I saw a post here recently where the OP suggested, somewhat defiantly, that he's glad women branch swing, because it keeps him on top of his game, because it would be unfair to expect women to stay with you just because you showed up first.
I'm wondering, do you think that this is a reasonable approach for a man to take? I don't see why it wouldn't be, assuming you can trust yourself to not develop one-itis, assuming you do not co-habitate, and assuming you make it clear that you're not sexually exclusive.
I have found that having multiple plates is fun, but a bit of a hassle in terms of scheduling and time spent reflecting, and as such a distraction from career goals. I felt immediately more at ease and able to focus on my work once I cut things off with one of my two plates. I am wondering what experienced veterans have to say about this.
Is branch swinging a trick we can steal from the other gender?
_whistler 10y ago
Step 1: observe how the world works.
Step 2: decide whether you're going to complain about it or take advantage of it.
Assuming the former, join the Men's Right's movement.
Assuming the latter, stay here at The Red Pill and learn.
Sounds like the OP you mention know's what's up.
[deleted] 10y ago
If women are going to branch swing and i have accept this,I will cheat.branch swinging implies holding onto to the former until you successfully grab the better branch.if those are the rules of the game,I will protect my sexual strategy as the females do theirs.by remaining faithful when they have no concept of loyalty is allowing them to maximise their hypergamy and reducing your strategy of polygamy to zero.
NeoreactionSafe 10y ago
There's another more subtle split along the "not complaining" line between:
Enjoy the Decline
. /r/TheRedPill tends to be the "Enjoy the Decline" faction which embraces Individuality and suggests gaily riding things to the bottom. (nothing wrong with that)
/r/DarkEnlightenment tends to be the "Enjoy the Collapse" faction which looks forward to the Misandry Bubble popping and recreating natural hierarchy afterwards. You get a lot of Putin Worship in this faction.
_whistler 10y ago
Or you can keep both stages of the future in mind, and just enjoy the ride the whole way down.
[deleted] 10y ago
yes, because the same idiot kids who went from writing "USSR was the best" on youtube @ age 14 have now turned 18 and think putin is god
it's like when you get idiots posting about how great eastern european women are, then someone from russia/cz/poland comes in and posts how it's not like that at all, then the fedoras get mad
NeoreactionSafe 10y ago
Correct you on this one.
Red Pill tends to be younger (20-40) while Dark Enlightenment is older. (40+)
JumpXVI 10y ago
Why should you have to officially cut things off with one of your plates, if you're simultaneously making it clear that you're not sexually exclusive? Branch-swinging as girls practice it implies "selective monogamy", which is really just hypergamy.
It kind of sounds like you were spending more time and effort on the logistics and relationship aspects of interacting with the girls you were sleeping with. What you did is essentially let go of one of the branches of two trees that you already had a firm, steady, and explicitly open grasp on. But that's not branch-swinging.
It's a well-kept "paradox" for men that having a mission, and pursuing it to the exclusion of just focusing on raising your n-count, has a side effect of a higher n-count if you want. But the second you start wanting to try to keep your plates at the top of their game is the second you're looking to put more into them than just your penis.
sillyMooseHaver47 10y ago
In this particular example, said plate started to blow up at me about how inconsiderate to her feelings I was being, in terms of the succinctness of my text messages. This is after she'd already "ended" it with me more than once. Of course, those decisions of hers didn't last. However, by officially ending it on my end (and in my head) it means that I don't have to expend more mental effort into it. I consider her a friend, and I don't have to worry about causing her undue suffering as a result of her inappropriate expectations from me. I just said, "You know what, you're expecting too much. We need to stop seeing each other." If I was still fucking her every now and then, I'd have to deal with these text messages from time to time about how I'm a total asshole, which frankly I'd prefer not to deal with, even if she is way out of line.
oldredder 10y ago
Fundamental misunderstanding: a woman's capable of jumping to a higher branch, but may fall.
A man's capable of grasping as much fruit as he damn well pleases. All at once.