl for directions. Be confident, smile, make eye contact, say thanks and walk away. Once you see how not weird it is, take it a little further. Make it a game.
Often times if I find myself in some kind of line I will start talking to whoever is around me. The key is persistence and also not taking it personal. There are gonna be some stuck up bitches that give you a death look when you are just being friendly. Don't let it mess you up, think to yourself how miserable their life must be that they get upset so easily. And you punish them, by withdrawing your attention, which is valuable.
Titanstone 11y ago
Being 19, I'd say aim for college parties or social circles even if you're not in college. And as I am sure many others will say: approach approach approach. If you are looking for a perfect opportunity in day game, there isn't one. I also wouldn't recommend day game to anyone living outside a fairly large city. There will be international girls walking around everywhere on a weekend, and if there aren't you are in a bad location or not a large enough city.
When faced with this kind of situation, you've got to expand. Don't being going out alone expecting a great outcome. You've got no social proof even if you are ridiculously jacked. So just approach groups with the purpose of being fun and making good vibes. Don't worry about the closing and the fucking initially. If you still care about approaching chicks with boyfriends, I suggest reading the sidebar.
Shaigan 11y ago
First year of college is over and I came back to my village, wanted to find some girl for the summer as I can't really go back to this big city, gotta help parents and save money
Lt_Muffintoes 11y ago
That perfect moment will only come if you make it come. Practice on everyone, including guys and old ladies. Otherwise, when your "perfect moment" comes, you'll be a stuttering autist.
Fuck your feels.
[deleted] 11y ago
Approach and talk to everybody, old or young, male or female.
_eskimo_brothers_ 11y ago
Don't be afraid to be friendly with anyone. They are just people.
Noolaw 11y ago
Dude let me tell you a trick if your nineteen and in college and want to meet girls you should just take a female friend and chat with her in a common area because eventually her friends will see her and then sit down with her and then the rest is totally up to you because usually girls are bored and want to do something fun.
Common area meens canteen, loud study area, starbuckson campus something like that.
AdonisHera 11y ago
Dude, just talk to everyone. Women, men, young, old, cute, ugly just practice. You're the prize man. It's just a woman, something beneath you. Just do it. And there is no perfect time, just do it when you see it.
laughkisskill 11y ago
That doesn't exist. Not until you've passed the hundred denial mark. After you've built yourself "through rejection and approach and idgaf frame buildup, forged in failure" girls will approach you. The perfect situations may happen.
You've stepped outside and been blinded and scared by how big the task actually is. It's not easy, though it is simple.
Approach every girl you meet, until you really don't give a fuck.
Primemale 11y ago
Women go where things happen, head for the city and there will be too many, let a lone struggling to find any. Why do you need girls of your age? and who cares if they have boyfriends? I think you are making excuses, everything has to be just so, 'is the wind blowing from the east?' 'are these women sitting 10.32 metres from any other people, with open arms, displaying receptivity?' your still giving too much of a fuck. Go back lift, stamp on your balls a bit, (to make sure they're working) maybe read this https://bookofpook.neocities.org/
You said your problems yourself ''...and I'm waiting for perfect opportunity..'' & ''...but most of them taken'' You are making excuses, now who's hamstering? men do this too you know.
Also remember UNTIL you CAN do this, you are a beta, period. Either throw yourself in (and see how good you feel, regardless of outcome) or go back to the drawing board, beat your chest and be happy for what is greater than being a MAN who can do what he wants?
[deleted] 11y ago
"There was only 1 woman alone that seemed pretty fit but she looked 26 or 27+ when I'm 19, so I didn't feel like talking to her either."
