Hey fellas.
Found myself with a 20 y/o German Au Pair that I’ve been hanging with for the last two months. She comes from a religious eastern European background, so she’s very much in to a man to lead her around and traditional ideas of gender roles etc. Given that, she’s a virgin, has only had 1 bf. I tell you this cause I’m sure it differs than if she was just some hoe feeling sorry for herself.
I’ve been working my way up to being her first, taking things slow and making sure she’s comfortable. She has her reservations, but has told me she wants me to show her etc. Until then, we’ve just been doing the other stuff. I’ve been able to make her cum with ease every time, but this last time she couldn’t get there. She just started crying right in the thick of it and saying “what’s wrong with me, I feel so embarrassed, I’m not good enough for you with you having a lot of sex experience, why do you want me” etc. just big tears.
I’ve been around the insecurity lines before, but I’ve never seen full on breakdown in the middle of sex. I just had stopped and calmed her down, saying “There’s nothing to be sorry about” etc but really not doing too much talking. Just held her. She ended up calming down and I made her laugh a bit and we went to bed.
As I wrote this out, there isn’t a question that I have to ask that’s jumping out at me, just would like to hear advice on these type of comfort situations and how to keep frame the best way possible.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago Stickied
This needs to be asked in askTRP because it is a question and/or seeking feedback
kncrew2112 2y ago
My fault thought that’s where I was when I posted.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
No problem, you can just copy and paste it in there again
dongking 2y ago
This is the problem right here. You're focusing too much on making her cum. Stop caring about it at all.
Use her body for your pleasure foremost. Read the sexgod method.
kncrew2112 2y ago
This treatment doesn’t come without her pleasing me as well of course. At this time, there’s nothing that’s she’s done wrong for me to warrant my usual response of taking that away when being disrespected. You think I should pull back on that without a reason for something bad she’s done?
I’ll re look at sex god method.
Einsamer 2y ago
I'll repeat it for you:
If you feel like giving her oral or whatever, because it turns you on, do it. Don't ever do it because you think that makes it "even" or because you'll be "getting it back". That's not how it works.
You are misunderstanding: you should not pull back, you should not even start it from the beginning.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
The most important thing is that you know to offer comfort and keep frame, ie don't become a beta. Maintain attraction.
One tactic is to literally just cuddle/hug her., as you did. Obviously rational convo doesn't make any difference at all.
You can also add "I like you", and if you've been seeing her for a while "I care about you", these are usually the concerns females have at this time.
kncrew2112 2y ago
Cheers matty
AbusiveFather1 2y ago
She is a hoe. Or rather a hoe in the making. Being “religious” and Eastern European is no saving grace - take it from a guy that is from that part of the world
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Read Sex God Method. You need to think of a female orgasm as a 45 minute process. It starts with a playful slap on the ass while she's making you dinner. It goes through a slow escalation and ends with a dominant man passionately fucking the shit out of her. Once she's been trained it will be as simple as poking her with your erect penis and she jumps on you and cums. My wife takes like 2min to cum now.