Hey all.

I just wanna thank all of you guys for this entire subreddit; This wonderful thing which exists despite all the forces that try to censor such media of raw free speech and are still trying right at this moment i'm typing.

I'm finally out of anger phase and have accepted the red pill. I am ready to start walking in a new direction (frankly i have already begun, there is no waiting in life). Just thought i should share some hard truths/facts/trivia that i encountered during this journey.

1) This one was very hard for me and caused a lot of denial and pain.AWALT. Period. Every one of them. Every one of our moms and our sisters as well. This was intensely painful to me but i had to accept this. Hypergamy is real and it's expression depends on degrees to which society and circumstances enforce control on it, but it is there. Your(My) mother is a prude? Nah, she's a whore who didn't get a chance (or may have - ;-)). Yeah, it's painful, but that's the truth. So what? Move on, it's their nature.

2) Accept yourself. Not just your strengths, but your weaknesses as well. I am smart, but feel social anxiety. I'm tall but ectomorphic. I'm well read, but knowledge will never be enough for self-fulfillment. Be honest to yourself. There are a lot of things that you can never do. Know them. Give them a try; fail, fail again and fail brutally to the point of pity. Fail after you give them your all, and then give up and let go knowing that you tried your best but still achieved nothing. I have social anxiety - yup, but i'll keep pushing my cold approaches, having clumsy conversations being perceived as a fucking loser by other people who never try. I'll never know enough of anything, but then there is so much to know at this moment and i'll keep learning for my own enjoyment. I'm ectomorphic, but i can have a highly ripped and muscular body. I have a lot of limitations, but i try to minimize them each day i live and getting better each time i go to sleep. I keep pushing and expanding my circle of influence.

3) Nobody knows everything. Their is no "life's guide for dummies". No self help guru can help me enough and solve all my problems. There are things that people can teach you better than others and keep your eyes open and your ears alert to pick up the lessons that life teaches you moment by moment. Agree with what you've already seen, dismiss what you know to be wrong and accept what you have been proved wrong on; Pick and choose your wisdom. Life is uncertain by nature, and change is the only constant, so you will never have the luxury of certainty. Accept chaos and embrace uncertainty, for you will be a lot more peaceful when you do so.

4) You cannot escape suffering. You can try to minimize it but you can't escape it. Be mindful of the present and know when your suffering starts. Every emotion has a shelf life and will dissolve when the time comes; so will your suffering. Don't fight it and let it kick you in your gut. Scream, cry and punch your face in anger. Let it go ahead and roll you like a pebble in an ocean. And then the wave will pass and you'll settle down.

5) Physical health is really important. So is mental health. And both of them complement each other.

6) There are power structures all around you. Learn about them and then harness them to your own advantage. Make social connections, for your own enjoyment as well as for your own utility.

7) Socially approved goals may not make you happy. You may be earning a lot of money but may be deeply unhappy (as i was). You may have a lot of friends, but realize at the end of the day, they are all fickle and superficial. You may be a good husband, but you would rather go travel the world. And on top of it, that which was your passion yesterday, may not be so today. You have a fixed happiness set point, and it will always oscillate in between highest degrees of flow and lowest abysses of loneliness. In moments of such anxiety, ask yourself what can you do to alleviate your suffering in the present moment. Then do that to the best of your ability and wait for your suffering to end.

8) Do not ask a woman for advice on conventionally manly things. Gender differences are a reality and not a social construct. And do them. Should you go for a hike or make a tiring streak of cold calls next week is upto you, but realize that doing them will make you feel the challenge that reality is and will force the man in you outside his cave. Push yourself to do such things, then retreat and rest when you tire out. This is the cycle of manhood and you will achieve true tranquility when you crash in your bed at the end of the day, knowing that it wasn't slavery but self discipline and drive.

9) You cannot self actualize if you cannot achieve you basic needs - Food, exercise, sex and rest. We are animals first and humans later. Honor this fact.

10) Have empathy for women. You maybe angry at them, but how is it that so many women are "behaving badly" on such a massive scale? That's because they're playing a game hard wired in them and they are doing what comes naturally to someone having a hypergamic sexual strategy. Your job now is to understand your own game and play it to the best ability you can. Being red pill aware already gives you a nice enough shield, and your own initiatives will give you the sword to wield in the war that is SMP. Play your own game.

11) Social shaming is the primary weapon of feminine imperative. Don't do anything that you don't value or doesn't benefit you.Have an understanding of social contracts; That is frame and that is everything. Sexual strategy is amoral. Read the sidebar.

12) Try to maximize flow - it will show in the rest of your life. Do what interests you, unashamedly and block out the rest of the world when you do it. It is when you loose both yourself and the world simultaneously, will you truly find happiness.

13) Happiness is not pleasure. Understand the difference between those two.

14) Have compassion for yourself and others. You're ok and so are others as well. You're enough.

15) Read a lot. But more importantly write. Write to yourself and write for yourself.

16) Trying to convince someone using words is often inefficient and a waste of time. Don't tell, show. Preach by doing. Also learn by actions more than words.

17) Value your time the most.

I guess this turned out to be quiet long and i apologize for the lack of brevity. Want to thank you guys once again for all the wisdom that you have given, and would like to keep learning and giving back.

It's been a long road, but still miles to go before i sleep.