We all know it's presence. We hear it every day. "The country is going to hell". "Men are disposable" "Hypergamy is a newbies foe" "Once you break frame you're fucked"
So you go out on the prowl hyper vigilant and cognizant of what can go wrong. The minute details. The pitfalls. What not to do. Your asshole is constantly puckered. Your mind is racing. It's telling you how to behave.
"Fill the silence" "Say something clever and Sexy" "Don't say anything. Be mysterious" "Be stoic" "You're smiling too much"
At this point you are no longer in control. Your anxiety is at the helm and internally, your brain is on fire.
This is how men get ghosted. Women talk about this: "He was really sweet, but he was so nervous. I wanted to just give him a hug. I'm just not interested in dating my kid brother".
Bro you are not living in the moment. You're living in a doomed future filled with anxiety. You imagine a field report where you get called a sperg. The horror! The shame! You might not be a Chad. This is where most guys shut down. They become a robot: Girls says sentence = input I answer girl with Chad like comment = response This is not a conversation, it's similar to poorly coded AI.
So relax Broseph. Enjoy the moment. Here's something to tell yourself before and even during the date. Mistakes are part of the process. This is how you learn what to do and how you learn more about the woman you are currently on a date with or gaming.
The second tool in your arsenal is humor. A confident man can laugh at his mistakes without being overly self depricating. This shows you can handle criticism and feedback without being a little bitch about it.
Get out of your head. Have fun. Say dumb and ridiculous shit. Laugh. Show your date that your human. Keep it light in a culture of heavy doom and gloom. Women will appreciate it. And furthermore, you won't pause in the middle of the date. You won't be thinking "I fucked up and lost frame".
She won't see this and think ,"I think he's trying to hold in a fart".....
This is not sexy. A true alpha will let it rip and laugh about it.
Now go out and un-pucker that butthole.
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 4d ago
Strongly second. Not taking yourself too seriously makes you much more fun.
Learning to shut the fuck up is a superpower. In fact, that's one of the first pieces of advice on the MRP sidebar: shut the fuck up! You won't gain any ground, but at least you won't lose any.
Caveat: this is for when you're starting out, and it's not saying to never say a word, ever (for all you soft-R artists in here).
First-light 1 4d ago
Good post.
Be your best happy confident self. You can't do better. With practise this happy confident self will be more successful. Don't try to be someone you are not. In the end you will always get found out as a fraud in in the meantime its so stressful that you can't perform your best because you are too busy acting.
Lone_Ranger 3 3d ago
agree on nearly all of these points.
I sigh when I read 'field reports' from our bretheren on this site. They are clearly making 'dating' their quest, and are only interested in securing a female to whom they can pander for their rest of their lives. Or more acurately, until they get divorced raped and cheated on.
get this spergs: a woman, or women in general, can never be your goal. They can only be a side effect of a life well lived. If you have your mission, your goal, if you are determined and effective about building a life that YOU want, women will appear out of nowhere.
Men that focus on women will never be attractive to women. Focus on your career, your education (in the broadest sense), your network, your place in society. Trust me, women will appear like flies at a picnic.
Women are bored. they are bored of themselves and each other, and rightly so. They are all looking for a guy that is not focused on women. The minute you make women the centre of your life, that is the minute you dedicate yourself to your own downfall.
Friends, career, social networks, art, work, education.
Who are you role models? Do you think about the great men of the 20th century? Think about Albert Einstein. Do you think he thought that the secret to life was gym, looks maxing, fashion, wasting time on the internet, learning pick up lines from game coaches etc...do you think he was interested in that?
Albert had more pussy that anyone on this forum. He could rock up at a lecture hall in any university and give his talk, and afterwards there would be a bevy of hot chicks less than half his age begging to suck him off.