I've been seeing a girl for about a month now and, although we're not exclusive, she is giving me signs that she wants me as more than just a fuck buddy. I feel there may be potential for an LTR in future but haven't yet come to a conclusion. I suspect that she's probably fucking other guys, which is fine since we're not commited, however we always usually meet on a Saturday evening.
She texts me about this weekend and asks if we can do Friday instead of Saturday so that she can "study on Saturday night and all day Sunday". Of course, I'm aware she is probably gonna fuck another guy. But I don't like how she has prioritised him over me by changing our usual Saturday meet-up, and I'm aware that I shouldn't come across as too available. Thoughts on how to handle this? Do I just meet her on Friday or tell her I've already got plans and see how she reacts?
Sorry if this post is dumb, maybe I'm overthinking it
craftsmanmindset 3y ago
There are some things you can control and some things you can't control. Don't worry about the things you can't control and focus on maintaining your frame. If you are a genuinely busy person, then you can just be honest because seeming to available (or not) will be a natural byproduct of your schedule.
You have to ask yourself - How available do you seem to her and adjust based on that?
KaiLucian 3y ago
Yeah I hear that. Thanks for the response really appreciate it man.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 3y ago
You're gonna drive yourself insane trying to catch her fucking another dude
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KaiLucian 3y ago
I did fuck another one last week, but yeah maybe I'm just getting too attached to this one and need to keep fucking more
RiverChill41 3y ago
If you want to see her Friday then do it. One shift in plans isn't a reason to build space. Don't waste your time speculating what she could be doing, you'll never know and it doesn't matter. If it does matter you need to reevaluate your feelings because they don't match the type of relationship you are in (casual).
User4566 3y ago
People in college are busy, I would know. If she does this repeatedly, then chances are she's either quite literally too busy or she's not interested. I would assume she is too busy. I take weekends off all the time to study or because I'm fatigued over the week.
No-Stress-Cat 3y ago
"I'm busy on Friday. Don't worry about it though. I'll just ask Jennifer if she wants to hang out. Enjoy your weekend!"
KaiLucian 3y ago
Hahaha I like it, but I feel like it comes across as salty
No-Stress-Cat 3y ago
It all depends on your tone. If you make it like it's no big deal, like Jennifer is like your sister or something, with that "meh, I'll just ask Jennifer" nonchalant attitude, should make her piss her panties enough to wonder if you two really are...friends or not...