Firstly, I appreciate all the advice, love and support from you people. This is not a post you guys would expect from me, nor is it one I'm proud to make. This isn't a pity post, but one of morale loss. I haven't been active lately because I've been in limbo from my move and am working 5-6 hours a day with sales and training. This instability rn has made me a little sleep deprived which could be influencing my emotions.
I know comparison is the thief of joy so I usually avoid it. However, this guy kept bragging about the bitches he pulls and how he's been going to this hispanic club and is getting with all these latinas. He also mentioned how he used to get with all these white bitches and he just stopped liking them so he prefers latinas now. He showed me a couple photos of 8s and 9s he's fucked. He's bragging about how he's "4 for 4" (4 lays in 4 days of the new year). Brags about going over to their houses to fuck as hosting them gives him "headaches" and how the boss and him chatted about how he fucks too many girls and it's impacting his work or something.
He goes to this club with the other trainer from our team, and so far their stories line up. Idk how much of this is exaggeration, but it seems legit. Just basically bragging about how he's "got game now." He also mentioned how latinas (even americanized) just prefer white dudes. I'm interested in seeing if I'd have great success as my looks and dress are surpass both my trainers. Spending time clubbing will hurt my self improvement efforts though, so no go.
Don't take this post the wrong way, I'm happy for the guy. It's just the convo went on for a half hour because I'm good at getting people to open up, and he already loves talking about himself. The longer the convo went on, the more I felt my serotonin decline. Can any of you men relate to this? Despite being a virgin, losing mental frame over this is fucking silly. I'm not sure how our conversation was able to infect me this way, but it's unhealthy. It's crazy how much power (I let) his bragging have over me. I'm currently reading Mind Hacking as I need some mental reprogramming done.
Tbh, I'm thankful for everything I have, growth and all, but it's been difficult for a long time. I've committed to giving this year my absolute all, 100% to see the kind of man I'll be by the end. I believe some day I'll have 1,000s of girls lusting for me, but it's not that time.
Thanks for reading, I'm typing this out tonight so I can wake up fresh and not think about this tomorrow.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
All love from me dude. You're doing great, ups and downs come and go. Downer periods like these are just peanuts.
As to the braggart, who gives a fuck lol. It's obviously a new big deal to him, let him enjoy it. Sounds like he's letting pussy dictate his life though. Not good.
drkb 1y ago
Only small dicks need to brag about such things.
imtranscending 1y ago
Maybe, my office is full of cocky guys with egos. I know my post is a week old, but I was closing with that guy again and he was talking about clubbing and banging hoes again. He mentioned something about how he doesn't need to worry about the motion of the ocean or something. Not sure what he said, he'll sometimes mumble and jump from idea to idea.
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
Men who have an abundance of water do not begrudge the man who has a cup.
A man who brags about having a cup only has the cup.
imtranscending 1y ago
So I don't have an abundance, clearly.
And this is suggesting he's really exaggerating his numbers or something? I mean he could a little but I doubt it. Doesn't fucking matter to me anymore.
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
Clearly it's eating you up.
But... Why?
User4566 1y ago
Maybe I should hit some hispanic clubs...
Anyways, guys who brag are usually guys who are capping hard. Sure, he may have pulled some girls here and there but guys always exaggerate their numbers.
imtranscending 1y ago
Maybe. When he asked if I was talking to any "shawtys" and I said no, he seemed surprised. "You're always talking to (name) about girls."
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
He said "shawty"?
Fucking gross. He doesn't fuck.
imtranscending 1y ago
He does though. He's just a skinny, cocky irish guy who pulls only drunk girls at hispanic clubs. Since he has been pulling he has outcome independence which further fuels his ego. They could be HB7+ and they'll still fuck him under those variables (drunk, and he's a cocky white sales guy).
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
That's no accomplishment. Drunk latinas aren't known to be hard to fuck.
imtranscending 1y ago
How are they when they're not clubbing and partying? How difficult could it be to plate or FWB one?
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
I'd advise you to stay away from them. They're fun to fuck but they aren't worth it
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
Sounds like targets the easiest sluts in the club, is picking clubs with bad reputations (let's face it, the clubs he's going to probably have accurate racial stereotypes there if there aren't really any white girls there) and he sounds like he's just running straight asshole game. Probably negs the shit out them etc.
Dude doesn't sound all that high smv, he just sounds like he's playing the game on the easiest difficulty setting and thus also probably getting the lowest reward out of it as well.
