She had her defenses up the whole time we were seeing each other, which was something that I'd considered but I didn't believe. Instead, I believed that she just wasn't into me. This was sperg black pilled thinking. Her actions showed that she was into me, but I wanted compliments and shit, despite the fact that I never really gave her many.

This is her re-interpretting events to benefit her own short term emotional state at the time of asking.

She wrote a message about a month after we stopped seeing each other, telling me how much she never wants me in her life again and how she never wants to talk again, and how she's totally over me. She had never sent this to me but she had it saved and sent it to me the other day when I was blowing up her phone having a sperg attack (not my finest moment). I was able to turn the conversation around and talk to her on the phone to get answers to my questions, which admittedly a healthier person wouldn't need answers to. She told me that she wrote the message a month after we'd stopped seeing each other, and I asked if I had contacted her or had done something to prompt that. She said that I hadn't, but that she anticipated it. Yet any of the times I've contacted her before a couple days ago (again, for reasons that were due to poor mental condition), she did not send the message to me.

Err........ this is all fucked up.

Apparently she's been viewing my Instagram page and saw a story highlight of mine and got mad because I didn't used to post. She had already had my stories hidden and she didn't come up on the viewer list, and she confirmed that she viewed it on my page. This is after she typed that message about how she was over me.

Right. Noone needs to type out a message to themselves declaring they are over someone.

Apparently her ex who she had started seeing again at some point after I told her I didn't want a relationship was not some non-committal Alpha, and he was actually trying to commit to her. She said she didn't acknowledge his plans because she didn't want long distance (he told her he was moving when they were on the date when they reunited), but I don't believe her because to me it seems like she had cognitive dissonance and didn't want to admit that she was desperate for commitment. Regardless, the spergs were wrong when they said that her ex was an Alpha who just got the best of her without commitment.

What I've learned is that what you give is what you get.

That's a hell of a stretch.

Often with women: the move you give the LESS you get. Ask any guy married for more than 3 years.

And the less you give, the MORE you get. Ask any guy who offers her nothing but sex.

Basically, I think that when you join the red pill you have to walk through a bunch of larpers who try to paint every dude with a question or dilemma as some kind of beta. This fucked with my head, and I saw a post recently here from a guy who was afraid to compliment his girlfriend or whatever during sex because of what the red pill says.

There are many people who (intentionally or otherwise) misinterpret what is said on TRP due to filtering with their own biases.

Guys, the narrative we see here so often is crazy. I treated this girl somewhat badly and she was very into me.

Right

Yet, some fucker who introduced me to the red pill (who I've just blocked a few days ago) told me that her ex was her Alpha Fucks. That's what prompted me to call. All of this Alpha Fucks/Beta Bucks shit is only a real risk if you're more retarded than me.

Most of TRP is wrong because one guy happened to give the wrong interpretation of who your ex is seeing?

It seems that a simple yet effective formula is to spend time with girls who treat you well, and then treat them in accordance to how they treat you.

Right. I agree, but that's hardly enough to undermine everything TRP has ever said.

So yeah, now that I've spent way too long obsessing about whether I'm a beta I can finally move on. Although for many it's easy to separate the exaggerated hysteria from reality, for me and many others we tend to see the worst and become blackpilled. So hopefully this post helps people realize that some of the extreme comments you see are not necessarily the truth.

Err.........

Yeah. Hell of a stretch.

If you want a seriously long term relationship it's give and take.

If like me for the past ten years, youre an ass. You end up driving women away and crazy. They always go off the deep end when I'm done with them.

Not everyone is cut to be that kind of alpha guy you are maybe striving to be. And it is questionable good thing to be alpha guy at all.

As someone who is that kind of guy, to be it you need to be disturbed and broken at least at some level. And your personality needs to have some serious combination of psychopathy and narcissism elements. I will never understand why redpill comunity strives so much to be that guy. IMO being solid beta guy with good game is the healthiest thing to do.

But if it is what you really want...care less my dude, care less.

A good post full of insight gained from thinking hard. Over the long haul you tend to more or less get what you give. The people who want you to copy the bad habits of some high value men -like treating women badly /with no care because they can- are totally missing the point. Bad "Alpha" habits don't make you more attractive. Dread is one of those drugs that works in the short term but tolerance then develops. You tend to need to up the dose next time. Eventually you have shot all you have and the patient is not responding as you would like. Being high value with options that women appreciate without needing to be shown is one thing, trying to use dread to get results you want form women is something only to do in desperate situations not regularly like the fake alphas do in their almost always STRs