You should have approached here, sometimes when girls are out they dress a way that makes them look much older than they are. Combine that with the fact that you're probably nervous and looking for reasons not to approach and she may be looking a lot older than she is. I pulled a few girls who looked in their mid 20's who were actually 19 and 20. And even if she is 27, so what? You can still fuck or get some field experience
Ryohazukisan 11y ago
I'm proud of you for going out alone. Keep that attitude and women will attract to you like flies.
alreadyredschool 11y ago
This happened last Friday: I was completely down since I had to stay up at 5 in the morning and had a huge 6 hour long exam. Had to leave my phone at home because of the exam, so there I was different city, no phone, stupid black t shirt and black Adidas running pants, nothing to do till 8 o clock (the exam finished at 4, so 4 hours to waste). 18 mates (3 guys, rest are girls) from the exam will be at 8 in some bar, I told my GF to come after she is done with her shit, so she will be there at 11.
So I went to the park and slept in the grass, some girl woke me up and asked what I was doing, in the end I slept on her blanket while she played with her phone.
No idea what the time was I went to the bar, 1 hour early. Alone in the bar, waiting for my mates. At first I talked a bit with a waitress, soon after a girl sits down next to me, I thought it was the waitress and she just wanted to talk since it was pretty empty, but no, it was some girl (Lets call her J) which invited me to drink with her friends. So I had some fun with them. Then 2 girls from the exam enter, so I leave my group of new friends.
More and more people roll in. 4 girls, 3 of them were roommates from some exam girl. I stare at her hot roommate for too long and she asks me what's wrong. Me: "I can't help it but I think I know you." "Yeah, totally, I already saw you a thousand times" she responded. (lets call her K). We talk a bit about where we could have met, mention all places, all parties, but nothing, she says she thinks that it is more than just knowing each other, like as if we made out (I am sure we never made out, she just moved to the city last year and my relationship is 2 years old). I tell her that the next time she sees me she has to come and say something like "Hey after the last time I got pregnant, but I aborted it, so when will we marry?", great fun. Then I talk with my mates from the exam for like an hour, I tell one of the three exam guys about my day and say "X city is awesome". He was like "and all that in sweatpants, lol." J approaches me from behind, she wants my number, I tell her that I don't have my phone on me, she wants my facebook, I tell her that I don't add people, I just have 30 friends, 31 is a nice number she responds (good girl game, that is rare), she points to one of the exam girls "is that your GF?", I tell her that I will leave the country for 1 month, so we will never meet again, she leaves. "X city is awesome", mate laughs.
After some time K approaches me from behind, he friend is next to her and she knows me too. Turn around "X city is awesome". Back to the girls, fully flirting, I played with her hair and hand. She studies pedagogy, so I asked if its still ok to hit kids and we invented the best educational method ever, instead of carrot and stick just stick and stick. At one point I took her hand, placed in on the table, said that you just should take a knife, cut off the small finger, say that the thumb will be the next one and your kid will never make problems again. Me: "I have a theory, I am tall and hot, people notice me, so that's why you think you know me, you always see me when I am around, I noticed you because you are fairly hot" after some time my GF comes in, pushes K to the side and gives me a nice kiss and hug. I see how K turns around, does a facepalm and falls into the arms of her friend. She barely talked to me afterwards, now I know why girls hate it that nice guys just want into their pants.
The moral of the story: Enjoy yourself
Normally I always wear designer pants and long sleeved button up shirts but dressing down seems to make me more approachable, which was extremely helpful since I am anti social when I am tired. Further prove for approach ability on Saturday I wore my button up shirt, but it was too hot, so I just wore a wife beater when I was out with my GF, at one point I stood in front of the entrance waiting for my girl, some drunk blonde which was just 2 steps before my GF approached me.
The girls you met may be taken but when you enter their social circle you can meet their single friends.
Cloud1995 11y ago
I am also 19 and I'm dating 35yo women. No excuses dude.
thirdwill9 11y ago
:) did she get you buy telling you she wears size 7 shoes?
NoMoBluepill 11y ago
Jeez, redditor sees people drinking at a park so he goes there because hey, "guys there are with chicks so I'll probably find a chick right?"
Stands there alone awkwardly while other people drink some beers with their friends before he leaves. "What did I do wrong" he asks.
This reaffirms the perception of the neckbeard autistic redditor. Goddamn.