I have slept with women from time to time but only for casual fun (they too and they were all non-virgins).
But when it comes to marriage, I cannot help but want only virgin as my future wife.
I want my future wife as pure as possible.
I sometimes imagine myself being married to a non-virgin, possibly very promiscuous one and I just freak out whenever I think that my precious baby who spent 40 weeks in my wife's womb getting cumcoated all the way along my wife's vagina during the birth, all the cum that my wife had received from numerous men of whose names and faces I even never have heard of or seen. It just feels deeply humiliating and I feel I wouldn't be able to truly love my baby if that's the case. It would feel like my baby is a pseudo-bastard.
I may sound like a paranoid. But I just cannot help.
I also think if I get married to a virgin, the bond would be stronger because my wife would know no men other than me.
Is it okay to have this kind of way of thinking? Seriously, I would just not get married if I have to marry a non-virgin.
mattyanon Admin 23h ago
You are allowed whatever preferences you like.
Here's the mistakes you are making:
Marriage is a fucking terrible plan for any man, whether she's a virgin or not.
cundardunfinished 3d ago
It's not healthy, it will drive you crazy (because you won't find a virgin, and you will never really know if she is a virgin).
The problem with a virgin specifically is they are either too young for that to be an important trait (an 18 year old virgin is just a slut in waiting) or something is wrong with them (a 25 year old virgin is either lying or has some reason why she didn't get married younger).
Not getting married is always a good conclusion though
throwaway415 1 3d ago
i think there's definitely merit to choosing a virgin over a whore for a wife, but it is correct that a girl who is a virgin now can still become a whore later. that's why vetting her is so important to get a understanding of how likely it is for her to slip down that path, and how difficult it would be to maintain her purity. I agree that marriage is a bad idea in this age, but if you must marry, you should choose the most optimal candidate possible.
throwaway415 1 3d ago
i think it's completely ok. nothing wrong with having high standards as a man. if you work hard and develop yourself into a high value man, then you should have high standards
i would only ever consider a virgin for marriage, and that's assuming I ever even get married, which realistically, i probably won't.
just understand that her being a virgin doesn't mean she doesn't have the capacity to become a whore. it just means she hasn't yet. you still need to vet her to know how likely this is to happen, and maintaining her "unicorn" state is a lifelong process that will require a lot of time and effort from you. remember - unicorns don't exist naturally - they're shaped and maintained by men through a painstaking process that has no guarantees to work forever.
I don't recommend getting married, but if you must, be very, very careful who you choose and keep those standards as high as possible.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 3d ago
Yeah, they're made by supergluing a dildo onto a donkey's head.
The reason perfect women are called "unicorns" is because they don't exist.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 3d ago
This is retarded, for several reasons.
1) getting married in most countries, with how the laws and court systems favor women at men's expense, is dumb. And I say this as a man who has been married for 20 years.
2) number 1 is made even worse by women's fickle nature. They change their minds more than climate alarmists change what they're fretting over. Half of all marriages end in divorce, and roughly 80% of all divorces are initiated by the woman, usually for stupid reasons (she's booooored and unhaaaaaaaappy).
3) the woman being a virgin isn't some magical, silver bullet solution against this. A virginal woman is still a woman, and there have been plenty of women who were supposedly virgins when they got married who divorced their husbands and/or cheated on their husbands. Prime example: Steven Crowder and his ex-wife were both supposedly virgins when they got married. She divorced his ass. Go to the MRP subreddit and read through some of the "Own Your Shit" threads. Plenty of those dudes married women who were supposedly virgins who turned out to be duds for various reasons.
4) notice how in number 3 I kept saying "supposedly virgins"? Yeah. You'll never fucking know for sure.
5) every slut was a virgin once. Just because you're her first doesn't mean you'll be her only.
6) good fucking luck even finding one. I tried to find one back when I was one too. I never found a single one, and this was the late 1990s and early 2000s. Women are even sluttier now.
7) seriously, getting married is fucking stupid. There's no upside for men, only complications and responsibilities and obligations. You gain nothing you won't already have in an LTR.
First-light 2 2d ago
Whether or not it is K depends on what it does to you. If it drives you to successfully find a high value virgin and make a strong family with her its good. If it means you don't ever have a family or end up harbouring resentment towards the mother of your children because you settled for a non virgin bitterly, then its bad.
Its what you make of it. For a starter consider what you are likely to be able to make of it. Can you find yourself a high value virgin -pretty, smart and sane who will marry you. If so, then go get her. If not, then think carefully.
Oh and remember marriage is a bad idea. Have a family with a woman who is morally your wife, sure but not legally your wife as the law is a bad bedfellow in a union between two people.
No-Stress-Cat 2d ago
If that's your standards bro, then go get that virgin wife. You might have to become Amish though.
Mountainman 1d ago
Those women can churn the shit out of butter I wonder how that translates into the bedroom
No-Stress-Cat 1d ago
If she finds you hot enough, she might show you her ankles.
HighBodyCountVirgin 2d ago
Its natural to want this, don't fall for society gaslighting you into feeling like an asshole for it.
Understandably today theres a few issues, you probably already know, first that its almost impossible to find this woman. Though you can increase your chances by looking for someone young (age of consent to 21y.o.), who's religious/church goer, and hasn't gone to college/uni.
The second issue is that its not just about PIV, modern society is constantly redefining terms to reshape the idea of female purity. E.g. celibacy is the new virginity, low body count is the new virginity, "never had a BF" is the new virginity (despite having regular sex), being a literal "virgin" yet having given multiple BJs to different guys... is the new virgin. Theres young women online advertising themselves as being virgin in order to sell their OnlyFans. Even if they are virgins, theres dozens of other ways they've lost their innocence.
So ye virgin women are ideal, but that shouldn't be the primary concern, you need to find women that are submissive, doesnt have much social media presence, is young, have a good relationship with their father, even if the have some sort of past that they value purity and innocence and condemn casual and pre marital sex, etc.