Before you think this is going to be about something romantic and wonderful, have you been to this sub? I'm writing a simple post about the most important three words you can use in any relationship, dating or otherwise to establish a dynamic, make women want you and have the best time you'll ever have:
I'll Handle It.
This is the automatic answer to things like making plans, being asked to help with something by an LTR, or any other scenario where it is required that a decision be made and action be taken.
There are major benefits to using these three little words. First of all, whatever is getting done is getting done by you, under your control. Therefore whatever restaurant you want to eat at, colour you want to paint the walls or activity you want to do the woman is simply along for the ride and will enjoy it. They will also appreciate the fact that they didn't have to make a decision. You're taking a leadership role in the relationship and are assuming the captain dynamic.
In a work situation it shows leadership, the ability to work independently and any boss or manager will highly appreciate that they don't have to keep an eye on you or your work.
Of course, the other component of this is once you tell people you're going to handle it - actually handle it. Over promising and not delivering once an expectation is established is suicide in pretty much any situation. And you have just destroyed any credibility you might have had in establishing your authority.
Comments and additions welcome. If there are a better three words that you can think of, fire away.
CeleritySteam 7y ago
"What do you wanna do?" Confused silence. "Do you want A or B?" Indecisive prattling. "We're doing this." Ok. AWALT.
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rikleeRed42 7y ago
finally a good, useful post that isnt PUA bullshit. cheers.
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CSMastermind 7y ago
Personally I like delegating. "This restaurant, this time, make reservations". As long as your mako ng the decisions and doing any of the hard stuff having them to the menial tasks works great.
beginner_ 7y ago
Good point. A leader doesn't do everything by himself. It's not like a captain is steering the ship himself. He tells the crew in which direction to go.
blindface 7y ago
Until TRP, I definitely used to be annoyed if a girl was indecisive after giving her options for going out to eat or whatever. It's a trope that many guys bitch about and try to guilt girls over.
Now I know that they just want you to make a decision, to control them, and to take responsibility off their plate. They don't want you to ask them for advice. And that goes double for anyone in a relationship - you're not being considerate by asking them.
Just handle it. Great advice.
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AussiecuntTRP 7y ago
I knew this intuitively before discovering red pill. You see all these BP guys asking their girls where they want to eat/go/drink then they have a hissy fit when they can't get a girl to decide. You are the man. You fucking decide where to go or at least give her limited options. She aint going out with you because you go to fancy restaurants or expensive bars (unless you're a BB). She's going out to be with you and have fun and ultimately fuck you. Who cares where you go?
zattraction 7y ago
You could also say you're taking responsibility off YOUR plate ;)
WhySoRuff 7y ago
Either choose the spot straight out or give her no more than two choices. The options should be #1 and #2 on the list of places you want to eat.
half_man_half_cat 7y ago
+1 I think giving her a finite amount of choices also works great.
max_peenor 7y ago
Clicked on the thread expecting to see "I am pregnant."
You are right and this could be a far more developed post, because this is a very rich mine to dig. Imma gonna need the name of your grammar school English teacher though; they can use a bullet to they're head.
konradcurzed 7y ago
It is good to note that the 3 exact opposite words are "I Don't Know". Even if you don't know and are planning on making it up on the fly, never out right say "I Don't Know". It makes everyone uncomfortable.
sacarneiro 7y ago
This is stupid in the long run the responsability about everything is going to be on you.
empatheticapathetic 7y ago
Thankfully men have accountability.
max_peenor 7y ago
Life is hard. Do you need a helmet?
This is the sort of thinking that gets you chained to a post-wall land whale with a grinding voice and tastes above your pay grade. Easy sex now means hell on earth later. Easy anything now means hell later.
sacarneiro 7y ago
You probably are a gym beta with low self esteem and no job. Keep thinking you are better and harder than anyone else.
max_peenor 7y ago
What is a gym beta?
Grow up. And get a helmet.
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GreenPiller 7y ago
"Are you done?" Is also a good one to use when she's done ranting.
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psionicsickness 7y ago
"Are you done?" is just oppository (sp? is this the right word?). You are allowing for a response. I get it, it says, "I don't care what you just said", but it's not authoritative, it's catty.
Someone starts ranting about unrelated or unimportant things? Just walk away, don't ask them if they're done.
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Yeah, I used to listen when my girlfriend was ranting about pointless crap. Then I tried just saying 'uh-huh' and going off to do what I want to do. Works a lot better.
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prodigy2throw 7y ago
I never let women decide anything anymore. Decision making is a mans job
SonOfTerra92 7y ago
That's actually 4 words mate.
But Great post though. That's what men do. Translate will power into work that gets things done, whether it's moving mountains or getting laid.
Those two are kinda the same things aren't they.
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WorldNewPilla 7y ago
Thanks for the post bro, I see what you are saying. Yet, I feel that using it too much may show you as a beta for doing all the things with her only participating after the work is done. What are your two cents about that?
Redpillandrew 7y ago
Good point. My two cents are: you make her do her part. Like "go fetch me this", "go wash the dishes". Yeah you handle all of it but you're in charge... don't forget this part. This way you show leadership and you don't do all the work like a beta provider. Plus: very once in a while, when asked to do something, tell you just won't. Firmly. Strong boundaries.
