I’m typing this on my break, it just happened.
HB7 that looks like a young Kirsten Dunst walks by with her friend. I pitch em our services and they stop and we talk. Can’t close on either cause friend is on her moms account and HB7 is joining family’s AT&T plan soon.
Throughout this interaction the HB7 is easy going, slowly taking off her sunglasses and holding eye contact. I feel some energy, and it’s not as obvious like the other day with the married HB7. I say that I’d like to get in touch with the account holder (mom) and the normal friend instantly suggests she gets my #. She then asks if I have a business card and I said no (we’re not allowed). Was this an attempt to get my contact info for the HB7? I ask for the moms instead and I get it.
Convos chill and I conclude it to send em on their way. They walk by one more time (not uncommon) but my side of the aisle before checking out. Made a quick comment about how the HB7 looks like Kirsten Dunst.
That was it. I guess I can’t get too frustrated cause I could’ve give them my # in addition to getting the account holder’s. I’ll do that next time and put the ball in their court. If the HB7 wants it now, she has to get it from the friends mom. My frustration is stemming from the fact I need to maintain professionalism and can’t explore IOIs on the spot. Even my supervisor said it’s not a good idea and I could get fired.
MyBoyJob 1y ago
You wont get fired. Trust me, the line you need to cross is alot further away then you think it is.
drkb 1y ago
Some chicks just like to play witj guys for fun, esp if said guys cant act on it. Example: chick walking past you with her bf smiling at you because she kniws you csnt donnothin. She woukdnt necessarily do that if she was alone because thrn yiud respond.
They are also smart enough to ALWAYS maintain olausible deniabikity. So be careful. Let her make the first move. Dont fuck up your job for an hb7. Get your horniness under control.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
There's a big difference between being friendly/flirting and pissing a woman off enough to have her make a complaint. You can even tell the women you're not allowed to use their phone info to call them because of company policy but if they want they can call/text you.
You can explore IOIs and be professional. Just use London Day game method of seeing if she'll invest in something other than a phone plan. You already have the opener covered just by being there and the women coming up to you. Next you gotta stack by complimenting their outfit or whatever, noticing something about them. Then you vibe. Then she either invests or she doesn't. https://niplav.github.io/doc/game/beginners_guide_to_daygame_torero_2018.pdf
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
In which case it doesn't matter if it's an IOI or not..... meet women outside work, and see what IOI's you get from them.
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
Work is not for fucking.
Work is for work.
If you get into that bad habit of using your job as a place to meet women, you will fuck up your money.
In my experience, you never want to mix those worlds because it undermines your ability to be effective at both.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
First of all, work isn't for fucking customers. A bit different if you're the owner of the most badass bar in town and girls wanna fuck you or you're a rockstar and paying customers wanna fuck you
Stop looking for IOIs at work, waste of time. You're just gonna face disciplinary action for these antics
Second, I think you're constantly looking for IOIs because you have no experience getting a lay. I think you're constantly scanning for what benign signs of social engagement mean because you're looking for some silver bullet sign of interest that will lead to fucking.
You're gonna drive yourself mad looking for these signs of interest where there probably aren't. And most IOIs of any significance leading to lays are going to be rather obvious, not debatable.
Stop looking for all these signs of interest, especially at work.
As a newbie the IOIs you should focus on are 1) do they want to hang out with you, and 2) so they respond well to non-platonic interactions
imtranscending 1y ago
That was lethally accurate. It's like your in my head.
Now regarding the married HB7 from other post, she was definitely interested cause of boredom and it may have fizzled out. The shit I was looking for this interaction was small and insignificant. I agree with your big picture point.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Yup, I missed out on countless lays in college because I overlooked small IOIs for magic bullets that never came
Let's analyze why married women give out so many IOIs, and why you need to stop looking into married women IOIs entirely.
1) they're locked down (theoretically) for life to one man.
They can't flirt any more with the intention for it to lead anywhere, they can't play the game any more. They're off the market. Game over. Their single days are over and they long for them again.
Flirting with men (deliberately) is their outlet for it. They are with the same man for years and can't play tybe field anymore. They have to satisfy that need by flirting
So if they flirt with you, you can't take it as meaning anything, they do it with an agenda
2) they're bored
Same as the first point, being with the same man is boring, especially because so many men decline in marriage and lose their own smv like retards. Their wives get bored.
A woman who isn't locked down would be pursuing men of her choosing. That same woman who is single might not even otherwise bother flirting with you under different circumstances because she could be getting the fill elsewhere but she can't married.
3) they feel ignored
Some times these women's husbands ignore them and they just need validation
You literally can't give a shit what signs of interest a married woman is giving you. They have fundamentally different motivations and agendas for it
That's why we keep telling you to stop looking into it.
It's not a badge of value to be hit on by a married woman. You may think that because they are married that it means they're even more interested than a single woman and that's not the case at all.
The most flirtatious women are usually married, their attention is worthless. Their lifelong commitment to another man makes them more likely, not less likely to flirt, so it's worthless to look into