Its been a while since I dropped some value on you boys with a thread, so here we go.
Abundance mentality, in regards to women, is the mindset of never overinvesting on a single woman. No woman is special, therefore she never gets your full 100% attention besides when she acts like a good little girl who complies with your world view and your rules.
Abundance works because its an honest signal of pre-selection & high value, which is evolutionarily programmed into womens brains to select their best possible mate. Hence why they go for & have the longest lingering feelings for the Alpha/Chad/Bad boys, whatever you want to call it.
The nice guys are easy attention/validation- therefore they use them for free car rides, free food, free validation, free therapy, etc. as they are also easily manipulated. These guys make better "boyfriend" material from a comfort perspective, meaning they won't ever feel insecure in a relationship & will most likely lead to a matriarchy (female leading dynamic) in that relationship. We all know women who hold the power in a relationship will FUCK YOU UP - too emotional, too volatile, too little reliance on reason & rationality. You will be crushed mentally and emotionally and financially by allowing yourself to be a beta male chump.
So heres my point. To be successful with women, you need to develop an abundance mentality.
2 Types of Abundance:
1st: Actually having multiple women contacting you, sleeping with you, wanting you. Having this allows you to interact with women in a way that isn't needy, approval seeking, or validation seeking. Which turns them on. Those who have more, will get more. Rich get richer. Poor get poorer. That's just how it is.
2nd: Being okay with being alone - this is the 2nd and highest level of abundance, which I call internally validated. You are so focused on your path & your mission, that you do not care if you have 100 women wanting to suck your dick, or 0. All top level men who are driven to succeed/conquer/dominate share this quality, and as a side effect, have women wanting to join in their world.
I say this because it seems to me that a lot of guys here are too focused on women-women-women. Like should I do this, for women? Should I do that, for women? No bro, you cut her off, because you have self respect. You tell her you won't deal with her anymore, because you have principles. Many dudes here ever reject a girl and it shows your desperation. If your mission is purely women, you're wasting your life.
Focus on a mission or purpose and ride it. Dedicate your life to it. Dedicate your life to succeeding in your field so you don't have to ask whats the right move here, or the right move there. It literally doesn't matter cus women are a lower priority in your life. With that, you will naturally view yourself as the prize, the king, her top option, and if she doesn't view you like that, you cut her off.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 1y ago
If any of the above even make you think about it, she's not LTR material
At the end of the day, do you like spending time with her, enjoy it? All women from time to time gab or have a bit of drama in life, where does she fall on that scale. IMO it better be very low, I don't need headaches or drama, at the end of the day I'd prefer a good ole fashioned and a blow
EurasianChad 1 1y ago
Fantastic addition to this post.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Good simple post. I would add as a caveat that you should have Game related goals for a time, but that is different from making women your top priority. Remember your mental point of origin; you.
https://therationalmale.com/2014/11/14/mental-point-of-origin/
EurasianChad 1 1y ago
Agreed. You can have goals in the realm of getting better with women, just be careful to not let yourself slip into validation seeking for this path.
With everything in life, more effort = more results. With women, it's really less effort = more results on the exterior. The inner work needed to become a top guy is still high though.
Building yourself should always be your top priority, along with taking care of your loved ones (brothers, sisters, parents, closest brothers in tribe).
slowlylearning1 1y ago
I find myself loving your post, Eurasian (are you Mongolian? That's the first nation I think of for some reason with user name).
I'd like to say, if you're getting a lot of IOIs and very intimate ones eg basically touching, standing close to you and they're very obvious, especially around drunk women. You don't even need to talk to them to get abundance, the more you speak to women too, the better you're game will get.
By holding frame, getting in shape, dressing better I've gone from thinking I'd be lucky to date a 5 to turning down women I previously thought were "out of my league" due to their behaviour or they are too much work.
Basically the leaner, healthier, better you get, it gets easier and easier. The more independent, stoic to an extent and interesting you are, and older you get ; it gets so much easier too. Considering most men are so weak, childish, undeveloped even ; you'll be turning down women you previously worshipped.
I'm basically a mix between an easy going, fun yet stoic at times guy. I get the hell out if a conversation doesn't interest me or I met toxic people. Easier said than done especially in a working environment; but you should never put up with horrible, narcissistic people in your social life.
Many women are hard work, and most of them might put a brave/independent women but even domineering women can turn into submissive women under a stoic and firm man.
The healthier, happier mentally and physical you are I find you'll just start liking yourself more which will give you more confidence and honestly, tackle every single thing they scares you even if it's something small like going to a bar for a drink on you're own.
Basically do the work, it gets easier every single attempt and the older you get, you'll have women basically throwing themselves at/into you even.
EurasianChad 1 1y ago
100% agree with everything you're saying. Willingness to walk away at the sight of inconvenience/BS with women is extremely rare/attractive behavior. It is also the most self respecting and abundant.
95% of women who tell me are "strong & independent" are really just using that as their public mask. Upon them entering the Eurasian Chad Program, I figured out quickly they're just sensitive little girls who need a strong man to direct their life. Funny how that works.