Don't compare yourself to this. He's probably not really winning all that hard in life.
imtranscending 1y ago
even the hb 7s-9s can be easy with the right racial stereotypes in place?
he is probably running asshole game, he admits he's "toxic as fuck." Is asshole game easier than other kinds of game? It seems like a lot of lower SMV men will default and become just that because it works and they like the results. They continue that behavior until it's part of them.
Assuming he's being truthful he's getting with 7s and up. How's that the lowest reward? He straight up told me he lost his virginity to a 4 and now his standards consist of "7s and up."
Arcturus 1y ago
Instead of making assumptions, why not just go and check it out? If the OP is young and inexperienced, some life experience is probably a good thing. If the girls are not worth pursuing, it's still worth getting used to talking to them and might actually take some pressure off. Observe the social dynamics there. Pick up some dance moves. If it really is super shady he's out an Uber fee to bail.
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
What are YOU doing for YOU?
imtranscending 1y ago
so much man.
Intrepid_Place53900 1y ago
First, you don't really know if he's finishing the deal with these girls, like he or she spends night at their place,etc.
second, if they do finish the deal, so what. Is that the life that you want? Want to slay as many girls as you want? Girls who are into casual sex, club girls. The girls who are typical vapid, high drama, high crazy? Sure he may just be dealing with it for a night, but do you want that?
If that's what you want, find out how to become better at slaying these girls. Hint, it's mostly good looks and a real cocky/fun attitude. It's only for a night or whatever.
If you don't really want that, find out what you do want.
Once you find out what your goals are, what you want, it's easier to block out what other people are doing. You don't have FOMO, or jealousy because, hey , what they are doing is not what I want.
I was into the club/casual scene shortly in my college days, didn't like it. didn't do anything for me personally, didn't like the girls either. They were messed up, high drama,etc. but, a lot of guys like that scene, which is fine. Maybe try it for experience? Like I said, figure out what you want. Don't be concerned or FOMO about what others are doing.
imtranscending 1y ago
Yes I'd like to be able to slay women with ease. Who wouldn't? Hoes will be hoes, we love our hoes for sex right? Now as far as only pursuing that, no. I don't want only casual sex, I wanna be able to find women who I can plate and make FWB.
While it sounds like he hasn't plated them, they'll hookup 2 or 3 times.
I agree establishing goals and priorities are huge, I'm focusing on those things. FOMO is there a little, I just wanna know what it feels like succeeding in that club scene. Some day I'll find out.
lots of women outside the clubs are also like that. Were you able to pull in the club?
My smv may be too low and the lack of friends makes going clubbing more of a grind than fun.
Intrepid_Place53900 1y ago
(were you able to pull in the club)?
yes, had no problem, my crew had some guys who were better looking than me, we just did our thing, never competed against each other.
It just didn't do anything for me. But if you haven't done it, and you want to, try it, you may like it or not.
Yes, lots of young women are vapid, high drama in general, true. I weeded out those girls quick, just not worth my effort or mental health.
I had most fun with girls who were like 6 or 7's, I could pull 8's and better so they were trying to get me/keep me. They were much more fun/chill and enthused than any of the 8 or higher girls. IMO, experience.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Oh I can totally relate. I like Asian chicks. They like tall white dudes with big dicks. It's like they're conditioned by Hollywood movies to think we are all rich, handsome, high value, and we have instant status. I never did like the big butt Latinas so never dipped my toes in that pond but when I lived in Asia I'd just walk up to a random woman on the street and we'd go fuck immediately bareback and I'd cum in her. No clue who she was or if we'd ever see each other again. I never fucked any of the women at my work but they were constantly trying to get my attention, even saying I'm handsome. Don't even get me started about the teenage girls in my classes all rubbing up on me and showing me their pussy under the desk, trying to get my contact info, hitting me up on DMs. That's a felony so I'd just blow them off but you get the idea. I won't even go into the attention I got from gay guys and ladyboys but it was there too.
imtranscending 1y ago
Butts are only half the picture. What about big tits or an hourglass figure? Can't get that with your typical | | asian body shape.
Were you a teacher over in asia, or was this during your college days?
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Yeah I just prefer Asian body types. I was teaching there. College I was in Russia. In Thailand, I believe the age of consent is like 15 and the women go for much older guys so it was socially acceptable that my 9th-12th graders would think they could date me... however, that's suicide as a teacher and illegal as an American abroad. Besides, an 18yr old Asian woman looks like a 15yr old white girl anyway so if you have a fetish with young looking women you can find plenty of adults.