WorldNewPilla 7y ago
I see what you are saying, it makes sense. Thanks mate.
smyger 7y ago
My thoughts exactly, in a relationship this turns you to beta?
Scheme00 7y ago
I think the OP is spot on with this. Over and over I'm told this is what makes me more attractive with women I'm dating compared to other men.
Metalageddon 7y ago
Very well done.
Shit, now I've gotta scrap another submission. You've done this very well, thanks OP.
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DntPnicIGotThis 7y ago
Great post. Solid utility for life.
SultanPepe 7y ago
Alternatively, "I've got this"
BreakingRed_ 7y ago
There are people who haven't read "Extreme Ownership" yet and are browsing this sub?
Get to it.
butter_coffee 7y ago
Hey!! I read that book. His new one “Discipline is Freedom” just came out 3 days ago.
BreakingRed_ 7y ago
I'm baffled at how this sub rarely mentions his work. "The warrior kid" was basically portraying himself as an alpha uncle teaching the beta kid how to work hard and have a code in his life.
rp_newdawn 7y ago
I've had it sitting on my Amazon wish list of "books I wish I had time for". After reading your comment, I pre-ordered the new edition coming out next month. Thanks for the kick.
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[deleted] 7y ago
No comment, just an upvote. You bracketed the words well, that would have been the vector of attack.
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Glad you could comment to let everyone know that you have no comment
no_condoments 7y ago
Your comment is so good, I'm not going to reply to it.
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Well, to be fair I actually supported the OP's point by acknowledging the fact that he covered the major weakness of his argument, but whatever.
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ShakaLeonidas 7y ago
Many girls dont want you to "handle it". They dont want to be controlled. They will resist. The SIW narrative is poisnous. No matter your SMV, many girls want to keep their individuality and remain on the CC.
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If your frame is strong enough women will do whatever you want, no question. The resistance you describe is nothing more than shit testing to size you up.
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This is what happens when you fail shit tests my man. Keep at it-I remember being right where you are at too. Remember, eye contact is everything. Puts them right in their place; beneath you!
FuckGasparGomez 7y ago
Lol make that bitch realize where she belong
max_peenor 7y ago
.... while you take care of all their life problems. They don't want to be controlled in that they don't want their options limited.
I used to spend a lot of time around women in the military (plot twist: I lost my mind and fucking married one). Every damn one of them agreed, including Legal Cohabiting Female, that Basic Training was the easiest part of the military, since at all times they knew exactly what they had to do. Women stress about fucking everything and mostly because they are worried if they are doing it right. They fear judgement like we fear carpet bombing. Basic training? There is no such stress. Do a and then b and then c. And then everything is ok.
ShakaLeonidas 7y ago
Just like boot camp they would follow orders during the day but loose their gaddamn minds and morals when the DI or RDC left for the night. I was hooking up in Bootcamp. Nobody ever suspected the chicks off doing it either. Females rope a dope. Bingo they don't wasn't their options limited. If your to profficent at mate guarding they get antsy.
max_peenor 7y ago
Oh yeah and bad. There was this chick I fucked in a follow ons school that I didn't recognize at first but after a couple weeks I realized who she was.... "Wait, aren't you the female they found fucking the SGT that ran the mess hall in a dumpster one night??!" Yup. We all thought for sure she was going to get thrown out. Nope. She was moved to another training unit and finished on time regardless.
There was a very small group of females that were actually in an attached barracks (I know the kids these days might not think hat was a big deal, but it was then). One of the honey fuckers (aka typical male) in my unit figured out that if you bought one of those little dental mirrors from the exchange, we could actually see what they were doing over there. Did they freak out? Did they tell? Fuck no. After 5 and the DIs disappeared, they would come talk to us through the door and then taunt us with tit and snatch flashes and shows.
I ended up fucking two of them at my next assignment. One of them taught me an important life lesson... "Oh, so you usually shave that." "No, I was trying to get rid of crabs on my own."
Fuuuuuuuuuuuucccccccccccckkkkkkkkkkkkk....
The same chick twice waited for me to be near pass-out drunk than then rolled m on my back, pulled my dick out, rolled a condom on it and mounted. As she started grinding she tells me, "Sorry about the condom but I'm still on pills for chlamydia." Legal Cohabiting Female, who knew her, still makes fun of me for that.
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AlphaGrad 7y ago
SIW=someone is watching. I had to google that.
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Frightening.
When they're watching, I lose my boner.
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This is awesome.
A chick doesn't build Leonidas into her handle.
Clearly he said SJW is poison, but everyone is reading it as SMV is poison, which is why it's -35 karma right now.
Social Ignorance Warrior?
Social Incel Warrior?
Sucker In Workplace?
I'm done, no one will read this low.
therighttobecool 7y ago
Social Injustice Warrior. It's the more right leaning SJW
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That's fucking funny, thanks for sharing.
Solon64 7y ago
rolls eyes
SIW stands for Strong Independent Woman.
They use it a lot over at TwoXChromosomes. I peek over there from time to time for a laugh. Know your enemy, and all.
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chrisb5583 7y ago
This is true. All girls are different. Another great approach is to pick three places and ask them which of the three they prefer. Gives you control, but allows them a choice, and a feeling of control. I think this approach is truly "handling it".
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