Context: So I decided to attend this expat website's anniversary party. It was held at an open area of a hotel.

I arrive 2 hours after the start time. I approach a couple of guys straightaway to get rid of approach anxiety. I chat with them for a few minutes. Guy I started talking to first was from Chad (the country) and I am North African, so there was common ground immediately. Other guy was Russian. Guy from Chad started shitting on me pretty quick, trying to make me submit to his frame and qualify. The other guy joined in as well. All of that was over me rejecting a cigarette. I caught the vibe and left after a minute of silence and all of us scanning around.

I approach another group of guys who were way more welcoming. I was thinking before the event that If I was to chat to guys, it should only be with attractive guys. That provides social proof and it's more interesting to chat to a top guy. I approach this short middle aged chad looking guy. He is a teacher. He had 4 work colleagues with him whom all work at the same school. 3 guys and one woman. I chat for a bit with one of the other guys, a Scottish guy. He was literally gaming me. I believe he was using me as practice to entering flow state. He was getting real close to my face and was loud, but confident and social. I would keep taking a small step back. I thought he was gay. He was doing body language stuff, like touching my shoulder when emphasizing something or trying to grab my attention when I looked away for more than 2 seconds. No other guy I got introduced to later touched me beyond a handshake.

Then as I am chatting to him, I get introduced to their female colleague. We start talking. She lived in my city back in my home country. She was definitely standing closer than normal. Mind you there was a DJ. It was moderately loud . So we keeping leaning into each other's ears when speaking. I started feeling sexual energy after a few minutes. Her tone and face were flirty. She looked like she was early 40s. She was a 4. She was more fun, smiley, sexual than the average girl I would approach in day game, and her tits had me feeling some type of way. Could have touched her more and escalated more as convo went on, but I wasn't organically attracted to her as soon as I met her. I high-fived her a couple times and she put decent force doing them, pushing a bit afterwards(testing my strength?). It was more of like "I'd definitely fuck, but would never notice her existence outside this event". She mentions a kid. I ask if she's married. She tells me she has a husband who works from home, so "It's the perfect marriage" aka hotwife vibes. I made a comment about him being a lame ass and staying at home while she goes out to parties. Here, I could have said something like "I can make feel young again" at this point as she had guessed my age and playfully refused to mention hers, even though I hadn't asked. Again could have teased and touched here. Then she cuts it short, says "nice to meet you" while reaching for a handshake and leaves(not even a hug after that much proximity). I think to myself "offf, that's brutal." She got her attention and left. I never validated her in any way though (compliments, etc.).

Later, I see this ambiguous (Asian?) looking chick. She had some big titties, the best at the venue by a mile. Nice ass, an arousing figure. I was standing near the area were people were lowkey dancing. She was in that area and I caught her eyeing me a few times. The Scottish guy from earlier was talking to her and her 2 other girl friends. I shift where I am standing, she goes to where I was standing when she was eyeing me. Then a few minutes later, I approach her. She was from Dagestan(they speak Russian). The conversation was boring. I was carrying it and she was in short answers mode. I could have teased her with what little she gave away, but her vibe was closed off/not fun. She wasn't feeling me. I try to re-ignite the conversation 2 or 3 times. I ask her to tell me something interesting. She tells me she has a dog and loves playing either WOW or LOL(I don't know these nerd games). I really tried with her, way more than necessary. She gets called as she won a prize by random picking by the organizers. I ask her to dance later AFTER she started eyeing me waaay more while dancing. She was ordering a drink and said later. Barely made eye contact in this quick exchange and had that fake bitch squinty eyes smile. I saw her throughout the rest of the night getting approached many times. Scottish guy played the long game with her friend, chatting to her on 5 different occasions with breaks in between. He escalated really well, chatted to her friends. Looks like he got her number, but left and she stayed and got approached by other guys.

Going to make a part 2 for takeaways and observations from the night.