Hey Fellas,
When a girl up n ghosts you, how to do you handle socials? When I see girls for the short term I almost never exchange socials, but this one girl I’d been running around for a bit had exchanged, so now that I’ve been ghosted not sure what to do.
I have not liked or watched her stories at all since so she isn’t validated by my attention.
She hasn’t liked my posts, but watches all my stories.
I understand the chances of a rekindling of emotions and us getting a few more rounds in is almost zero, but do I let this girl be tapped in to my life? Should I force her account to unfollow my private insta? Or do I completely block the ghoster and call it a day.
Some sources say let them watch how great your life is etc. others say don’t let them stay tapped and keep the mystery of what they’re missing out on.
Cheers.
wswZtyqNGQ 3y ago
The fact that you've already spent this much time thinking about the situation shows that you have an emotional issue that you need to address.
Of course you always block!
And now you also need to figure out why you're even hung up about this too. It's not really all that bad of an emotional issue, as far as they go, but it's something that's there inside you and needs to be worked on. Time to journal, reflect, introspect, bypass or defeat.
kncrew2112 3y ago
Yep I still have an ego about it. Although past me would think there would be hope, now I understand there’s relatively none.
I’m just a bot when it comes to social media. Thanks for the response.
wswZtyqNGQ 3y ago
When you can see your gains, you can see your goal. Good luck in all, brother.
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MidgetSpinner 3y ago
Block her if it helps you to get over this minor issue, but I'd just carry on as you are and ignore. She might even eventually reach out. Just be indifferent, work on your abundance and talk to other girls. Act as though she's just another random bitch on your social media, because she is.
kncrew2112 3y ago
Does being indifferent mean to not mention the ghost, but come off as a colder when she texts? Like using one lined answer etc.
I’m a situation like this does one assume attraction and go for setting up a date? Or does that mentality change after being ghosted as well as the response to being re contacted?
MidgetSpinner 3y ago
Actually being indifferent is what you really want to attain here, but since you're not able to do that right now, then you need to appear indifferent. Why even respond to her messages at all? But yeah, acting a bit colder and keeping things shorter will make you appear indifferent, just don't look butthurt while you're doing it. Keep it light, act like you're busy and unaffected. That's it, but it would be better if you were actually indifferent so as not to be playing any games.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
In terms of social media, think of it like a gossip machine for girls. If they see a bunch of other girls following you and liking your posts it's instant social proof and pre-selection. So no you shouldn't block her, just soft next her. Maybe after she see some other girls following you she'll reach out.
Hanscheezburger 3y ago
he's right, and you lose nothing. Blocking her also seems butthurt. Girls ghost all the time, you'll get used to it buddy
whytehorse2021 3y ago
I'm looking forward to the day when women get scarcity mentality and start simping. All us guys running around with multiple orbiters and friend-zoned chicks. Giving us money just for spending time with them. It all starts with infiltrating the gossip machine and poisoning it to our advantage.
Ti123 3y ago
Ignore and let her be there. Hit her up couple of months later out of nowhere with a hey, unless you have become fixated on her then block
CapableConfidence 3y ago
Ask yourself what a high value male with other options and many things going for him in his life would do. Would he care if a girl ghosts him? Would he go find her profile so he can block her from viewing his account? No, he'd be on to the next one, on to the next fun thing in his life. Her loss. Step 1 is stop spending so much time and energy thinking about this situation and her in general.