I'll try spare the long intro, but I'm late 30s and only found the TRP about six months ago.
I'm nowhere near finished, and I'm half monk mode TBH - I've got so much to work on and first thing is building myself up rather than getting involved with anyone ; but the most amazing thing is my brain has gone from being broken/depressed to recovering/happier. Basically, I was a beta - too much of a people pleaser ; a cuck to women aka too nice and eventually this sent me in to a spiral of pretty much becoming a semi-recluse - not just that ; but just didn't see the joy in life at all.
Anyway, six months on and after some basic changes posture, walking up right, calm/collective and more of a relaxed manner in public e.g if I see something funny or interesting on my phone I'll show my natural emotion, even if I'm on my own. I was your average beta/nervy/jittery guy especially around women. Next time you go out, check out how many 'weak' men are out there and I was one - one of the saddest sights is beta men who are extremely drunk at closing time and you can see them thinking ''Shit, I've not even spoke to one girl'' probably their main intention of going out to party!
I would be too scared to look at a woman who might have shown an IOI, or if I did and they looked down (thought it meant they were disgusted with me). Sometimes my head would shake slightly if even someone vaguely attractive showed me some interest, or even go red! An absolute shambles really.
I haven't changed much. Just walk a bit more up tight, calm, don't rush in and tbh, try and be myself but a lot more assertive, less needy and basically stopped putting women on pedestals. I'm not that different, and still got work to do but been noticing women are a lot more flirty.
Do women somehow smell confidence? As ridiculous as that may sound, I'm not that different - just I'm not hiding away or looking at the ground as much. I might be passing shit tests more - I've noticed one woman who was slightly indifferent to me is now laughing at everything I say or do! It's not even shit tests, some strange women are even just doing things like standing or sitting close to me.
dongking 1y ago
Good job man.
Confidence is key for everything you do. Before you were a weak little boy, now you're turning into a man.
Keep working hard and watch your life improve all around.
slowlylearning1 1y ago
It's great to be here. It's amazing reading of men in their 20s thinking it's too late. It's not too late. I'm almost a boomer, I'm 40 next year, and I'm only beginning - not just women, but it's a whole new outlook on life and finally putting yourself first.
The most mindblowing thing for me is women. I've been in 3 long term relationships that of course start amazing then get boring - but being a weak man you stay because you don't think there's anything out there - 90% of my friends in high school married their high school sweetheart! And reading between the lines, many of them are deeply unhappy/unsatisfied, living really dull lives through TV.
Coming from basically depressed state to happier but still some way to go ; but seeing changes in people, handling situations and women's interest is tbh, pretty fucking mind-blowing.
Abundance is a great word. Basically boss your life, and do something you enjoy or scares you every day to keep you happy /on top of things!
No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
Welcome to the Red Pill, young brother. May your journey of 1,000 miles be fruitful.
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