So I don't drink or consume drugs, never have and I don't think that will be changing. Going to bars is the most odd/uncomfortable experience for me because I can't get into the culture.
Advice? Does not drinking make me look weak? If it does how do I overcome it?
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
Everyone respects a man with self control. If you don't want to do something, just say no and let that be the end of it.
Boosted_Arrow 1y ago
You can always say you are religious or have to take meds or sth.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
My gigaChad buddy would go into bars and order iced tea. It's no calories and looks like a mixed drink. Nobody can tell you're not drinking alcohol and the bartender is happy you're buying a drink.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
When I first started gaming at venues I purposefully didn't drink for about a month there because I wanted to learn game in an unfiltered manner. I wanted to be able approach without using alcohol as a crutch and I wanted to fully embrace approach anxiety
I still had success totally sober. Some people's drunk antics will be more annoying when you yourself are sober but it has helped me more easily spot and avoid drunk chicks when I'm sober.
Your game will vary only in the sense that you are going to have to tolerate drunken antics more than you otherwise would and the scene won't be as fun.
A lot of women are sober at bars and clubs because they either don't like to drink or are the designated drivers. So it's actually not too hard to find sober women at bars, I encounter them more than I thought I would to be honest
Lone_Ranger 1 1y ago
my favourite scenario is women is slightly drunk, but you are stone cold sober. Her signals will be so easy to read.
Typo-MAGAshiv 1 1y ago
If you don't drink, bars will be a terrible venue for you.
Grunk 1y ago
Where should I go instead?
Typo-MAGAshiv 1 1y ago
Anywhere (except work, if you have a career to lose).
If you receive IOIs, approach and talk.
It worked for me.
Lone_Ranger 1 1y ago
Disagree. Im always sober.... at bars and parties you have the upper hand. More brain power = better game. Those dudes that think they're great gane on booze? They also think they can drive better when drunk. Everyone thinks they're more skilled when they're wasted..... they're not.
Typo-MAGAshiv 1 1y ago
hah, I actually wasn't coming at it like that, but more of
A) drunk people are fucking annoying when I'm sober
B) being the only sober person at a place with alcohol makes you look like a stick in the mud (unless you're designated driver, in which case they better show you some love)
Lone_Ranger 1 1y ago
@typo-MAGA - I respectfully disagree with you on your point B above - being the only sober person does not make you look like a stick in the mud. The best lesson I learnt from my parents is that you don't need to be like everyone else. That's where real strength comes from, being confident enough to be different from the crowd. My best results in terms of pulling women has all been while totally sober, esp if every other person in the room is drunk. It actually makes you seem more interesting ...with good reason - you will be more interesting! plus you'll be able to read the signals so much better than anyone else.