This is my first post on TRP. Half a year into TRP, I'm 25 with a great job and building solid self esteem (especially lately). Days of being imprisoned in my own head when I'm around others are long gone.
A consistent diet, lifting, reading and meditation keeps me present. It's seriously the best medicine for a recovering BP. I'm living proof and people have noticed.
Women have been flirty, never got this in my BP days. Women have explicitly complimented my confidence and lightheartedness. However, I've had plenty of:
- "Oh, I have a boyfriend. I'll still take your number and we can hang out!"
My de-facto answer (this happens that many times):
- "Oh I see. I have enough friends. It was great meeting you though."
Other times I'd get a number that leads to a flake. I'm paying my dues by working for long-term gratification. I can see the results and different reactions from friends and people I'm not attracted to. I realize no one has a time constraint to when they've "made it" but days like this, I smoke a fat bowl and tell myself "keep working and you'll be fine."
Any sage advice is welcome.
PS. This community rocks. Thanks for helping me make a shift in my life.

rp_valiant 11y ago
if a woman is giving you her number to "hang out", it might well be that she wants the alpha D. Her saying she has a boyfriend and that she just wants to "hang out" is setting up a diorama so when you do have sex, she can hamster it away "I told him I had a boyfriend and just wanted to hang out but it just kind of happened!". It's basic ego protection.
LongElm 11y ago
Interesting. Has this happened to you?
rp_valiant 11y ago
no, this is just based on having read TRP for about 3 months and seeing quite a few stories where this exact dynamic plays out. I'm married, but am waiting for an opportunity to play out so I can have the freedom to start again should I decide to leave.
[deleted] 11y ago
I'm surprised you aren't aware of this. Especially for someone so deep into rp.
LongElm 11y ago
Half a year isn't deep son
Billybob25112 11y ago
Next time say you also have a boyfriend but you keep him secret so people don't think you're gay. Say it with a smirk, get her number then proceed to plow her vagina like your life depended on it.
Boyfriends don't count for shit if you can display higher value.
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[deleted] 11y ago
You're not paying your dues, you're investing in yourself.
When you pay for something, the transaction ends.
When you invest, it's something that returns dividends, and the interest is compounded, the more invest, the greater the returns will be.
LongElm 11y ago
I feel you and you're right.
I know putting ourselves as a priority will yield women into our lives as a byproduct. It's been frustrating getting next zero results. The muscle for socializing and asking for the number is getting stronger, but having women to have sex with isn't there yet. Thanks for the support man
[deleted] 11y ago
When you say "The muscle for socializing and asking for the number is getting stronger" sounds very PUA and not very TRP.
Take a look at one of my old posts on /r/seduction "Planting 1,000 seeds (a bit long, I know)" https://archive.today/7L6ZL
LongElm 11y ago
Well it is. Exercise it and it's less tough to do. Did it magically come to you after years of Red Pill? I'm honestly curious
[deleted] 11y ago
It came after a lot of practice and screwing up.
PUA: socialize in order to ask for the number, ask for for the number in order to....
TRP: socialize in order to be social, for yourself.
Read the sidebar of this sub.
makethemwant 11y ago
So, good job. And one thing I found is that women actually can provide more value than just sex. If they have a boyfriend but they still want to hang out, they can become friends and strategy partners via messaging. You can tell them about your day, about other girls you're meeting and talking to, and they can and will help you figure out how to bang other girls. And they're good at it.
I have a lot of girl friends and I love them for this. My buddy's wife once infamously advised me what to text a girl who I thought I had lost it with completely. After I sent that short simple text "It's never too late", the reply I got was something like "Okay :-) This is my address. I can't believe we're doing this! Hurry"
[deleted] 11y ago
Don't ask a fish how to catch a fish. Glad it works for you, but it's generally a shitty idea to take girl advice from a girl.
FattestRabbit 11y ago
You just dropped a huge truth-bomb on me. I've never thought of it this way. Thank you.
[deleted] 11y ago
Somebody dropped it on me. Just paying it forward. Pass it on!
NightGod 11y ago
Conversely, minnows make great bait when trying for bigger fish.